It's tradition because they are "giving you away"
"Step" dad posts on Facebook why he won't pay for daughters wedding anymore
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Not all the time. It's a white man's tradition.
But, on another note, you don't have to have a lavish wedding. Doesn't matter if you are athiest, Christian, Muslim, Jewish, etc. Weddings have been become big business. Florists, bakers, limos, gown, tuxedo, DJs, band, etc. People are dropping tens of thousands of dollars on an event that is around 4 to 8 hours long. It's crazy. The people with more money have more lavish weddings. I've been to weddings where the guests took a charter bus from the church to the wedding reception. I've been to wedding where you just walk from the church to an indoor basketball court connected to the church that they converted to a reception hall.
Cash money. All down the drain for a one day event.
I'm a grown ass woman, I'm giving myself away. LOL.
fukk tradition. Finna spend that 20k half on a kickass wedding vacation and the other half on a place.
I'll hold a BBQ for my reception
Yep.
White folks get the edge cause they understand speaking well and behaving well allows you to run in better circles.
I agree, I'll pay for my own shyt. I want a big ass wedding thoughI'm a grown ass woman, I'm giving myself away. LOL.
fukk tradition. Finna spend that 20k half on a kickass wedding vacation and the other half on a place.
I'll hold a BBQ for my reception
this is the post ... Duke is the ultimate SIMP ass nikkas. This goes beyond what uncle Phil did for Will
STEP-DAD PULLS OUT OF FUNDING DAUGHTER'S WEDDING AT LAST MINUTE. BUT HIS BEASUNING IS HEABTBBEAKING.
My step—daughter will be getting married on November 3rd. The wedding planning has consumed most of her and her mother's life (I say her mother because we aren't married, though we've lived together for 10 years) for the past six months.
My step—daughter graduated last December from University. I paid for her to go to college, though it was a state school, it still ran $40K. She does not have a job and has been living with us for the duration of her college career and since her graduation. I also bought her a car to get back and forth from school when she finished high school.
From time to time her deadbeat father would pop into her life and she would fawn all over him. Although he has not contributed a cent to her education or paid any child support, though that is my girlfriend's fault as c.s. was not part of the settlement, she still loves him and wants him in her life. He stays long enough to break her heart by skipping town and breaking some promise that he made her.
The wedding venue holds 250 people max. I gave them a list of 20 people that I wanted invited, you know, since Iwas paying for everything. They told me that was no problem and they'd take care of it. So I let these people know they'd be getting an invite and they should save the date. Saturday, I saw one of my friends on this list at the golf course and asked if he was coming. He told me that he wasn't invited. He told me that he got an announcement, but not an invitation. He had it in his back seat (along with probably six months of mail) and showed it to me. Sure enough, it was just an announcement, and my name was nowhere on it. It had her dad's name and her mom's name and not mine.
This led to a pretty big fight with my GP, as I found out that NONE of my list of twenty "made the cut" for the final guest list because "250 people is very tight.‘I I was pissed, but not a hell of a lot I could do because the important people in my life had already been offended. My GF said "if some people didn't rsvp yes, I might be able to get a couple people in," But that is an ultimate slap in the face in my opinion, So, Iwas boiling on Saturday.
Yesterday, we had a Sunday dinner with the future in—law's family and us and a surprise guest, the "Real Dad." At this little dinner my step—daughter announced that her "Real Dad" was going to be able to make it to her wedding and that now he'd be able to give her away. This was greeted with a chorus of "Oh how great" and "How wonderful"s.
I don't thinkI have ever felt so angry and so disrespected. I was shaking I took a few seconds to gather my composure, because I honestly wasn't sure if I would cry or start throwing punches or both. Once I was sure I'd be able to speakI got up from my chair and said I'd like to make a toast. I can't remember exactly what I said but the gist of it was this:
"I'd like to make a toast." The sound of spoons against glasses ring in my years. "It has been my great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past ten years." Awe, how sweet. "At this point in my life I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to bride and groom, because they have opened my eyes to something very important." Confident smiles exchanged. "They have showed me that my position in this family is not what I once thought it was." And now a glimmer of confusion and shock begins to spread on the faces in the room. "Though I once thought of myself as the patriarch or godfather of the family, commanding great respect and sought out for help in times of need, it seems instead that I hold the position of an ATM, good for a stream of money, but not much else. As I have been replaced as host, both on the invitations and in the ceremony, I am resigning my financial duties as host to my successor, Real Dad. So cheers to the happy couple and the path they have chosen." I finished my drink. "You all can let yourselves out."
Is this selfish? I'm supposed to shell out 40 — 50 grand for a wedding that I can't invite anyone to? That I am not a part of? I'm so done with this crap. I'm done with my step—daughter, I'm done with my GF. I transferred the money out of our joint account last night. (she has not had a job since she moved in with me) This morning I called all the vendors I had written checks to for deposits to refund my money. At present it looks like I'll lose around 1500, for the venue, but the other vendors have been great about refunding.
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why this nikka paying college tuition and you ain't even marry the moms?
Maybe he didn't want to have to pay spousal support. Either way he probably knew he's been getting played for the past 10 years and finally had enough.
I read this shyt a couple of years ago already. probably nothing more than revenge porn by some dude who wishes he would have had the guts to make that toast.
Verbal Kint
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thats why I cant mess with single moms man, the kids will never see you as the equal to their parent. and then the real pops always there looking at you likeI shot that club up in its prime, you getting the left overs.
Not always true. Sounds like the real problem is he locked down a chick that looked at him like
and never respected him anyway. Then he spent money on an ungrateful daughter. With my own kids I'm not spending a dime on them if they're acting like they're owed something
Where is the link on this? I highly doubt he was able to only lose 1500 bucks on a 50k wedding he was footing the bill for.
It wasn't. They were blood relatives. In this instance they wasn't. Even if that was his niece that's going way above and beyond.
Unless the guy is a writer and trying to get a book deal I doubt this is fake. Too much pain in those words and too well though out. Either way the burden of proof falls on you
shyt like this happens every day though. I've seen it and almost went through it with an ex. The kid was 4 though and we were only together for 2 years.
as I said, I read that story a couple of years ago already.Unless the guy is a writer and trying to get a book deal I doubt this is fake. Too much pain in those words and too well though out. Either way the burden of proof falls on you
shyt like this happens every day though. I've seen it and almost went through it with an ex. The kid was 4 though and we were only together for 2 years.
Google it and found a thread on another forum from 2013 "Step-Daughter" Wedding situation [Archive] - Actuarial Outpost:
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and here is the orginal reddit thread: My step-daughter wants her "Real Dad" to give her away • /r/offmychest
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IN. please update!
Wife single moms and rear their kids as your own, till bum ass baby daddy pops up at the wedding and says I'll take it from here 
verbalkint
I see you niccas...
That nicca legend. I would've been at that reception.....
