"The one who loves the least controls the relationship" true or false?

[Ineedmoney504]

I couldn’t imagine being with someone that tries to love me less so they can control the relationship. Sounds miserable.

I really don’t think it’s done purposely

I don’t believe any 2 people will love each other the same. It’s always gonna be one who falls deeper for the other and feel they can’t live without the other.

And there the control, don’t mean I will use that control to make someone do crazy shyt, just means I have more control over my emotions and I will only allow certain amount of things before I cut this person off

compared to the person more in love will allow a lot of bullshyt before they get fed up

Just cause I have the control don’t mean I’ll use it In a bad way

 

[Rawtid]

That’s my point. The relationships come down to nothing more than value. Where do you place your value? Where does she place hers? The stipulations of these types of things must be hammered out early on.

But in a relationship, it’s not where YOU place your value it’s where the other person places it. They have to value you enough to treat you well, be considerate, etc and vice versa.

 

[Bossino]

I really don’t think it’s done purposely

I don’t believe any 2 people will love each other the same. It’s always gonna be one who falls deeper for the other and feel they can’t live without the other.

And there the control, don’t mean I will use that control to make someone do crazy shyt, just means I have more control over my emotions and I will only allow certain amount of things before I cut this person off

compared to the person more in love will allow a lot of bullshyt before they get fed up

Just cause I have the control don’t mean I’ll use it In a bad way

I refuse to enter relationships where I don’t have this leverage, as a man there’s no point.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

god is in charge of my relationship and he cares the most


be engaged in stupid fukkin petty power struggles in your own home brehs

 

[Caponeflowers]

I couldn’t imagine being with someone that tries to love me less so they can control the relationship. Sounds miserable.

Not necessarily...it's more love you less so I love myself more, people in love literally commit suicide over heart break lol

 

[Ineedmoney504]

I refuse to enter relationships where I don’t have this leverage, as a man there’s no point.

For me I’m just never fall for nobody that deep. It’s to the point I don’t believe it exist

 

[Auger]

This only applies to a Dismissive Avoidant - Anxious Preoccupied pairing. (DA-AP)

Any secure individual that knows their worth and has no qualms sharing their needs won't stick around for that type of dynamic

Y'all really need to understand your attachment style. Once you've identified yours you can also spot the styles of others.

 

[NotThatGuy]

True or False?

Being in a relationship with a girl that loves you more than you love her is the best.

 

[Rhapscallion Démone]

Being in a relationship with a girl that loves you more than you love her is the best.

Why is that? Lol

 

[Obreh Winfrey]

Why is that? Lol

Because then you can't get hurt as bad when she decides to end it because you don't put the same effort into the relationship

 

[Vandelay]

Circumstantial, but it is a statistically significant factor.

 

[Shadow King]

i don't get why people want to control a relationship. i would just prefer it to be organically nice and easy.
who wants fake love?
couldn't be me.

The two aren't mutually exclusive and the capacity to handle control is rewarded and sought after in men.

 

[FeverPitch2]

This is complete and total horseshyt but people actually believe it.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

The two aren't mutually exclusive and the capacity to handle control is rewarded and sought after in men.

yeah i appreciate a man who has control.... over himself, not me lol
fukk i look like, a child?

let's keep it real, does controling someone sound fun to you? i think a lot of people who have been in a position of control understand it's a lot of responsibility and may appreciate it better if stuff just worked like a well oiled machine. that's where i'm at

 

[Shadow King]

yeah i appreciate a man who has control.... over himself, not me lol
fukk i look like, a child?

let's keep it real, does controling someone sound fun to you? i think a lot of people who have been in a position of control understand it's a lot of responsibility and may appreciate it better if stuff just worked like a well oiled machine. that's where i'm at

Of course you take "control" as controlling another person.