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Why would nature not equip men with that same ability by nature.. considering that they are equally needed to ensure procreation?
When you look at human history, it is the history of warfare. In warfare, many men die; go off to war; or are slaughtered (if not enslaved). Those women who could attach and detach themselves quickly to men were the ones to survive. This also may explain bisexuality in women as well. All the aforementioned describes the war bride phenomena. Recently, there were articles released of British women cavorting with Nazi soldiers who were invading Britain.
Some men are like this such as those who possess the ability to form and maintain harems.
Many others will suffer from limerence in contradistinction.
Could this not be a simple matter of demand and supply?
Because in western society men are expected to approach women, more women get approached than men so many women make sure to have a back-up plan which is easy because all they have to do is pick someone or two guys as potential next guys in case their current relationship collapses.
One could call this the sexual marketplace.
This is valid until a certain age say middle age for men and women. From about 40s onward, there are more women. There are roughly equal numbers of men and women below 40. There are also regional variations. Using the United States for example, there are more men than women on the west coast while the opposite is true on the east coast.
But on another hand, there is Preto's Law. Upwards of 80 % of women are really only checking for 20 % of men.
If there is any shortage of "good men", it is entirely of womens' creation.
We all know most women are slicker than men. Which is why you so often see that there's a break up and BAM a girl has a new guy and it turns out they were already talking and that they been talking. This is why men LOVE to hear that a fine girl has boyfriend problems and offers to be the 'shoulder to cry on'.
I would say that women are more devious. The previous sentiment is shared and recorded by many men of note throughout the ages. Couple deviousness and solipsism with war bride firmware, you get what we are discussing.
Also, it should be known that women typically have "Plan B" men all the while encouraging you to drop all your other backups.
Hence, women go after men they are aroused by and marry lesser men as a backup particularly as they age (hit the wall).
In my opinion, it is a matter of understanding the operational firmware in built within every woman.
When men do this, they are considered really foul. But women seem to do it and society does not say 'wow.. that's foul, you're basically a female dog.. a bytch'. 'No he just had that confidence I was missing in my relationship and things weren't really working out..' is standard talk for many women.
Woe be to the man who takes counsel from women with regard to relationships ...
I call what you described as the two rule books (credit for the phrase I must give to Rollo Tomassi). Women go by one code while expecting men to go by the traditional code book. This enables them to optimize their sexual strategy.
Women frequently say one thing and do the opposite hence the sage advice to not give too much stock to what women say. Observe what they do instead. The actions are the true statements.
Words are ephemeral. Actions are durable.
MOST men who are genuinely committed do not play that, they are focused on being providers and good men and sometimes they focus on it so much that women get bored and start talking to some rude dude because he's 'edgy'. This all comes down to 'be loyal to yourself' as a man. It's good to be in love, but be clear that you are a high quality man who can, whenever he chooses, have other options available.
Men are the true romantics with regard to relationships.
Women are the pragmatists in the same regard.
You can either love women or understand them.
Dealing with women in significant number should cause a man to transition from the former to the latter.
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