The moment you and her start texting back and forth with regular chit chat you lost

[OCCAMS_RAZOR]

I used to take heed of all the (suppossedly) excellent advice, the lot of you drop, but after a while I just gave up. Why? Because: a) There's simply not enough space in my head for all of the so called 'rules' of the game. (b) If a girl doesn't like you for whatever reason (i.e. your physical appearance, how you talk/carry yourself) & there's no mutual interest, then there's nothing you can say or do that will make her like you in 'that' way. (c) It's not worth it. I like sex, but IMO jumping through a score of make believe hoops just to get it is not wavy, and in fact an indication of a lack of self esteem. (d) Finally, my focus right now is on cultivating healthy relationships with others (whether male or female). The way I think about females is kind of warped right now and I would much prefer it if I didn't view them as objects (because they are not).

I've improved a lot in various aspects over the past year, but I think the biggest change in me these days is I finally like people. Once you stop putting people on a pedestal and start acceptign them for who they are, warts and all, you'll be much happier. I love women, but having to deal with drama and bs, just to get in their pants is in my opinion not the way to go. If a woman falls into my lap then that would be great, if she doesn't then that's awesome as well, as I've found that I get along with people better when I hold them at arm's length.

 

[Captain Crunch]

Is it wrong to call just to set shyt up, or I lost for simply calling instead of texting?

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

Is it wrong to call just to set shyt up, or I lost for simply calling instead of texting?

no it's not wrong... you can even be nice.. say some funny slick shyt make her laugh real quick... just be curt

 

[ShaneTheRogue]

Why you 30 years old and giving high school advice.

Real nikkas have high school mentality for life.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

I used to take heed of all the (suppossedly) excellent advice, the lot of you drop, but after a while I just gave up. Why? Because: a) There's simply not enough space in my head for all of the so called 'rules' of the game. (b) If a girl doesn't like you for whatever reason (i.e. your physical appearance, how you talk/carry yourself) & there's no mutual interest, then there's nothing you can say or do that will make her like you in 'that' way. (c) It's not worth it. I like sex, but IMO jumping through a score of make believe hoops just to get it is not wavy, and in fact an indication of a lack of self esteem. (d) Finally, my focus right now is on cultivating healthy relationships with others (whether male or female). The way I think about females is kind of warped right now and I would much prefer it if I didn't view them as objects (because they are not).

I've improved a lot in various aspects over the past year, but I think the biggest change in me these days is I finally like people. Once you stop putting people on a pedestal and start acceptign them for who they are, warts and all, you'll be much happier. I love women, but having to deal with drama and bs, just to get in their pants is in my opinion not the way to go. If a woman falls into my lap then that would be great, if she doesn't then that's awesome as well, as I've found that I get along with people better when I hold them at arm's length.

yeah all that sounds all good in theory ... but if you the world isn't a stage and we dont have roles to play then you are living in a fantasy... you're living in the world we all wish life was like... but it's not like that... please apply that shyt to your life and tell us how it works out... the opposite might seems like a lot of bullshyt to add to your routine but you will find real normal healthy women eventually because of it.

 

[ShaneTheRogue]

Y'all lost if you treat these females like people. I keep my bytches in kettles.

 

[Mass]

Someone said women talk east and walk west. Lol.

 

[OliviaTwist]

Women talk east and walk west. They say they like nice things like chit chat but when they actually get it then they want to play the dude like he's a chump (which he is).

Then you assess the situation on a woman to woman basis. I could say the same thing about dudes and be like, "they all say they want this but go after that." But I don't. At least random chit chat makes it seem like you're more interested on a more personal level vs. just sex

 

[Typical Simp]

You dudes are so afraid to communicate with females. Y'all gay.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

Then you assess the situation on a woman to woman basis. I could say the same thing about dudes and be like, "they all say they want this but go after that." But I don't. At least random chit chat makes it seem like you're more interested on a more personal level vs. just sex

you're missing the point...familiarity breeds contempt.

There can still be random chit chat ... in person... until things are solidified.

 

[Mr Rager]

Then you assess the situation on a woman to woman basis. I could say the same thing about dudes and be like, "they all say they want this but go after that." But I don't. At least random chit chat makes it seem like you're more interested on a more personal level vs. just sex

It's damn near impossible to assess what women like and don't like because they're hardly ever straightforward about what they're thinking.

 

[Mr Rager]

you're missing the point...familiarity breeds contempt.

There can still be random chit chat ... in person... until things are solidified.

This right here. Exactly.

 

[OliviaTwist]

It's damn near impossible to assess what women like and don't like because they're hardly ever straightforward about what they're thinking.

Sadly this is true. When my friends come to me for advice on their girlfriends I be at a loss sometimes. Most times I just say go by body language and not on spoken language.

Plus they just crazy period. Glad I'm not a dude

 

[Crakface]

bullshyt

you can still lose women over this shyt

You can still lose women over this shyt. Be honest with your fukkin self nikka. You can lose women no matter what. You sound like you just want to believe bullshyt, and i wont stop you.

 

[Chesirecatdaddy]

You can still lose women over this shyt. Be honest with your fukkin self nikka. You can lose women no matter what. You sound like you just want to believe bullshyt, and i wont stop you.

Well being that we're talking about a specific topic... that's what I'm saying you can lose women about. No shyt you can lose women no matter what... we're not talking about all that now are we?

You acting like good looking dudes dont lose out on bytches for being over eager,corny, nice guys, etc

you sound like you just wanna be on some ol opposite nikka shyt.... I won't stop you... cuz i just dont care