The Official Parenting Thread

[Imhotep]

Yeah that's pretty much what I'm doing. My son is too young to make that decision yet so I'm just putting him in everything I can, to see what sticks.

My daughters done everything from soccer, to T ball to ballet and she settled on violin so we are going hard with it. I bought her a violin and she's sticking with it. It's crazy watching my 7 year old juggle responsibilities like practice and homework, so she can get in some tv time.

Looking back my parents didnt have the opportunity to do this type of stuff with me, nor do I think they understood the importance of it. I think that's where white kids have an inherent advantage. They come from generations of succesful people who understand the importance of introducing kids to these types of thing early. They understand how to get their kids ready for college and how to get the goverment to work for them. Black kids/parents spend so much time just trying to live that they don't have time for anything else.

If we are to break the cycle we must learn and educate ourselves and grow with our children. Don't subscribe to that line of thinking that our parents taught us "shutup, what I say goes" cause you can learn a lot from your children and you need to foster independent thought and healthy communication with them. Don't prevent them from doing stuff, just cause you don't want to clean up, or cause you want them to appear quiet and disciplined, kids need as much freedom as they do structure.

Man I typed a lot and I can go on and on with this stuff raising my family and changing my community is my passion. This is the best thread on the coli

A lot of what you say is true. She told me that the vast majority of her boys' teammates were and also from families who under normal circumstances would not need a scholarship and were well off. But their parents knew that's money sitting right there for the taking if only we push junior hard enough.
That being said, the stories of trips across the country for soccer tournaments are - time+driving to one state and next tournament in a different state+accommodations, etc repeated over and over but she probably made that all back by the first semester. Not easy by ANY means

 

[Uptown WaYo87]

Yeah that's pretty much what I'm doing. My son is too young to make that decision yet so I'm just putting him in everything I can, to see what sticks.

My daughters done everything from soccer, to T ball to ballet and she settled on violin so we are going hard with it. I bought her a violin and she's sticking with it. It's crazy watching my 7 year old juggle responsibilities like practice and homework, so she can get in some tv time.

Looking back my parents didnt have the opportunity to do this type of stuff with me, nor do I think they understood the importance of it. I think that's where white kids have an inherent advantage. They come from generations of succesful people who understand the importance of introducing kids to these types of thing early. They understand how to get their kids ready for college and how to get the goverment to work for them. Black kids/parents spend so much time just trying to live that they don't have time for anything else.

If we are to break the cycle we must learn and educate ourselves and grow with our children. Don't subscribe to that line of thinking that our parents taught us "shutup, what I say goes" cause you can learn a lot from your children and you need to foster independent thought and healthy communication with them. Don't prevent them from doing stuff, just cause you don't want to clean up, or cause you want them to appear quiet and disciplined, kids need as much freedom as they do structure.

Man I typed a lot and I can go on and on with this stuff raising my family and changing my community is my passion. This is the best thread on the coli

ma nikka i didnt even get halfway thru your post and i had to dap you up

ima take this advice to the heart, ima make sure me and my girl put our daughter in a ton of stuff. I agree with what you say about how our generations parents that come from the hood or w/e the case may be never really understood the importance of all these activities. Me, my brothers and uncles that are close to my age always talk about how our parents never put us in football growing up, or baseball. Me and my older broother are both 6'2 250+ each...we couldve really benefited from that and maybe couldve went far with sports (wishful thinking but who knows). All of us ended up dropping out getting our GED'S and spent the rest of our days just working hard, i know for sure that aint the life i want for my daughter

buy yea that was some real shyt that you wrote

 

[BantuKnotz99]

To those with infants ,when they were first born until maybe the age of 1 ,what's was the longest they've ever slept and did you Create a routine..also did you ever get frustrated at not getting any sleep at night?

 

[twan83]

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damn school pictures cost too damn much i swear

 

[Imhotep]

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damn school pictures cost too damn much i swear

Yup!
Saw the brochure and was like ......already?
Didn't school just start?

 

[Uncle Kingpin]

Always explain why you punished them, and give em a hug or show some love after discipline.

Dont negotiate or argue with a child, they will become disrespectful as they get older

Dont tell kids fairy tales, be honest with them in an age appropriate way

Teach them personal responsibility with chores and household duties from a young age

Once they reach 1st grade, they can start making their own lunch. By middle school, they should be able to cook dinner with you.

Your child should always have more books on the shelf than video game cases

 

[Mr. Somebody]

6 and a half months and not a drop of forumula. Give your seed breastmilk as long as possible yall.

 

[Rawtid]

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damn school pictures cost too damn much i swear

School is raping me, period. $48 for school pictures, $15 for a field trip, a fund raiser, a book fair and something else that I can't remember right now. I'll definitely have to remember to budget for this stuff next year.

 

[Rawtid]

To those with infants ,when they were first born until maybe the age of 1 ,what's was the longest they've ever slept and did you Create a routine..also did you ever get frustrated at not getting any sleep at night?

My daughter was a pretty good sleeper. I'd say she slept 5-6 hours before waking up to eat (3-4 as a newborn) and I was pretty routine throughout the day.

Lack of sleep frustation is to be expected. Try to sleep when the baby sleeps or grab a quick nap when company comes. I left everyone ghost when they visted. Rather it be to take a shower or a quick nap...I'm not sitting around watching you watch my baby. Also try to eat as healthy as possible. Lack of sleep and BS diet will put you in horrible ass mood.

 

[61 Corpses]

Being a husband is 100x harder than being a father

 

[sanityovar8ted]

i have a 21 month old and wanna get her in daycare. its expensive but i think it would be good for her to be around other kids and just have some structure. at home, its more go with the flow. at daycare, at least you eat at a certain time. take naps at a certain time. all that stuff. was it worth the money for u? also if any dads know how to do daughters hair, share some tips please. my daughter has curly hair, but man, it dries up so easily. also how did you do potty training? my daughter never sits on the potty seat long enough to go. she has no patience.

daycare can be worth it if u can find a good one. before u make a decision pop in unannounced and see how well it runs

 

[twan83]

my daughter loves barney

 

[Amy Traphouse]

Got home wround 4:30 and didn't finish homework until 8ish what are they doing in class then? Then I emailed one teacher with a question about the homework and her response was "she knows it because we went over it in class". Bish, that ain't what I asked!

After cooking dinner, cleaning the kitchen and fixing lunch for my husband, I's tired

 

[Dat Migo]

*Subs*

 

[Lakers Offseason]

i have a 21 month old and wanna get her in daycare. its expensive but i think it would be good for her to be around other kids and just have some structure. at home, its more go with the flow. at daycare, at least you eat at a certain time. take naps at a certain time. all that stuff. was it worth the money for u? also if any dads know how to do daughters hair, share some tips please. my daughter has curly hair, but man, it dries up so easily. also how did you do potty training? my daughter never sits on the potty seat long enough to go. she has no patience.

Started my daughter in Daycare a month a half ago. Made a huge difference in her development. She started crawling a lot faster, she's now standing and ready to walk. Social skills are developing better than it would have staying at home. Plus her immune system will be more robust because of all the stuff she'll be exposed to in there.

The most important thing for me in choosing a Daycare was for me to be comfortable with the teachers not only she was going to be with, but the entire school. Show up unannounced as another poster suggested. And most importantly ask them for all the teacher's bio so you can run your own background check. If they waver at this, that place ain't the place for your kid.