The Undisputable REAL reason why there's so many deadbeat fathers and single mothers in the hood

[Guile]

If you feel this way why would you have unprotected sex?

 

[DJDONTNOBODYPAYME]

If you feel this way why would you have unprotected sex?

Bekuz I'm an animal with two brains. One on my shoulder and one on my lap

 

[DJDONTNOBODYPAYME]

Honestly your "cause" is putting the cart before the horse.

The gist (correct me if I'm wrong) is that they can't tolerate the thought of raising the kid based on her sexual history. The question still remains as to why they are engaging in activity that would put the possibility of having the kid in the first place. I'm not generally talking about sex but unprotected sex.

We can be coy but if you make a kid and you realistically view not actively playing a role in raising the child in all ways a father generally should as an option then you are being irresponsible.

I'm not being "coy" or whatever that means. I just simplified it.


You're trying to break it down like a Textbook and it's not that Deep

 

[The ADD]

I'm not being "coy" or whatever that means. I just simplified it.


You're trying to break it down like a Textbook and it's not that Deep

Coy, willfully ignorant, etc.

It's really no way around it. If you are out having sex and you would consider not providing for the child within reason of your situation than you are irresponsible.

In fairness I'm not attacking you or your general idea but it comes off as if you think you hit a revelation that we all missed when in reality it's an after market issue.

 

[Music Fiend]

While I cosign the thought. I think it's more about having kids and bringing them into a shytty situation.

Something like she's pregnant, duke doesn't want the kid. She says she's keeping in. Dudes eventually like whatever, don't expect shyt from me then.

 

[Ethnic Vagina Finder]

I wuz here.

This.

Nyggaz don't know how to keep a chick so they make it hard for her to be with someone else by knocking her up.

And women who don't have goals or anything to strive for see getting preggo as a since of accomplishment.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

OP might have a point

I fukked a chick that my homie fukked first and only because she saw my whip (red flag)

Then she talked about trying to be in a relationship after and i was like (red flag)

Never spoke to her again... But she ended up finding a nice army nikka to settle down with and have a kid. I think theyre still together, good for them but im not about to settle down with your ass after i know the homies beat as well. I think she was ready to settle down too. I guess i wasnt as big of a simp as she expected

And she was cute, nice body, etc. from atl that i met overseas. Nothing physically wrong with her.

But if she got pregnant, i wouldve been there for the kid but not sure if i wouldve been with her. But im not stupid and dont bust nuts in random chicks i know be fukking other nikkas

 

[Guile]

Bekuz I'm an animal with two brains. One on my shoulder and one on my lap

Most other races of men seem to use both heads, though. You can have a side thing, but your family is your family, and there is only one.

 

[wickedsm]

OP might have a point

I fukked a chick that my homie fukked first and only because she saw my whip (red flag)

Then she talked about trying to be in a relationship after and i was like (red flag)

Never spoke to her again... But she ended up finding a nice army nikka to settle down with and have a kid. I think theyre still together, good for them but im not about to settle down with your ass after i know the homies beat as well. I think she was ready to settle down by then as well

And she was cute, nice body, etc. from atl that i met overseas. Nothing physically wrong with her.

But if she got pregnant, i wouldve been there for the kid but not sure if i wouldve been with her. But im not stupid and dont bust nuts in random chicks i know be fukking other nikkas

so you decided not to be ina real relationship with her
or keep fukking her till she got knocked up ?

tell us how you accomplished that?
apparently thats the hard way.
the easier way is to make a baby and then walk away and blame her
or spout some shyt about male ego or biology

 

[O.T.I.S.]

so you decided not to be ina real relationship with her
or keep fukking her till she got knocked up ?

tell us how you accomplished that?
apparently thats the hard way.
the easier way is to make a baby and then walk away and blame her
or spout some shyt about male ego or biology

Its called being a decent human being and having common sense


Im not trying to have kids with ANYONE im not married to already.

And i didnt see marriage potential in a chick that fukked the homies and only gave me the time of day because of my whip. She wanted hood nikkas and they had her first (my homies were hood but not so much me)

I hit and dipped like i was supposed to

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

So the moral to the story is "Ladies if you're going to have sex. Keep it on the low."

 

[BlaKcMoney]

This the real truth that don't no one wanna talk about






There's nothing necessarily wrong with her. It's just the embarrassment or awkwardness that can (potentially) show itself in certain situations is what really be havin nikkaz sweatin

i understand what you're saying.

This is why in most respectable cultures the man is supposed to marry a virgin, especially if you were of nobility. Kings don't marry concubines, yet alot of brothas who call themselves gods and kings are wifing up broads who have had multiple dikks up in em.

 

[Incogno]

*Sighs*

the main issue is that there isn't any importance placed on true love.....when quite a few black men think of true love...they think of living in some fantasy world...when true love is just developing a connection/bond with a woman that leads to marriage....it's that simple...I don't know what's so impossible about it...unless you are just afraid of genuine communication/connection with a woman....a stable foundation between a man and a woman builds successful families....


if we have a lot of black men out here who only base their existence around cheap thrills...is it any wonder what starts all this mess?!?.....

some black men claim they are the "leaders"...but when talk of this pops up...it's always someone else's fault...and it doesn't add up...since black men supposedly are the "leaders" of the black community...

 

[AintNoCrampInYaMouthTho]

There is no real reason. There are to many reasons to just pin point one breh. Everyone situation is different, trying to simplify it instead of just handling shyt individually , is just lazy . Only thing i can tell folks is just be happy you have caring parent(s) , ain't nothing worse in this world than non caring parents or none at all.

 

[DJDONTNOBODYPAYME]

Coy, willfully ignorant, etc.

It's really no way around it. If you are out having sex and you would consider not providing for the child within reason of your situation than you are irresponsible.

In fairness I'm not attacking you or your general idea but it comes off as if you think you hit a revelation that we all missed when in reality it's an after market issue.

How am I having the "after market" thought when you were the one who wanted a deeper answer bekuz you didn't understand what i wrote in these very short sentences.



Also. I'm old enough to know that ain't nobody said this before so stop trying to play coy and act like what I'm sayin has been said at all before.




It's a true Revelation that you didn't find in some College Textbook. Don't try and act like it's something else