Stand Up Dude or Sucker?

[YBE]

I'm going through this right now.My baby moms had a son before we met and I've basically adopted him.I figure I have the extra income to spare, so why not? I really don't give a shyt what his moms intentions are, I'm doing it to benefit him.If she feels like she's getter over on me, she can have that.


You don't know how you'll react until you're in that situation.It's some cold shyt to be lacing your son up with nice things and taking him out to different places, while the other kid is over in the corner looking

I just looked at the lil nig and told him to hop in.I took him on like some Pac and the Outlawz type shyt.We mash as one unit now.Got a extra soldier on my team

Exactly....Id be "dry your snot bubbles & cmon lil nikka". Id end up treating him like mine. After reading this thread tho, I have to SERIOUSLY reconsider my position if she got pregnant again. bytch got me fukked up

Women think they funny. Because they can always fall back on the "I never asked you to do shyt for my other son" card when they know how fukked up it is to be buying new shyt all the time for one while the other one looking sadder than a muthafukka cuz he aint get shyt. So yea....if she got pregnant again, Id be ready to straight kidnap my son on some Poetic Justice shyt

 

[JLova]

Abandoned she got a mother.

Sucker.....yes, in his situation.

How many orphans are you caring for.

to the deadbeat dad. Not someone who isn't responsible for the child. How many orphans do you care for again.

Hes more of a sucker for not seeking custody of his child and allowing her to live with random nikkas that will not only leave them high and dry but be responsible for extra burden.

The world is run on ego. So to think without it will ultimately leave you in a compromising situation. And right now, his relationship/finances is in a compromise who knows what's next.

His daughter will grow up with the other kid. Those kids will be linked forever. Dude recognizes this and is looking after that other child. That will only improve his own child's life.

If we had more "suckers" like him, maybe our community wouldn't be in as fukked up as it is.

He's a stand up guy and is being vilified for it. Typical anti-woman Coli

 

[Maschine_Man]

"All this is going to affect his real daughter cause her sister doesn't have a dad" is the mothers problem. You can't tell an adult what to do but if they fukk up you willing to burden you self w/their mistake for 18 years.

What if she gets pregnant again by this deadbeat dude?

It's not the mothers problem, his his daughters problem

 

[thegreatest]

He sounds like a good man with his heart in the right place. So long as he has the money to spare, why not take her out and make her feel good? It's just a human thing to do. I've done that for kids I have no relation to.

Of course if he can't afford it it's a problem and he shouldn't let the other girl on, explain he's not her father, etc when she's a bit older.. But this really is just the right thing to do.

 

[Gus Money]

Sounds like a stand-up dude to me. Its not the daughter's fault that her dad bailed and her mom doesn't make the best decisions. I've got a soft spot for kids so I'd probably do the same thing if I was in that situation.

 

[JLova]

Sounds like a stand-up dude to me. Its not the daughter's fault that her dad bailed and her mom doesn't make the best decisions. I've got a soft spot for kids so I'd probably do the same thing if I was in that situation.

Exactly. It's about the child. Why should the child have to pay for her parents ineptitude? Some dudes are way too stuck on punishing the mother at the expense of the child. shyt makes no sense to me.

 

[Wildin]

I guess these are the days we should applaud this man, give him and award and throw him a parade. He's not doing anything special by taking the other little girl but he's not going out of his way to be father of the year either. Its just a nice gesture.

I mean he's taking one kid, why not take the other? Spite? Because biologically its not his? He can't spare the change for another happy meal?

Its just one of those things that go together. Like if you have 2 dogs, you let them both out to use the bathroom at 5am, dont let one out and let the other shyt on the floor. If your having dinner with your girl and ya'll finish and you rinse your plate in the sink you rinse hers as well. There might be a time your just gonna run up in the store for a blunt and decide you know what I want a 40, your nikka or your girl is with you as well, instead of goin out and asking for permission you cop another 40 like here homie/boo.

These arent stand up things just customary.

 

[Pool_Shark]

fukk all these people and their sucker talk. He's doing a good thing and helping his daughter and the little girl at the same time. People spend so much time worrying about themselves and what's best for them, it's good to know there are people that can put selfish thoughts to the side to help a little kid. It's not his responsibilty, he doesn't have to do it, but props for doing it anyway

My cousin has a son. His dad got shot a few years ago and you should see how crazy the little kid used to be. We used to hang out all the time and it was weird to see how happy the kid was to hang out with an adult male. Now he goes to school and his moms moved away but I still see him from time to time and it's a trip how much he misses his dad. Doesn't help that my cousin can't stop popping out kids from different dads either

Anyway who cares about that sucker stuff, he should just do what he feels is right and as long as it's not hurting his pockets let his daughter have a good relationship with her sister.

 

[OG_StankBrefs]

As much as i wanna give dood props for bein a stand up dood.....iiiiii just feel like his BM is takin advantage of him wit dat shyt too for some reason. I dunno breh dat's a tough one.

 

[Atlrocafella]

I have to this guy, its not an obligation for him and it comes from a good place. He has to make sure he doesnt get trap tho

He is a standup guy for that, but there is a fine line he needs to be careful not to cross. In the eyes of the court, they could hit him with ultimately being responsible for the child that is not his.

 

[Doobie Doo]

I can't knock the man because it seems his intentions are pure. However this is America and the family court system has a way of taking nice guys such as this and taking advantage of their kindness. If something bad were to go down between dude and his kids mom she make a whole lotta claims that the court will support. She can claim that because he is like a father to the second child she should get childsupport and the court will grant it because there are stories like this of men who dated single mothers moved them in there house and then broke up with them only to be forced to pay child support due to the whole best interest of the child statement. Morally I think what he's doing is cool, but legally its gonna bite him in the ass, mark my words cuz it always happens to nice guys like him.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

I have a friend who has a daughter who is 6 years old. Him and the mother have not been together since his daughter was 6 months old. He has bi-weekly weekend visitation with his daughter.

His daughter's mom got involved with a new dude a year later and they had a baby (who is about 2 years younger than his daughter- another little girl). Unfortunately, her second baby father is a deadbeat and is not involved in his daughter's life in any capacity.

When he goes to pick up his daughter, he usually takes the other little girl for the weekend as well. His reasoning is that they are siblings and it isn't her fault that her dad was an assh&le. The mother of course is okay with it.

His current girlfriend is kinda concerned because she feels that the baby mother is using him and that even though he is concerned that is not his child, and that the mother needs to deal with that, not him.

You can easily tell that he genuinely cares about the other daughter. He buys her things as well and acts like a father figure to her. As far as I know, he isn't still smashing the baby mother. Is he being a stand-up dude or is he being a sucker?

He's a stand up guy. I couldn't let my daughter's sister completely go astray just because she was not from my loins. As a man, he saw a need and fulfilled it. That's how men lead

His current chick on the other hand is just probably upset cause she feels that extra he does for his baby's sister, should be directed towards her. Women be selfish like that.

 

[Sharp]

Funny, me and my boy was talking about this shyt last night. If one of the kid's father is not around and the other has his shyt together, buying his kid shyt all the time, taking him to Six Flags & Dave and Busters while the other brother sitting home like



I got a good heart tho. Id prolly treat the other one like mine too. Only thing Id be fearful of is ole girl trying to put me on the leash financially for the other kid (judges try to do that shyt now ). Also, this only applies if she only had another child. one. single. not multiple other kids. Also, this only applies if I ever got a single mother pregnant. I dont really date girls with kids, so Id doubt I be in the situation to begin with.

She didn't have any kids when she met him. Remember, his daughter is older than the other child.

Daughter- 6
Other Child- 4

 

[Atlrocafella]

I can't knock the man because it seems his intentions are pure. However this is America and the family court system has a way of taking nice guys such as this and taking advantage of their kindness. If something bad were to go down between dude and his kids mom she make a whole lotta claims that the court will support. She can claim that because he is like a father to the second child she should get childsupport and the court will grant it because there are stories like this of men who dated single mothers moved them in there house and then broke up with them only to be forced to pay child support due to the whole best interest of the child statement. Morally I think what he's doing is cool, but legally its gonna bite him in the ass, mark my words cuz it always happens to nice guys like him.

Cosign, that's why I said he should be very careful on how he walks this line..The court could potentially fukk his good intentions up..


Not to mention homie has a girlfriend who he would possibly start another family with.

 

[True Blue Moon]

I agree with ya'll but let's play devil's advocate. Let's say she pops out another one. So if the buck stops at one kid, you're gonna scoop up two kids for the next 18 years and leave the baby girl/boy home crying while their other siblings are eating good off Six Flags, movies and bowling?

It's such a demonic slippery slope