The harsh reality is most of single men 30 + will end up with a single mom & its not that bad.

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I don't even know why I posted in here. I forgot this is the Coli where every nikka is 6 foot, 6 cert, 6 figure, and can pull any chick on the planet while single moms are the most undesirable creatures on the planet. Even tho most of y'all was raised by single moms or have a baby moms. Comedy.:mjlol:
 

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I don't even know why I posted in here. I forgot this is the Coli where every nikka is 6 foot, 6 cert, 6 figure, and can pull any chick on the planet while single moms are the most undesirable creatures on the planet. Even tho most of y'all was raised by single moms or have a baby moms. Comedy.:mjlol:
1. Being raised by a single mom lets me know first hand why I would not want to date one, and that I would hope not to ever turn a woman into one.
2. And dude with a "baby mama" will also tell you why it's best to avoid making or dealing with one.

Does these POVs sound unreasonable? So because my mom was a single mother (who struggled and brought a lot of baggage to anything she approached in life), I have to date one? Is that your position?
 

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I don't even know why I posted in here. I forgot this is the Coli where every nikka is 6 foot, 6 cert, 6 figure, and can pull any chick on the planet while single moms are the most undesirable creatures on the planet. Even tho most of y'all was raised by single moms or have a baby moms. Comedy.:mjlol:
Someone’s getting emotional. I wonder where you get it from. :lolbron:
 

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im in my 30's....once i past 26-27 the dating pool became trash. I dont have kids...no real bills...make decent money...im decent looks wise and i have a hard time out here. shyt isnt sweet any more. my 30's suck compared to my 20's love wise. take heed youngings...cuff the good when you can lol i dont mind kids with a female...the biggest issue is the baby daddy...they all started to hate me and put pressure on the BM...and they almost always fold despite the kids liking you more than they own father. the issue isnt the women or the kids...its the baby daddy usually in this age bracket lol
 

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My approach is that all single mothers ain't the same just like all single chicks ain't the same.

If you're young then by all means try to find a chick with no kids that's more your speed. But if you're in you're 30's and 40's talking bout I can't date single moms then I think you're a little outta your mind. And I'm talking bout the average dude who saying that shyt. If you're shyt is together and you're a decent looking breh then of course go for the best available woman...which could also be a single mom. Should they be your FIRST pick? Probably not. But they should be an option is all I'm saying.:yeshrug:

In truth, one of my main problems is alot of nikkas is just like a lot of bytches in that they overrate themselves and don't shoot within they range. For a lot of these nikkas single moms is definitely within they range. Ain't nobody emotional or any of that shyt. I just hate when people don't be realistic and be talkin that "I deserve this and I deserve that" shyt all while they work at UPS and live with they momma.

1. Being raised by a single mom lets me know first hand why I would not want to date one, and that I would hope not to ever turn a woman into one.
2. And dude with a "baby mama" will also tell you why it's best to avoid making or dealing with one.

Does these POVs sound unreasonable? So because my mom was a single mother (who struggled and brought a lot of baggage to anything she approached in life), I have to date one? Is that your position?
 

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It's simple at this point : ask yourself if you want to have kids and to create a family.

1) If you don't want kids and wants to live that casanova lifestyle till your 50's (and to be honest most of you will fail at that because it's not viable way of life), you don't have to worry about turning 30.

2) If you want to have kids and to create a family. You need to settle down at 30. At least you need to find a chick to do it. Don't wait to be in your 40's to find a woman and to have your first kid. At that pont, you won't find a 25 yo without kids, except if you're an exceptional guy, things that most of you aren't. You'll have bitter woman in their 30's with difficulties to gobe birth, divorcees and single mom. Even in the case you find a woman with no kids in her mid 20's, having your first kid at that age is a bad move itself. You're supposed to grow up with your kids and to enjoy their presence, not to be their grandpa.

maturity, somebody thats understanding and somebody around your age.
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If you're 30 marrying a 30 yo woman is dumb move, since you have access to 23+ women.


7 years is the goat age gap.
 
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My bro is 50 and just got engaged to a woman with a kid.

She's cool as fukk. Dope addition to the family.

It made me open to the idea honestly. I'm just not ready to be a father figure at the moment unfortunately. My parents are getting old and I'd like them to see me with a kid but I'm not gonna rush it. I want my own though, not another mans

It's normal; he's 50. If you're 30 it's just dumb.
 
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