The moment you and her start texting back and forth with regular chit chat you lost

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If you mean anything more than 2-3 texts then yes I agree. But if you're dealing with girls who are very pretty and aren't desperate fat asses, then you can't just text em once like "Bring your ass over here". I've only seen that shyt work with ugly and fat broads with low self esteem.
yall can have a back and forth text exchange and build a lil rapport of course ... but that two minutes you spent getting her number goes along way.... it's like a preview to a movie my nikka... yeah the preview is only 2 minutes long... but she'll be thinking about watching that movie for quite a while... she'll even use her own imagination to fill the blanks because ur still a mystery to her.

She already gave you the number so there's interest... you call her up and set some shyt up with her to get to know her... that way all the stuff you wanted to talk about can be done in person :smile:

Breh the last nikka you wanna be is that nikka from those other threads... i dunno if u seen'em

girls calling cats like yeah im horny as hell... i dont wanna fukk u tho.

etc etc... telling you about other nikkaz they're interested in... the dreaded friendzone
 

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1 star it if you want to. OP consistently drops real shyt on yall.

youre stupider than your name if you think this 31 year old Canadian who just started fukking stay dropping real shyt. It's a reason why he's has like 120 ppd
 

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yall can have a back and forth text exchange and build a lil rapport of course ... but that two minutes you spent getting her number goes along way.... it's like a preview to a movie my nikka... yeah the preview is only 2 minutes long... but she'll be thinking about watching that movie for quite a while... she'll even use her own imagination to fill the blanks because ur still a mystery to her.

She already gave you the number so there's interest... you call her up and set some shyt up with her to get to know her... that way all the stuff you wanted to talk about can be done in person :smile:

Breh the last nikka you wanna be is that nikka from those other threads... i dunno if u seen'em

girls calling cats like yeah im horny as hell... i dont wanna fukk u tho.

etc etc... telling you about other nikkaz they're interested in... the dreaded friendzone

Yep, but haven't you been hit with the "not so fast, talk to me some more" line? Or something to that effect? It seems like females get nervous to just meet up so quickly right after getting the number. Maybe there's a difference in maturity levels or something, I always deal with females in their early 20's so maybe they bullshyt more.:yeshrug:
 

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Yep, but haven't you been hit with the "not so fast, talk to me some more" line? Or something to that effect? It seems like females get nervous to just meet up so quickly right after getting the number. Maybe there's a difference in maturity levels or something, I always deal with females in their early 20's so maybe they bullshyt more.:yeshrug:

I'm trying to remember If I've ever been hit with that... but I can't ...it might have happened tho.. everything has happened to me pretty much at least once. All I know is I'll talk to them make them laugh a bit, make them feel comfy.. I try to do this while I get the number because it has a way more lasting impression than you'd think... I do it a lil more on the phone and just let her know that I'd like to take her out some time.. I make the date or give the illusion of choice.. i just let them pick times usually.... then I tell her I gotta go.. bc of whatever excuse I can make up at the time... so I make sure she's slightly open...and just refresh the feeling the she got talking to me the first time we met...I really leave all the getting to know each other for when we first chill...dont wanna play all my cards
 

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yeah all that sounds all good in theory ... but if you the world isn't a stage and we dont have roles to play then you are living in a fantasy... you're living in the world we all wish life was like... but it's not like that... please apply that shyt to your life and tell us how it works out... the opposite might seems like a lot of bullshyt to add to your routine but you will find real normal healthy women eventually because of it.

I don't play all the games you cats talking about playing, I live in that 'fantasy world' as you say, and I do pretty damn well for myself as it pertains to women...i will admit: you're right about people thinking they have parts to play and must act a certain way when it comes to interacting with people of the opposite sex...and that shyt has fukked up how men/women interact with each other...
 

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I don't play all the games you cats talking about playing, I live in that 'fantasy world' as you say, and I do pretty damn well for myself as it pertains to women...i will admit: you're right about people thinking they have parts to play and must act a certain way when it comes to interacting with people of the opposite sex...and that shyt has fukked up how men/women interact with each other...
It's always been that way ...so how has anything gotten fukked up? It's never been straight up EVER... the parts of changed... maybe for the worse.. maybe it's al lil more superficial and ignorant now since morals have changed... but it's all ways been that way. You call it games.. .but I just described some of it and none of it was really games... I just dont chit chat on the phone right away until something builds up. If you really think about it everything is similar to that .... business... politics... ppl say one thing and mean another.. it's up to you to decipher it...ppl talk diplomacy but it's just a strategy to get what you want.
 

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Mess with women, get bitter then mislead younger guys breh
Tbh. In all honesty, I can't be like "do this or do that" I think that if you want to talk, then talk. Not every guy on here is dealing with the same type of woman because every woman is different.

People need to stop boxing things that they can't.
 

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It's always been that way ...so how has anything gotten fukked up? It's never been straight up EVER... the parts of changed... maybe for the worse.. maybe it's al lil more superficial and ignorant now since morals have changed... but it's all ways been that way. You call it games.. .but I just described some of it and none of it was really games... I just dont chit chat on the phone right away until something builds up. If you really think about it everything is similar to that .... business... politics... ppl say one thing and mean another.. it's up to you to decipher it...ppl talk diplomacy but it's just a strategy to get what you want.

it has not always been that way...it's just that shyt has been taught and passed down generation after generation, so it has gotten worse...along with that, the media and tech advancements have helped make things worse...that game playing is in your face more, which just helps re-instill the fukked up games even more....it's so bad that people cant even appreciate a straight up cat...like you said, they always think that cat is up to something....and it is a game...when you're doing something purposely so someone else will react a certain way, you're playing a game....if you're not being yourself, saying what you really feel/think, etc. just so you can advance further with someone, you're playing a game....like I said: I agree with you that people have been taught to be this way so much, that it is looked at as normal now; I just don't agree with it nor partake in it....and I know it has cost me a lot of p*ssy....I've had women tell me this...I don't give a fukk though, i'm not into that game playing...
 

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it has not always been that way...it's just that shyt has been taught and passed down generation after generation, so it has gotten worse...along with that, the media and tech advancements have helped make things worse...that game playing is in your face more, which just helps re-instill the fukked up games even more....it's so bad that people cant even appreciate a straight up cat...like you said, they always think that cat is up to something....and it is a game...when you're doing something purposely so someone else will react a certain way, you're playing a game....if you're not being yourself, saying what you really feel/think, etc. just so you can advance further with someone, you're playing a game....like I said: I agree with you that people have been taught to be this way so much, that it is looked at as normal now; I just don't agree with it nor partake in it....and I know it has cost me a lot of p*ssy....I've had women tell me this...I don't give a fukk though, i'm not into that game playing...
you can still be who you are... I'm not advocating pretending someone you're not... but women are emotional creatures so you gotta deal with these type of things. So yeah I agree with most of the shyt you say... but women have always been emotional creatures and you've always had to watch how you stepped to them... even back in the days when you stepped to a woman... dated and then married her.

You're still saying what you think and feel but you're just timing it right.... see the world how it is breh and now how you think it should be.. this is the reality of things. I never have to lie about anything... the only thing I have to do is not put them on a pedestal and be so quick to give so much of myself to them because it has backfired... that's why I said before that familiarity breeds contempt... that's not a new saying... it's always been that way. I'm not into that pua shyt that promotes lying but I am into advancing into shyt the right way... and I'd rather increase my odds of meeting nice women by going after what I want and making sure I get results instead of just waiting around.. I been on the other side of the fence... I had luck with not really pursuing because I'm a decent looking guy... but I prefer this a lot more. I have more control.
 

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you can still be who you are... I'm not advocating pretending someone you're not... but women are emotional creatures so you gotta deal with these type of things. So yeah I agree with most of the shyt you say... but women have always been emotional creatures and you've always had to watch how you stepped to them... even back in the days when you stepped to a woman... dated and then married her.

You're still saying what you think and feel but you're just timing it right.... see the world how it is breh and now how you think it should be.. this is the reality of things. I never have to lie about anything... the only thing I have to do is not put them on a pedestal and be so quick to give so much of myself to them because it has backfired... that's why I said before that familiarity breeds contempt... that's not a new saying... it's always been that way. I'm not into that pua shyt that promotes lying but I am into advancing into shyt the right way... and I'd rather increase my odds of meeting nice women by going after what I want and making sure I get results instead of just waiting around.. I been on the other side of the fence... I had luck with not really pursuing because I'm a decent looking guy... but I prefer this a lot more. I have more control.

timing shyt right and tailoring to advance things are 2 different things...when you do the latter, you're not being yourself and playing a game...you're right, females are emotional, but they're still just human....when you treat them like they aren't, you're not being yourself and playing a game...

'see the world how it is and not how you think it should be'...this is where i differ from most...cause I do see how the world is, but I don't change how I treat it...I treat it how I think the world should be...that's why I don't do the game playing...i'm not saying put anybody on a pedestal, i just don't believe in the 'advancing shyt the right way' by playing games....I just treat females how I want to be treated....yea, being that way has kept me from getting more p*ssy than I get (I've had plenty of women tell me I should just play the game, i'd be surprised by the results), but I get more than my fair share so I don't complain...

...dont take it like i dont get what you saying, i do...and what you saying does work...chicks do like a bit of mystery, familiarity does breed contempt (in this case of how women see you: make you less interesting), and like guys to play hard to get...that shyt does work...i just dont do it cause i think it just keeps the cycle going...
 

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you can still be who you are... I'm not advocating pretending someone you're not... but women are emotional creatures so you gotta deal with these type of things. So yeah I agree with most of the shyt you say... but women have always been emotional creatures and you've always had to watch how you stepped to them... even back in the days when you stepped to a woman... dated and then married her.

You're still saying what you think and feel but you're just timing it right.... see the world how it is breh and now how you think it should be.. this is the reality of things. I never have to lie about anything... the only thing I have to do is not put them on a pedestal and be so quick to give so much of myself to them because it has backfired... that's why I said before that familiarity breeds contempt... that's not a new saying... it's always been that way. I'm not into that pua shyt that promotes lying but I am into advancing into shyt the right way... and I'd rather increase my odds of meeting nice women by going after what I want and making sure I get results instead of just waiting around.. I been on the other side of the fence... I had luck with not really pursuing because I'm a decent looking guy... but I prefer this a lot more. I have more control.

I have to agree with you.

Dudes really gotta admit that the whole "be yourself" thing is the worst advice ever. It asserts that you can always just get by beiny yourself.

Its just not true. You gotta really change your game and try to adapt to the nature of the situation.
 

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it has not always been that way...it's just that shyt has been taught and passed down generation after generation, so it has gotten worse...along with that, the media and tech advancements have helped make things worse...that game playing is in your face more, which just helps re-instill the fukked up games even more....it's so bad that people cant even appreciate a straight up cat...like you said, they always think that cat is up to something....and it is a game...when you're doing something purposely so someone else will react a certain way, you're playing a game....if you're not being yourself, saying what you really feel/think, etc. just so you can advance further with someone, you're playing a game....like I said: I agree with you that people have been taught to be this way so much, that it is looked at as normal now; I just don't agree with it nor partake in it....and I know it has cost me a lot of p*ssy....I've had women tell me this...I don't give a fukk though, i'm not into that game playing...

Nah dude.

You just sound lazy and resistant to change. I can't and won't doubt your "success" but some of the best things you can do IS to change some shyt up.

Some dudes really do need to hit the gym, get better grades, move up in life, etc.

You can't just do that "being yourself"

You HAVE to change a few things to really be out here winning. No doubt about that.
 

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timing shyt right and tailoring to advance things are 2 different things...when you do the latter, you're not being yourself and playing a game...you're right, females are emotional, but they're still just human....when you treat them like they aren't, you're not being yourself and playing a game...

'see the world how it is and not how you think it should be'...this is where i differ from most...cause I do see how the world is, but I don't change how I treat it...I treat it how I think the world should be...that's why I don't do the game playing...i'm not saying put anybody on a pedestal, i just don't believe in the 'advancing shyt the right way' by playing games....I just treat females how I want to be treated....yea, being that way has kept me from getting more p*ssy than I get (I've had plenty of women tell me I should just play the game, i'd be surprised by the results), but I get more than my fair share so I don't complain...

...dont take it like i dont get what you saying, i do...and what you saying does work...chicks do like a bit of mystery, familiarity does breed contempt (in this case of how women see you: make you less interesting), and like guys to play hard to get...that shyt does work...i just dont do it cause i think it just keeps the cycle going...

Again you equate it to games but I don't think it's a game at all... to each his own. It's all for advancement whether you use strategy or not... the point is to actually get somewhere with these women, you're not hypnotizing them. I'm still treating females the way they want to be treated, I'm not lying to any females at all... but I'm looking out for numero uno and I'm going for mines. Things are the way they are it's not gonna change period..also women have a way they operate as well..it is what it is.. I'm just controlling the pace outchea
 

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I have to agree with you.

Dudes really gotta admit that the whole "be yourself" thing is the worst advice ever. It asserts that you can always just get by beiny yourself.

Its just not true. You gotta really change your game and try to adapt to the nature of the situation.

how is 'be yourself' the worst advice?...the fact you cant be yourself is more damning and shows what you really think about yourself...which aint much if you dont think it's good enough to get with whomever...hell, that goes for more than just relationships...if you dont think you can get by in life by being yourself, you need to really do some self evaluation and make whatever changes you think you need to....like i tell people all the time: 'if you dont love you, no one will'....
 

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Nah dude.

You just sound lazy and resistant to change. I can't and won't doubt your "success" but some of the best things you can do IS to change some shyt up.

Some dudes really do need to hit the gym, get better grades, move up in life, etc.

You can't just do that "being yourself"

You HAVE to change a few things to really be out here winning. No doubt about that.

so i'm lazy to change cause i be myself and dont play games? lol if you say so...

those things you named have nothing to do with being yourself...being yourself is more about your morals, values, how you treat/interact with people, etc...you can be yourself and realize you need to start going to the gym, get better grades, etc....but you're not being yourself if when you dealing with women, you tell them what they want hear to advance things, instead of saying what you really think/feel.....you not being yourself if you act a different way to advance things to reach a certain objective; and once that objective is reached, you start acting different and more like 'yourself'....that's what i'm talking about...i'm not talking about not changing to improve your life; we talking about interacting with females which is what this thread is about...if yall want to talk about other life shyt, we can do that, start a thread...
 
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