The friend zone is a myth

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

I disagree with whoever said it's a bad idea to have her see you out with other females..

You have misjudged how jealous women are. If you are pulling girls that can compete with her in looks, that changes her whole perception on some "what am I missing?" type shyt..

All of a sudden you start looking like to her especially if she's tired of this guy she's with.

Then she comes up to you and you don't have time for her..

 

[kevm3]

A couple of cats came real with it when they said it's not even the friend zone because friendship is mutual and it is also not built on false pretenses, so both sides are wrong. The dude is trying to sneak onto something more and she is just utilizing a dude who she knows she won't ever elevate to a higher level with her with giving the minimum in return.

Negroes be out here trying to build her websites, burning her cds, pumping up her head, telling her she should model and taking pics for her, and being that dude that tries to 'put her up on game.' "Girl don't mess with no guys that don't really appreciate you. Cats out chea building these women bears for their birthday and getting nothing in return on theirs... they sit and listen to her whine about her so-called abusive boyfriend for hours and then she's right back with that dude 2 days later. Then the kid tries to talk to her about his problems, and all of a sudden she has things to do and needs to get ghost. That ain't no friendship zone. That's the failure zone...

ou got one dude who took a loss and refuses to let it go and then you got the woman who sees a treasure trove of low cost benefits and she maxes him out... and when this ol' sneaky negro gets tired of doing all of this for no return, he's going to go out and get mad and talk bad about her. Naw mane, if you want to mess with a woman on that other level, that man and woman level and she ain't feeling you, pick up your bags and keep it moving to another one that is. ALl of that lingering around and trying to show her your worth so that one day she will eventually choose you is some follower behavior. She's NOT that important for you to be hanging around, getting bitter when she told you what it was and trying to trick your way into her vagina. Talking to other girls in front of her to make her jealous and all of that is some vindictive behavior. I see a lot of cats talking about don't put women on pedestals, but doing something like that is doing exactly that. Get up, talk to other women because you actually want to spend time with someone that is interested in you and not to try to creep up inside a woman who wasn't feeling you.

I call that the failure zone because today we use way too many soft euphemisms to cover up what things really are. Ain't no real friendship there. Ain't no real winning there. Ain't no real reason for a man to allow himself to accept that kind of deal, and there sure ain't no reason for no man to be playing ninja and trying to stealth himself into a woman's life. If you trying to be friends with a woman, let that be genuine friendship. If you are trying to go solo and be in a relationship with that woman, learn to accept when one doesn't accept you, thank her for not wasting your time, and keep it pushing for the one that's really ready to get down for you.

 

[CrimsonTider]

The friend zone is nothing more then a ego booster for women. You are basically the boyfriend without getting any p*ssy. It is called the friend zone because you never move past that stage. Most of us are not in the friend zone with a woman that rejected us openly. We are in the friend zone with a woman that will let you do everything but fukk

I disagree, the friendzone is more of a women nicely rejecting a dude.

Why would a women get a ego boost from rejected someone she is not attracted to? That's a natural thing to do.

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Now yall mad alot of strong points on why the "friendzone" is not real and i agree with all of yall. nikkas wont read or understand the nonverbal signs the chick is throwing and keep going in. But to say in 2012 that these chicks out here aint playing with nikkas emotions and toying with feelings is BULLshyt

Like I said man... unless you hit or actually staked a claim there is no reason for a man to be in aposition for a chick to play w/his emotions

I know chicks now with teams full of nikkas on the sidelines waiting to get called up when their man screws up or does something they like. And YES, these dumb nikkas are stupid for putting themselves in the situation. But sometimes, not all the time but sometimes, chicks wont even reject a nikka to keep him around on some "in case of an emergency dikk".

She doesn't keep him around, he stays around. And what kind of dude fukks with a chick with a roster of sideline nikkas???? nikkas do it to themselves!!!

We can call it the "failure zone" or whatever but to say the shyt dont exist is something i cant back. I know nikkas in the friendzone who have NOT been rejected and all the signs are good but the bytch keeps toying around with them and theyve caught feelings and dont want leave

Nobody is saying it doesnt exist, just that its not completely the chick's doing.

I put it like this man. Say you met a chick, she was down to fukk, cook, clean, put gas in your car, re up your Boost Mobile minutes and all that, but didn't give a shyt if you fukked w/other girls or had a main chick, and wouldn't do anything to fukk up your other situations. Would you pass on that? If you had a legit wifey, HOPEFULLY, but if not,

A friend zone dude is basically a jumpoff for women. How can you blame the women for taking on such a sweet deal?????? nikkas do it to themselves man 100%

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

I disagree with whoever said it's a bad idea to have her see you out with other females..

You have misjudged how jealous women are. If you are pulling girls that can compete with her in looks, that changes her whole perception on some "what am I missing?" type shyt..

All of a sudden you start looking like to her especially if she's tired of this guy she's with.

Then she comes up to you and you don't have time for her..

If you could pull girls with her looks, you would fukk with them, and not be waiting in her friend zone.

 

[WaveCapsByOscorp™]

A couple of cats came real with it when they said it's not even the friend zone because friendship is mutual and it is also not built on false pretenses, so both sides are wrong. The dude is trying to sneak onto something more and she is just utilizing a dude who she knows she won't ever elevate to a higher level with her with giving the minimum in return.

Negroes be out here trying to build her websites, burning her cds, pumping up her head, telling her she should model and taking pics for her, and being that dude that tries to 'put her up on game.' "Girl don't mess with no guys that don't really appreciate you. Cats out chea building these women bears for their birthday and getting nothing in return on theirs... they sit and listen to her whine about her so-called abusive boyfriend for hours and then she's right back with that dude 2 days later. Then the kid tries to talk to her about his problems, and all of a sudden she has things to do and needs to get ghost. That ain't no friendship zone. That's the failure zone...

ou got one dude who took a loss and refuses to let it go and then you got the woman who sees a treasure trove of low cost benefits and she maxes him out... and when this ol' sneaky negro gets tired of doing all of this for no return, he's going to go out and get mad and talk bad about her. Naw mane, if you want to mess with a woman on that other level, that man and woman level and she ain't feeling you, pick up your bags and keep it moving to another one that is. ALl of that lingering around and trying to show her your worth so that one day she will eventually choose you is some follower behavior. She's NOT that important for you to be hanging around, getting bitter when she told you what it was and trying to trick your way into her vagina. Talking to other girls in front of her to make her jealous and all of that is some vindictive behavior. I see a lot of cats talking about don't put women on pedestals, but doing something like that is doing exactly that. Get up, talk to other women because you actually want to spend time with someone that is interested in you and not to try to creep up inside a woman who wasn't feeling you.

I call that the failure zone because today we use way too many soft euphemisms to cover up what things really are. Ain't no real friendship there. Ain't no real winning there. Ain't no real reason for a man to allow himself to accept that kind of deal, and there sure ain't no reason for no man to be playing ninja and trying to stealth himself into a woman's life. If you trying to be friends with a woman, let that be genuine friendship. If you are trying to go solo and be in a relationship with that woman, learn to accept when one doesn't accept you, thank her for not wasting your time, and keep it pushing for the one that's really ready to get down for you.

this is exactly how i feel about it. that's why i don't even worry about that whole shyt. it something happens, then it happens. and when it happens, it happens. no need in waiting around for something to pop off...

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

If you could pull girls with her looks, you would fukk with them, and not be waiting in her friend zone.

Where did I say you are waiting? It's called moving on. A lot of women are insecure with how they look. It's easy to exploit. You may find this girl more attractive than the ones you are bringing around her but she won't look at it that way.. a lot or women view "skinny" as attractive, for example. You're not waiting. You are doing what you do and at the same time making her think twice about her decision. It's win-win. She may very well come around. If not, it doesn't matter. You're playing their game without really playing.

 

[JMurder]

As a woman I agree with the bold.

Meaning: A man will know you're not interested but in the back of his mind will attempt to prey upon your weaknesses in the guise of friendship.

Once I told a few of my male acquaintances I was pregnant not only did they drop me like a bad habit, I was accused of being a whore who lied about my 5+ years of celibacy

Friend zone = one day she'll crack and let me hit that if I stick around long enough

sounds like you're a terrible judge of character

 

[gameover82]

lol they should rename friend zone failure zone. Let's just call it what it is. Negroes get shot down and try to linger around trying to supersize their current consolation status. Then they go try and talk to other women and make sure his 'bud' notices and tries to do other specific things just to try to get the attention of the woman that rejected them on that 'look at how desired I am, don't you want to mess with me now??" tip. Man, get up off that woman. The best solution is to stop wasting energy on a woman that ain't trying to mess with you like that because there are ones that are.

fukk a steve harvey..you the one that needs a book deal

 

[Sierra Mist]

wow. you're right

 

[James Carter]

Like I said man... unless you hit or actually staked a claim there is no reason for a man to be in aposition for a chick to play w/his emotions


She doesn't keep him around, he stays around. And what kind of dude fukks with a chick with a roster of sideline nikkas???? nikkas do it to themselves!!!

breh i wholeheartedly 100% agree with this. nikkaS IS DUMB

Nobody is saying it doesnt exist, just that its not completely the chick's doing.

I put it like this man. Say you met a chick, she was down to fukk, cook, clean, put gas in your car, re up your Boost Mobile minutes and all that, but didn't give a shyt if you fukked w/other girls or had a main chick, and wouldn't do anything to fukk up your other situations. Would you pass on that? If you had a legit wifey, HOPEFULLY, but if not,

A friend zone dude is basically a jumpoff for women. How can you blame the women for taking on such a sweet deal?????? nikkas do it to themselves man 100%

nikka im knowing. Im saying when you in the friendzone a chick will do lil things to show theres a light at the end of the tunnel in some cases. Maybe she'll text you outta the blue and start a convo with you feeding into the feelings you've already caught.

75% of it is dumb nikkas
25% of it is bytches playing games

 

[KnowledgeIsQueen]

That's your side of the story. Maybe you didn't make enough of an effort to be their friend. Maybe they felt you had a lot going on in your life and didn't want to be bothered. Friendships only work when both parties are putting the same amount of effort into it.

This also works as we are talking about "friend zones".. The whole "vulture lurking around" argument is flawed. Women don't allow guys they dislike to hang around unless they are benefiting from it in some way.

If a guy wants to test what this girl is all about.. all he has to do is stop contacting her entirely. If she comes back on some "hey, we haven't hung around in a long time" shyt, then the guy most often has a legitimate chance with her. If the guy never hears from her, then he knows what it is. Also, never let a girl talk to you about any kind of problems in her relationship. Cut it off right there. You don't need to be traveling down that road giving your opinion on ANYTHING.

Could be the bold, I disagree with the rest.

I don't divulge personal information about my current life to anyone ( my mother and best friend are exempt) . I'll listen to what THEY'RE going through and be the voice of reason, other then that I've always been a closed book (except for my esoteric ideas )

The only reason I told ppl I was pregnant was because eventually my stomach would protrude. It's assumed by many that I 'hid' my relationship from them

I've you have something sacred I don't believe in bragging or paradiding it around for the world to see; most individuals don't understand that concept.

sounds like you're a terrible judge of character

Call it how you see it.

I already knew I wasn't haven't sex with them. THEY stuck around and were at me.

 

[Sharp]

Most of the dudes that end up in the "friend zone" are the ones who have no game and are not aggressive enough in their approach. They think that because they have become her friend and get to spend time with her that they are making progress. And then your feelings will be hurt when she introduces you to the new dude she's about to let pound her out.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Could be the bold, I disagree with the rest.

I don't divulge personal information about my current life to anyone ( my mother and best friend are exempt) . I'll listen to what THEY'RE going through and be the voice of reason, other then that I've always been a closed book (except for my esoteric ideas )

Then I'm not sure how you viewed them as friends in the first place. How can someone be your friend without knowing anything about you? Friendships are built on trust. If I don't know anything about you then I don't trust you. If I don't trust you or have a reason to care about you then don't be surprised if I stop hanging around. If they weren't really friends then why would you care what they do?

 

[Julius Skrrvin]

If you're manipulatively trying to maneuver yourself into fukking someone you aren't their friend. Period. You're in the relationship for other reasons besides friendship.