Makes sense, and I'll admit, I had a sense about that too.
A childhood friend of mine is a doctor, and he is always telling me stories about how patients tell him one thing, but their bloodwork always shows something else. So, yeah, I'm very aware of them having to test anyway, just in case the patient is lying.
I think my beef with this lady was that she was that, as soon as she saw me, she was going to test my ass for an STD anyway, no matter what I said. I still do not know what it is she 'saw' when she examined me that just made her think it was an STD. It would have been one thing if she said, "Ok, this is a routine test we give all pregnant mommies to ensure your health and the baby's". That, I can get with. She was a dog with a bone, though, lol. Literally telling her everything that had happened in my pregnancy up until that very point didn't make any difference. I said, "I think I may have strained my bladder", and her mindset was still, you may have an STD. (Sigh) I get annoyed thinking about it now, lol.
My midwife was a West Indian woman who is well known throughout this city; if you are a lay midwife here, she probably trained you. I knew I was in good hands with her, and that was the only reason I didn't succumb to stress or fear after dealing with this doctor. My husband and I both spent the entire pregnancy building a relationship with her. I truly wish other women could have the same report with their own doctors during pregnancy. It would eliminate at least that aspect of the stress that comes along with having a baby.
