I agreed with his message until that last minute. Bitter baby mamas, in general, are an issue. And I’ve seen the scenario play out on both sides. I’ve known women and currently even have friend that is definitely bitter and won’t let the breh see his child and got her POV and I’ve seen the other side of the scenario, in how it’s impacted a couple of Brehs who’s baby mama would never let them see the kids. Its very toxic, and cautionary tale for anyone that has a child with someone he can’t see himself with the rest of his life.
One thing that parents have to recognize is that kids listen to what you say and remember things you say especially if it’s a message that relates to the child. I always recognized this with my own situation, no matter how much we got into it, I would never talk ish about him to my fam and especially not in front of my son. I don’t talk about men at all in front of my son. I don’t bring my son over my friends houses anymore for that reason either. As I’ve noticed that with my friends when we get together as a group, that the conversations being had don’t have that awareness, even when their kids are in the next room. Conversations about having sex with brehs, talking shyt about men, letting Brehs do sleepovers at your house when they aren’t your man—all of those things make impressions on kids that are impressionable.
But it’s not just bw. I’ve seen these situations take place with others too. I think it’s important that people recognize how game changing children are—you have to be willing to put aside differences, make sacrifices, and think more carefully about what you do and say, and what your modeling when it comes to your children.
anyways bitterness will make even the sweetest shyt taste sour—if you have a lot to loose, then you must act like it.
In his case he didn’t. Thankfully he’s spreading his cautionary tale to other brehs.
He stated nothing but facts but I'm not going to go deeper but my mother was the first black women that I heard say black men anit shyt ....I'm leave it at that cause he could have went deeper .
One thing that parents have to recognize is that kids listen to what you say and remember things you say especially if it’s a message that relates to the child. I always recognized this with my own situation, no matter how much we got into it, I would never talk ish about him to my fam and especially not in front of my son. I don’t talk about men at all in front of my son. I don’t bring my son over my friends houses anymore for that reason either. As I’ve noticed that with my friends when we get together as a group, that the conversations being had don’t have that awareness, even when their kids are in the next room. Conversations about having sex with brehs, talking shyt about men, letting Brehs do sleepovers at your house when they aren’t your man—all of those things make impressions on kids that are impressionable.
But it’s not just bw. I’ve seen these situations take place with others too. I think it’s important that people recognize how game changing children are—you have to be willing to put aside differences, make sacrifices, and think more carefully about what you do and say, and what your modeling when it comes to your children.
anyways bitterness will make even the sweetest shyt taste sour—if you have a lot to loose, then you must act like it.
In his case he didn’t. Thankfully he’s spreading his cautionary tale to other brehs.