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@Kant @Jayne @baqardi I respect it honestly. Being blunt I'm not afraid to admit that my mindset is toxic right now. I'm nervous when it comes to dating and it just feels like speaking French in Russia.
I have somewhat of a good personality but my looks get it shut down before I take a step. That's what made me obsessed with my looks to the point I strayed away from personality.



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Idk how to really work on fixing the vibe I give off.
 

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@Kant @Jayne @baqardi I respect it honestly. Being blunt I'm not afraid to admit that my mindset is toxic right now. I'm nervous when it comes to dating and it just feels like speaking French in Russia.
I have somewhat of a good personality but my looks get it shut down before I take a step. That's what made me obsessed with my looks to the point I strayed away from personality.



@AlternativeFacts

Idk how to really work on fixing the vibe I give off.

then you really need to work on your own mentality and how you view yourself before you try to involve someone else. i did not start dating or even talking to women until i was completely comfortable and happy with myself. people pick up on negative vibes and they can tell when you are uncomfortable, especially women.
 

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then you really need to work on your own mentality and how you view yourself before you try to involve someone else. i did not start dating or even talking to women until i was completely comfortable and happy with myself. people pick up on negative vibes and they can tell when you are uncomfortable, especially women.
You right. I'm acting like tyrese when it comes to relationships. :skip:
What did you do to change yourself?
 

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@Kant @Jayne @baqardi I respect it honestly. Being blunt I'm not afraid to admit that my mindset is toxic right now. I'm nervous when it comes to dating and it just feels like speaking French in Russia.
I have somewhat of a good personality but my looks get it shut down before I take a step. That's what made me obsessed with my looks to the point I strayed away from personality.



@AlternativeFacts

Idk how to really work on fixing the vibe I give off.
That's the first step to changing. Admitting something isn't right. Which, is your mindset you're a chilling dude just like what I said and everyone else said personality is more important than looks. Looks are just a extra bonus. If you're funny and goofy girls will be attracted to that. If you love yourself aswell as be confident in yourself and not give a fukk what others have to say to you. Trust me dawg this is coming from someone who had a negative mindset at one point too. You got this :cheers:
 

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You right. I'm acting like tyrese when it comes to relationships. :skip:
What did you do to change yourself?

got my career straightened out, changed the way i dress and presented myself, i made it so where i actually felt that i looked handsome. i felt that the change in myself was something i was comfortable with. i changed my outlook on dating and how i looked at things in the world. i did not want any insecurities or issues resurfacing because i tend to be a worry wort and it will show

speaking of which, i need to start back reading and learning and getting the hell out of my head
 

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@LordLoco funny thing is i actually used to follow these nikkas advice on here when i first signed up. none of it worked. absolutely none of it. there's a reason why despite how many threads and all this shyt that's posted about dating and women exist but nikkas are still perpetually single and bitter at the opposite sex. because having success on the dating level changes you as a person.

the most success i've ever had in dating and approaching was just coming from being comfortable with myself. no lines, gimmicks, nothing. all that advice that was on here that i used didn't work because i wasn't comfortable with it and it showed because that's not how i am at the heart.
 

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got my career straightened out, changed the way i dress and presented myself, i made it so where i actually felt that i looked handsome. i felt that the change in myself was something i was comfortable with. i changed my outlook on dating and how i looked at things in the world. i did not want any insecurities or issues resurfacing because i tend to be a worry wort and it will show

speaking of which, i need to start back reading and learning and getting the hell out of my head
Hmmm. I gotta get my school work together. Study more. I have some books I want to read. I think I need to work more on my weight. That's what sparked my mentality.
This bitter, fearful, mentality that only breeds stress.

So its weight
And clothes
Mentality
Be more social
That's what I'll work on.
 
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