Stand Up Dude or Sucker?

[MooseMouthMthafuga]

@Toe Jay Simpson

+1


This is a catch 22. Even though the child isnt his you dont want to have them(siblings) pitted against each other because one was getting treated better than the other and if this is two girls the shyt could be a mess later on in life when they get older. If it were me I would prolly do the same thing the last thing we need is more bitter black women. Treating them the same helps them understand a good bit o things IMHO... The only thing that sucks is he is being penalized for doing the right thing with his own seed

I'm going through this right now.My baby moms had a son before we met and I've basically adopted him.I figure I have the extra income to spare, so why not? I really don't give a shyt what his moms intentions are, I'm doing it to benefit him.If she feels like she's getter over on me, she can have that.


You don't know how you'll react until you're in that situation.It's some cold shyt to be lacing your son up with nice things and taking him out to different places, while the other kid is over in the corner looking

I just looked at the lil nig and told him to hop in.I took him on like some Pac and the Outlawz type shyt.We mash as one unit now.Got a extra soldier on my team

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

^^^^good way to look at it breh. Just sad at the perpetuation of these situations.

 

[Toe Jay Simpson]

The little time he has really ain't gone influence them that much.

You can't say that for sure tho. It's a lot of us that remember that one talk, or that one time as a kid someone went the extra mile to show love. If anything kids are the ones that counts the little things whereas we let it go over our heads.

 

[Heafcliffe]

I'm going through this right now.My baby moms had a son before we met and I've basically adopted him.I figure I have the extra income to spare, so why not? I really don't give a shyt what his moms intentions are, I'm doing it to benefit him.If she feels like she's getter over on me, she can have that.


You don't know how you'll react until you're in that situation.It's some cold shyt to be lacing your son up with nice things and taking him out to different places, while the other kid is over in the corner looking

I just looked at the lil nig and told him to hop in.I took him on like some Pac and the Outlawz type shyt.We mash as one unit now.Got a extra soldier on my team

I can see how some may say that he is playing the fool for a moment or two but, in the grand scheme of things, the only thing that matters is that the other girl (or child) is benefiting (mentally/ emotionally) from this situation.

Props to the dude....

 

[Non Sequitur]

I found a picture of the guy:

Spoiler

and the deadbeat dad:

Spoiler

 

[GoPro]

Next thing you know he'll be brought up on molestation charges by a vindictive mother.

 

[Cat piss martini]

I respect dude for having that kinda heart
and maturity as a man....

little girl: catpiss i wish you were my real daddy
me: youre my baby youre just not from greatness
little girl: greatness
me: your sister is flesh of my flesh
little girl: what does that mean
me: yo father is a bum and yo mama aint shyt
little girl: love you dad
me: love you to....now go break the toys i just got you

 

[Bud Bundy]

I have a friend who has a daughter who is 6 years old. Him and the mother have not been together since his daughter was 6 months old. He has bi-weekly weekend visitation with his daughter.

His daughter's mom got involved with a new dude a year later and they had a baby (who is about 2 years younger than his daughter- another little girl). Unfortunately, her second baby father is a deadbeat and is not involved in his daughter's life in any capacity.

When he goes to pick up his daughter, he usually takes the other little girl for the weekend as well. His reasoning is that they are siblings and it isn't her fault that her dad was an assh&le. The mother of course is okay with it.

His current girlfriend is kinda concerned because she feels that the baby mother is using him and that even though he is concerned that is not his child, and that the mother needs to deal with that, not him.

You can easily tell that he genuinely cares about the other daughter. He buys her things as well and acts like a father figure to her. As far as I know, he isn't still smashing the baby mother. Is he being a stand-up dude or is he being a sucker?

dude is being stand up. little kids don't understand what is really going on.

 

[JLova]

Considered a sucker for taking care of a child who has been abandoned? Some a yall man... I fear for our future

Slaves to your own egos.

 

[Captain Crunch]

Sucker, because he could be put of CS for the other girl.

 

[Brock Landers]

As long as he doesn't sign anything and waives all parental rights he's good.

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

You can't say that for sure tho. It's a lot of us that remember that one talk, or that one time as a kid someone went the extra mile to show love. If anything kids are the ones that counts the little things whereas we let it go over our heads.

Well more times than not kids learn from what they see more than what their told, at a young age. You can stress till you're blue in the face about a subject of positivity. But them living that negative will eventually take over.

If thats th case that little girls mom should be making up for her deadbeat dad with all these love/extra mile talks.

If her mom put in that extra work she would be ok with out a dad(to a degree) and also learn how to be a strong mother.

It's to many variables to many what ifs. To me the best choice is to maximize you and yours situation. You don't always get what you give.

 

[Ohene]

That's a man right there he needs to be praised and not called a simp.
The world would be better with more like him

was thinking the same thing. Good thing, I was fearing I'd be thought of as a sucker

cant say id do it though. But then again imagine how hard itd be seeing your sister go out with her dad wondering where yours is

fukk these women man (men too). Whats with this sleeping around? Excuse my ignorance.

 

[YBE]

Funny, me and my boy was talking about this shyt last night. If one of the kid's father is not around and the other has his shyt together, buying his kid shyt all the time, taking him to Six Flags & Dave and Busters while the other brother sitting home like



I got a good heart tho. Id prolly treat the other one like mine too. Only thing Id be fearful of is ole girl trying to put me on the leash financially for the other kid (judges try to do that shyt now ). Also, this only applies if she only had another child. one. single. not multiple other kids. Also, this only applies if I ever got a single mother pregnant. I dont really date girls with kids, so Id doubt I be in the situation to begin with.

 

[Cynical Thoughts]

Considered a sucker for taking care of a child who has been abandoned? Some a yall man... I fear for our future

Slaves to your own egos.

Abandoned she got a mother.

Sucker.....yes, in his situation.

How many orphans are you caring for.

to the deadbeat dad. Not someone who isn't responsible for the child. How many orphans do you care for again.

Hes more of a sucker for not seeking custody of his child and allowing her to live with random nikkas that will not only leave them high and dry but be responsible for extra burden.

The world is run on ego. So to think without it will ultimately leave you in a compromising situation. And right now, his relationship/finances is in a compromise who knows what's next.