Successful Black Men on Thecoli, Do Ya'll Ever Get to The Point Where You Don't Have to Deal with the BS?

[Guess Who]

Seem like throughout history the masses never really catch on. It's always a small group of people. In the scriptures, you see verses about being in the world but not of it. Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it.

I know in a lot of archaic societies you had secret cults and groups that had a lot of knowledge as it pertains to science, medicine, history, philosophy, math, etc. While the masses were stuck on entertainment.

Earl in that video talks about man's biggest problem is many simply don't think. A lot of cats never take the time to cultivate their minds, they rather just follow along with everyone else. So what you said here is really profound.

Haha I dunno if it was that profound but I’ll take it. Appreciate it breh.

But you’re right—most people don’t think. I noticed this in high school and it frustrated the fukk outta me cuz all my homies thought about was basketball, music and girls…nobody was thinking about their future, the world, identity, personal development etc. I was definitely on a different wavelength (even tho I was a semi serious baller and rapper).

Going back to successful people though—one of the traits of successful people is investing time in high yield actions. Everything successful people do has a high ROI. So if your average person isn’t focused or doesn’t have a vision, a successful person will hi and bye those folks. But if you can demonstrate that you have ambition, drive AND a vision—they’ll carve out time in their calendar for you.

One of the biggest misconceptions about successful people is that they don’t give back or help people. Nah, they do. They’re just extremely specific about who they help. But when they do help they provide lots of it. Your job is showing that you’re deserving of that time and help.

 

[ViShawn]

This is one of the reasons I started to post on thecoli it's hard finding folk in real life on the same wave.

I like listening to Earl Nightingale and he talks about being in the top 5%.

And the top 5% is basically the group of folks that do not conform or follow the crowd.


People were still jealous though you were being humble?

It may just be my demeanor etc. It's not everyone. I rarely face jealousy but I do encounter some of those types.

 

[Mowgli]

Who's the targeted audience for this thread.

So, this thread is addressed to all of my successful brehs on here. And by successful, I mean brothas on here who are living the life they mapped out for themselves not a life that got handed to them. Dudes who had to hustle, grind, overcome adversity after adversity. Guys who didn't let their circumstances shape their life. Whether that's having your dream career, business, lifestyle, woman or all of the above. Furthermore, it's an added bonus if you're a brotha and was able to avoid the baby momma drama, child support traps, alimony payments and incarceration.


A Little About Myself and The Thread Topic Question.

I'm in my mid-twenties so I guess I'm considered a "Zillennial" a cross between Gen-Z and Millennial. But to the older cats on here I just want to know does this shyt ever end? Do you ever get to the point where you can just relax and not have to deal with c00ns, thots, bedwenches/BMATs, mommas boys, the white man, gossipers, racism and discrimination, etc?

Spoiler: Backstory on What inspired the thread.

Backstory on what Inspired the thread.

I just got a new job and since I been grinding, I'm blowing pass all my coworkers and received a promotion, I have more IT certs then some of the supervisors. And the managers in my departments are hinting at me getting a leadership role. That's great but you know with success comes haters so my coworkers in my last department mainly two single moms were lowkey hating, especially the day after our busiest day were my manager's manger was contacted and was informed about my performance. I think one was hating because she wanted to be further along in her career but had to put school off because she got pregnant by some bum dude. They told me I was working too hard. And that they were going to get cut if I didn't slow down. I've been hearing "I'm working too hard" since I was in primary school getting straight A's and being put into gifted programs. But now fast forward to this new role I'm in and it's a pot belly, red hair, hairy, balding cac already hating. I'm like bruh, again with this crap?

My first day on the job and this insecure walking bean bag chair talking about
"Yeah, you have all those certs but that doesn't mean anything in IT."

"You don't talk much, makes me feel like you're hiding something."

"Oh, Chinese food is your favorite food you ever eat hot sauce with that?"

"Those are big muscles I see you like to work out."

If I could thanos snap all the cacs, c00ns, thots, racism, and discrimination out of the world I would do so honestly.

No man. Work. Never ends. Struggle never ends. Pain ever ends. Drama never ends. Most days will be the good days you make them. Just don't lie, and keep your own foolishness from biting you in the ass and all u'll have to worry about is the curve. And you gonna die when it's all said and done. Good luck. It never ends

 

[DLo]

Great thread

The best professional advice I ever got was after I got my first promotion into management. People (work friends & co-workers) started acting funny and I didn't know how to deal with it. I talked to another manager about it and he asked me "Are you here to make friends or are you here to make money?" I hit him with the but he was right and I never looked back. I'm currently an exec and while it is hard (expectations are high) the job is still satisfying. I mentor a lot of black men and women coming up the corporate ladder and have been able to help a some get opportunities.

OP you will have to do some soul searching and figure out how much responsibility you want to take on. If they like you (and it sounds like they do) they will put a rocket on your back. So just be ready to answer when they start asking those questions.