Essential The Mental Health Thread

[Child_Of_God]

I'm going to suggest therapy for you.

The fact that you are able to point out the source of your trauma is a great start. Our childhood experiences and interactions with family members are some of the solid foundational pieces to us. You should talk to someone about those things.

I too couldn't trust relationships because of the divorce my parents had and the aftereffects that spiraled from that. Didn't want people to touch me or say "love you". I couldn't even say it when I knew I could.

So please don't give up, it will take some time, I know that may not be what
you want to hear. These things built over a long period of time and will take some work to get over.

I assume you are in America, please make use of this number in the meantime:

1-800-784-2433

I appreciate the advice breh I really do but you at least had a romantic relationship with a women and father who gave a damn about you. I never had none of those shyt. Right now life is getting too hard to cope and I don’t know how much more I can take this.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

I gotta start coming in here

I be wyling out here in reality brehs

Got a lot of people close to me die in their 20s and younger


Most days im like life goes on

then it’s like damn life aint fair


Now I’m in a location where there are a lot of people my age that come from money. Like none of them has experienced losing a best friend or anyone close to their age. They never have conflict or know anything about struggle. It’s just parties, having a bunch of items but no personality, and being in those “cliques”.

It’s not like they’re being dikk heads or anything because most of these people are actually nice. It’s just what they represent drives me crazy when I know where I come from. . . Where family and friends lives are in struggle and drama 24/7


That over thinking will u do u in like I’ve been going thru lately

 

[Jahbarri]

Lately I’ve been feeling hella depressed cuz I will turn 28 in March and I’m still a virgin. The reason why I’m still a virgin is because I have anxiety and trust issues stemming from the abuse that I received from my father so it’s hard for me to open up to people unless I’ve known them for a while.

I do think about suicide sometimes because what’s the point of even living if you can’t even accomplish something that nearly everyone has manage to accomplish with little effort. I can’t even go out and meet any girls cuz of the pandemic and online dating is too superficial and dangerous. shyt honestly sucks right now and I just want the pain to go away.

Kill yourself due to your inability to GMB .. don’t even ask me how

 

[Monsanto]

I appreciate the advice breh I really do but you at least had a romantic relationship with a women and father who gave a damn about you. I never had none of those shyt. Right now life is getting too hard to cope and I don’t know how much more I can take this.

I'll say this, even after having sex and relationships I still had my own problems that needed to be handled. It won't change anything. And of course that sounds like bull from someone who has had, its even easy to say that.

Realigning yourself to love yourself and your goals is the best feeling that a relationship with a woman or orgasm can't top. It starts from you, because you will always have yourself. We often tie ourselves to external sources for happiness and love. We also tie up our value from other people and through sexual relations. There are other posters on this site that have tied up their value into this and self-destruct. But what happens when you change your consciousness and point of view? Suddenly new purposes, new friends and relationships open themselves to you.

Still working on you, people will want to associate with your world of confidence, work ethic and viewpoints. You'll get women but this should not be your end goal. The internal work should be number 1.

What are your goals? Tomorrow, next week, 2 years, 5 years, 10 years?

Write them out, create a vision board. Places you want to travel, languages to learn, hobbies to enjoy, etc.

You can do it. I can see it for you. The path is out there, seize it.

 

[L2014]

I appreciate the advice breh I really do but you at least had a romantic relationship with a women and father who gave a damn about you. I never had none of those shyt. Right now life is getting too hard to cope and I don’t know how much more I can take this.

Feelings come and go. Frustrations and anger come from want and expectations. You have a young mind and no one showed you how to cope. Don’t get so down on yourself. That fact that you can reflect means you’re a better man than most. Allow yourself to grow man. This sadness is your coc00n. It ain’t supposed to be forever.

Things get the hardest just before they get easy. Don’t worry bout a father. You ain’t a criminal, you doing good. Now you gotta be the man you want your son to be.

Oh yea fukk You @Jahbarri you wanna play go find some sand nikka.

 

[Monsanto]

I gotta start coming in here

I be wyling out here in reality brehs

Got a lot of people close to me die in their 20s and younger


Most days im like life goes on

then it’s like damn life aint fair


Now I’m in a location where there are a lot of people my age that come from money. Like none of them has experienced losing a best friend or anyone close to their age. They never have conflict or know anything about struggle. It’s just parties, having a bunch of items but no personality, and being in those “cliques”.

It’s not like they’re being dikk heads or anything because most of these people are actually nice. It’s just what they represent drives me crazy when I know where I come from. . . Where family and friends lives are in struggle and drama 24/7


That over thinking will u do u in like I’ve been going thru lately

This is what I've been building myself. Our community has to advance but sometimes we can't see that while we are in it. There aren't enough conscious black men and black women in the school system or mentorship to reinforce that we are geniuses and have the potential for a better life. We aren't represented in the textbooks and aren't told why we have to learn or go to school.

Then you add environmental issues and the early draw of fast money and a sense of belonging in the streets, along with unresolved physiological issues we have a lot to work on.

But it is a great advantage that we know our problems and we can work to solve.

We have to go back into the community to help unlock their minds. Return the self image of success and ability to our people.

Those feelings towards your associates is natural. They have a good set of representation and a community to rely on. Their existence has been solidified in positive continuity. When you don't know where your next meal is coming from, when you may be laying down in the streets due to gun violence, your existence is constantly challenged. The mind is changed from that drastically. Resources aren't consumed the same way.

With that said, those people living comfortable will not go to where we came from and fix those things. Only we can.

 

[BelowTheMasonDixon]

Lately I’ve been feeling hella depressed cuz I will turn 28 in March and I’m still a virgin. The reason why I’m still a virgin is because I have anxiety and trust issues stemming from the abuse that I received from my father so it’s hard for me to open up to people unless I’ve known them for a while.

I do think about suicide sometimes because what’s the point of even living if you can’t even accomplish something that nearly everyone has manage to accomplish with little effort. I can’t even go out and meet any girls cuz of the pandemic and online dating is too superficial and dangerous. shyt honestly sucks right now and I just want the pain to go away.

Bro you got a tough response to respond to. just be easy my nikka.

 

[BaggerofTea]

Lately I’ve been feeling hella depressed cuz I will turn 28 in March and I’m still a virgin. The reason why I’m still a virgin is because I have anxiety and trust issues stemming from the abuse that I received from my father so it’s hard for me to open up to people unless I’ve known them for a while.

I do think about suicide sometimes because what’s the point of even living if you can’t even accomplish something that nearly everyone has manage to accomplish with little effort. I can’t even go out and meet any girls cuz of the pandemic and online dating is too superficial and dangerous. shyt honestly sucks right now and I just want the pain to go away.

Focus on yourself, validation from other humans means literally nothing

 

[BaggerofTea]

This man has some real life transforming gems

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

This is what I've been building myself. Our community has to advance but sometimes we can't see that while we are in it. There aren't enough conscious black men and black women in the school system or mentorship to reinforce that we are geniuses and have the potential for a better life. We aren't represented in the textbooks and aren't told why we have to learn or go to school.

Then you add environmental issues and the early draw of fast money and a sense of belonging in the streets, along with unresolved physiological issues we have a lot to work on.

But it is a great advantage that we know our problems and we can work to solve.

We have to go back into the community to help unlock their minds. Return the self image of success and ability to our people.

Those feelings towards your associates is natural. They have a good set of representation and a community to rely on. Their existence has been solidified in positive continuity. When you don't know where your next meal is coming from, when you may be laying down in the streets due to gun violence, your existence is constantly challenged. The mind is changed from that drastically. Resources aren't consumed the same way.

With that said, those people living comfortable will not go to where we came from and fix those things. Only we can.

I remember even going to group therapy at my school I had a fukked up mentality that I am ashamed of.

most of the people either had a very old grandparent pass away or their teacher from forever ago pass. And I’m just like

yeah my people were murdered last week


And for some strange reason I’m comparing deaths and which ones more important. Thinking to myself like well your grandparent made it to 70 my homie was 20


fukked up way to think. Wish I was more compassionate then.


That idea about growing up in the hood can cause PTSD is probably true imo. Like I love where I come from and glad I am currently beating the struggle to make my people proud but like all the wild shyt you experience in the hood never leaves you.

had a friend invite me over to watch the football games today. Was there for the packers first half. Everyone was having a good time laughing and drinking and I’m like I’m leaving and cutting everyone off when including everyone back home

Now I’m all cool not understanding how I got lost on that mindset a few hours ago lmaoo

like I said these people are nice but I feel guilty as fukk for living life

 

[semicko82]

Going through a realllllllll bad Self Loathing spell brehs. One of the worst ones. My confidence has never been this low.

I feel like I couldnt pay a bytch to look at me. shyt, Ive gotten so fat i can hardly stand to look at myself. Been working out though , fukked up yesterday and binged ate and drank but today I was on it.

Now keep in mind, Im simultaneously trying to lose this weight, drink less, eat better and take better care of myself, kill my vices: like not watch porn/no fap (2 weeks solid on this), no online dating or fukking around on social media. I will in fact log off the coli for the foreseeable future on sunday. I disabled FB, created a positive vibes IG and deleted snap after realizing one of my situationships is probbly fukking somebody else and our thing has cooled off.

Alot of what im feeling just might be my brain coping with having the crutches taking away. BUt the crippling isolation of being alone for so long is really fukking with me too ( i moved last year during the summer to a far larger city than my hometown and have yet to make a single consistent friend/casual dating buddy).

Feel like im not learning the concepts of my engineering job either. Feeling im just drifting and half assing tasks.

i dunno just trying to work through this. might take a walk tomorrow after work or some shyt.

It seems like you’re being to hard on yourself.
You’re in a good position in life and most people would trade places with you in a heartbeat.
You have to learn to accept what you can and can’t control

 

[semicko82]

Lately I’ve been feeling hella depressed cuz I will turn 28 in March and I’m still a virgin. The reason why I’m still a virgin is because I have anxiety and trust issues stemming from the abuse that I received from my father so it’s hard for me to open up to people unless I’ve known them for a while.

I do think about suicide sometimes because what’s the point of even living if you can’t even accomplish something that nearly everyone has manage to accomplish with little effort. I can’t even go out and meet any girls cuz of the pandemic and online dating is too superficial and dangerous. shyt honestly sucks right now and I just want the pain to go away.

Other than trying to pick up women what other moves are you making in life

 

[96Blue]

I Give up, ADHD and Anxiety can win.

I don't know what I did to deserve this, but fukk my life.

I can't drive because I can't pay attention and I think I'm going to quit my job soon, I don't give a fukk if I can't find another one or not.

I'm Mentally exhausted and tired. I remember as a kid, the only thing I wanted to be was normal and not being able to be that has always frustrated me.

I don't know math (even basic math), shyt when I went to my carpentry pre-apprenticeship, my teacher openly told me I don't know basic math while helping me.

So I can't have a career.
I can't do math.
I can't drive.

I'm honestly starting to get tired of this shyt.

 

[Budda]

Carpentry, plastering, plumbing use your two hands and legs you’ve got a bigger advantage than a lot of people just by being able bodied!

 

[96Blue]

If it wasn’t for my family and friends I would of ended this shyt already.

Same with me except, I'm 24 years old and a virgin. Difference is, is I stopped give a fukk.

Suicide actually runs in my family, but if I was going to commit suicide, it would be because I can't be normal like everybody else.

I mean, I can't even drive or do basic math. So, I can't have a good career and I have to depend on people to drive me places. My life was pretty much over before it began.