Essential The Mental Health Thread
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I had some issues going on early last year at work. I let alot slide that i shouldn't have. Let it get real bad, starting drinking heavily as well. I ended up going to rehab for alcohol abuse, depression + anxiety. My therapist there was great. A black woman who could relate. I was getting better, but once i left there i faced the same hurdles with these new therapists. They cant relate to issues that black people go though, and one of the turn offs for me is the curriculum.
We do group sessions all day and one guy will relay w/e info they teach at the Masters level, which is fine. But Its the delivery of it. He'll argue that if at any point you grew up in a single parent household you have abandonment issues. Or in my case, my pops was gone a lot in the Army, being deployed, providing for his family. I told him we weren't that close, but its gotten better as ive gotten older
he gets very animated and insists that bc he's taken the undergrad/masters level course, he's SURE i have abandonment issues. Even though im telling him otherwise. Because ive lived through it
then he'll go on about how the teachings are extremely complicated, when they aren't. That's one examples but he's mad about something every day we go in to therapy. It just makes me feel a certain type of way. And it makes me miss my old therapist while at in-patient (and ALL other black therapists).
Some of the stuff this particular guy talks about is good, like setting boundaries, communicating more effectively, etc. But a lot of what he talks about just isnt for me
We do group sessions all day and one guy will relay w/e info they teach at the Masters level, which is fine. But Its the delivery of it. He'll argue that if at any point you grew up in a single parent household you have abandonment issues. Or in my case, my pops was gone a lot in the Army, being deployed, providing for his family. I told him we weren't that close, but its gotten better as ive gotten older
he gets very animated and insists that bc he's taken the undergrad/masters level course, he's SURE i have abandonment issues. Even though im telling him otherwise. Because ive lived through itthen he'll go on about how the teachings are extremely complicated, when they aren't. That's one examples but he's mad about something every day we go in to therapy. It just makes me feel a certain type of way. And it makes me miss my old therapist while at in-patient (and ALL other black therapists). Some of the stuff this particular guy talks about is good, like setting boundaries, communicating more effectively, etc. But a lot of what he talks about just isnt for me
I feel you brehbreh...
I just completed a 14-day, 6hrs/day outpatient for chemical dependency. Now I'm in the follow-up 6-week, 3.5hrs/day program.
Nothing is more annoying than a therapist who's "never wrong" and more specifically, doesn't listen. They act like because we have mental issues/addiction we're to be talked to like children who don't know anything.
Only one of my therapists is black, but she's clearly a feminist and has issues with strong, black hetero men like me. Anyway, some of the others are good. I mostly like the male therapists.
My advice is, treat their advice like a buffet, not a religious gospel. Take the stuff you like that works for you and leave the rest (which it sounds like you're doing).
When you get and keep the alcohol & drugs out your system, your intuition will return to its natural form and have pinpoint accuracy. You can trust that over any man. Damn his degrees.
Keep your head up!
I just completed a 14-day, 6hrs/day outpatient for chemical dependency. Now I'm in the follow-up 6-week, 3.5hrs/day program.
Nothing is more annoying than a therapist who's "never wrong" and more specifically, doesn't listen. They act like because we have mental issues/addiction we're to be talked to like children who don't know anything.
Only one of my therapists is black, but she's clearly a feminist and has issues with strong, black hetero men like me. Anyway, some of the others are good. I mostly like the male therapists.
My advice is, treat their advice like a buffet, not a religious gospel. Take the stuff you like that works for you and leave the rest (which it sounds like you're doing).
When you get and keep the alcohol & drugs out your system, your intuition will return to its natural form and have pinpoint accuracy. You can trust that over any man. Damn his degrees.
Keep your head up!
Matthew 6:34 (KJV) Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
Matthew 6:6-15 (KJV) But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly.
But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do: for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking.
Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him.
After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen.
For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Matthew 19:26 (KJV) But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.
I relapsed this morning at the store with my homegirl who's like family. Then, had my first trigger and brought a weedbhead chick inside my crib 
Weird as fukk day and got accepted in TCC. Couldn't sleep for two days because of med withdrawals.
Was two months into recovery.
Weird as fukk day and got accepted in TCC. Couldn't sleep for two days because of med withdrawals.Was two months into recovery.
I called my mentor and left him a message.
SmoothOperator88
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I struggle so much on weekends. I'm alone a lot, haven't really been taking care of myself. No desire to. I don't feel important at all and struggle to find anything to do to pass the time. No desire to do anything.
Do you think you know the source of your sadness?
ReadOneBookAWeek
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Take care of yourself Breh. Start the day off with a workout and some green tea.
SmoothOperator88
Your friendly neighborhood coli poster
Never really felt important or that I matter. Depression, self loathing, never learned to love myself, emotional neglect, rejected a lot and bullied growing up. Couldnt do anything about it. And i question the meaning of my existence.
I feel like I'm stuck in a really toxic relationship. I have my own mental health issues (depression, bipolar...) and I kinda got into a relationship with a girl. Everything was going great. She filled a huge void, but lately she's kinda turned into a manipulative, controlling and emotionally neglecting person...
I'm curious brehs. I've had a mental bout or two, and do have slight anxiety in nervous situations, but for the most part I've gotten thru it with meditation and spirituality and positive thinking.
BUT, I'm seeing some things mentioned in here that it doesnt seem were talked about years ago.
Just seems like more people are depressed these days than ever before.
Have y'all always been like this? Is it something in the food nowadays messing with ppls minds?
I know more ppl are comfortable talking about it than before, but it also just seems way more prevalent.
BUT, I'm seeing some things mentioned in here that it doesnt seem were talked about years ago.
Just seems like more people are depressed these days than ever before.
Have y'all always been like this? Is it something in the food nowadays messing with ppls minds?
I know more ppl are comfortable talking about it than before, but it also just seems way more prevalent.
SmoothOperator88
Your friendly neighborhood coli poster
For me I've been battling depression since I was 8.
Like with a lot of things, there are more outlets to talk about it and it's becoming more acceptable to talk about and mental health to be out in the open. Until recently I felt like I had to hide myself and all that I went through. In some spaces, I still feel that way. Also in general as people we have a greater understanding of whats going on and why it's going on.