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The Awkward, Black Boy Nerd and Why He Deserves a Chance
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I reread it and it still is true.
You understand what being a nerd requires since you know unapologetic nerds who get women as said by yourself.
What I was clearly saying is that guys that are considered "nerdy" or geeky don't have to do anything more that I have to do as a "regular" brotha
How much more game are they forced to have other than washing, socializing and whatever else I wrote?
I maintain that they don't have to do anything special in order to approach black girls and women
LadySimone
Banned
I'm talking early 20s. I don't expect a 21 year old to be looking for a man or woman with a mortgage and a 401k.
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
Getting these women to look past your nerdy interests is a big step that normal black men dont have to go through.
All of that you mention is what they and you both do but the step I mention is something that they go through that you dont.
Which makes it more effort on their part to get women.
Oh cuz I swore from our last convo about good black men you told me that in your experience you havent met any.
VFib
All Star
Noone is stopping you from seeking them out. Well known how? Do you want them to have an IG? FB? so you can find them? Then you'd complain that nerds, too, were getting too much attention.
Too much whining going on here. Especially for someone who claimed to get alot of girls because he was tall and light skinned.
b_priest9mm
A work in progress...
What if you're a swole, semi-nerdy type? 
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
They do actually, they have to get the black women in question to ignore their nerdy interests. Its an extra step they have to take that normal dudes dont.
Its a big step that adds to what they have to do to get said women.
Yet when they have kid which is usually around that age it would be beneficial for them to be mature.
The bold is what i'm asking too breh.
Can some brehettes replay to this question?
If a guy approaches you and you find out he has nerdy hobbies/occupation, do you raise your standards for what he has to bring to the table?
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
The ones who this applies to wont admit it.The bold is what i'm asking too breh.
Can some brehettes replay to this question?
If a guy approaches you and you find out he has nerdy hobbies/occupation, do you raise your standards for what he has to bring to the table?
Chick in the OP did.
oh lord, yeah i walked right into that one.
but i clarified what i meant by "good black men" was meeting a specific criteria that i was looking for, both of these men are divorced with children
Solo ✧✦✧
King of the eXoticals. "FIRsT and LAst wARNiNg"
The strange thing about this is the fact that many of peoples problems with finding a suitable partner could be avoided if they simply were interested in people they had things in common with. People care too much about what others think instead of simply being themselves. Why would a woman that wants to marathon documentaries, Harry Potter and Game of Thrones want a "thug"? This woman took until her 30's to finally think for herself instead of relying on society and entertainment to decide what she's attracted to? If she simply accepted who she was from the start and could think for herself then she would have figured out what she wanted a long time ago. People come off as idiots many times since they can't even grasp the concept of attraction and really can't even think for themselves.
I don't understand why people in this society obsess about nerds and thugs anyway. What about the range in between? Every one doesn't fit into a nerd or thug category. Every time these type of discussions are done it's the same things being said. "Nerds want instathots instead of women on their level" How do you know? I'm sure all of these nerds aren't going for those type of women but whatever. Offline there's more options than just nerds, thugs and instagram models but that seems to be all I hear about online.
I don't understand why people in this society obsess about nerds and thugs anyway. What about the range in between? Every one doesn't fit into a nerd or thug category. Every time these type of discussions are done it's the same things being said. "Nerds want instathots instead of women on their level" How do you know? I'm sure all of these nerds aren't going for those type of women but whatever. Offline there's more options than just nerds, thugs and instagram models but that seems to be all I hear about online.
Blackout
just your usual nerdy brotha
oh lord, yeah i walked right into that one.
but i clarified what i meant by "good black men" was meeting a specific criteria that i was looking for, both of these men are divorced with children
Can we dig deeper on this. What are nerdy interest?
I went to a nerdy school for computer engineering
-I build servers for fun/money
-I write short stories and poetry
-I do digital art as my biggest hobby
-I write java applets and powershell scripts to make my work life easier
-I listen to classical music when I code
Are these nerdy interest?
No women I have ever talked to has seen these as a turnoff. Maybe its because its not ALL that I do, I also go to basketball/football games, go out to eat, go out to party, go to concerts, etc.
I dunno what to tell you. Maybe one day a girl will come up to me and say "You like to draw? ewwwww fakkit
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The moral of the story...stay in your lane. The reality is that females have way more to lose by not doing so though. "Bu...bu...but guys do it" is the worst fallacy ever perpetrated and far too many females buy it.
Because they're fake, corny and they go by what they are conditioned to think black men are like and what black women want
They see a black chick and they try to morph into a "Tyrone" or whatever, and they aren't getting play
If they took the time and talked face to face with black chicks, they might find out that she's interested in some of the same shyt
Coulda had a chick interested in esotericism or some other wild geeky shyt like him, but he went and played himself trying to come at her like she was a thot
The only way to get a better perspective of someone is to actually talk to them instead of just being prejudice and lurking in the cut looking hungry
