“The Weakest Men Become Step Fathers.”

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

You’re picking one example, but dropping your kid off at school doesn’t compare to the daily responsibilities of being there every night, dealing with bedtime, or comforting your son when he wakes up in the middle of the night.

It’s not the same level of responsibility as a single mother who handles those things day in and day out

The reality is, if you’re not living with your child , you’re not there for those everyday moments.

If you think you’re sharing the same responsibilities as a single mother, you’re a fool. If you’re confident and truly on top of your game, you should aim high and not settle for someone carrying more weight just because it seems like a match on the surface.

So I didn't tuck my son in last night either huh? Or the night before that? Give him baths? I never took him to the doctor? He crawled in my bed last night to sleep with me cause he hates being alone. Dog are you a mama's boy? Just say that bruh cause that's what you sound like. If you have 50/50 with your child you literally have to do THE EXACT SAME shyt A SINGLE MOTHER DOES. There ain't no way around it. You sound like a fool right now.

 

[WaveGang]

So I didn't tuck my son in last night either huh? Or the night before that? Give him baths? I never took him to the doctor? He crawled in my bed last night to sleep with me cause he hates being alone. Dog are you a mama's boy? Just say that bruh cause that's what you sound like. If you have 50/50 with your child you literally have to do THE EXACT SAME shyt A SINGLE MOTHER DOES. There ain't no way around it. You sound like a fool right now.

What exactly are you defending here bro lol? You sound insecure typing in caps

I’m saying, 50/50 is not the norm, that’s a very very rare case. Congrats to you.

Idk you or your situation but if you feel some type of way, just step your game up, hit the gym and stay away from them single mothers lol.

 

[SoulController]

thats entirely too harsh. was not the path for me, but i admire some guys i know who helped raise their partners kids

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

What exactly are you defending here bro lol? You sound insecure typing in caps

I’m saying, 50/50 is not the norm, that’s a very very rare case. Congrats to you.

Idk you or your situation but if you feel some type of way, just step your game up, hit the gym and stay away from them single mothers lol.

I trying to tell you that you are wrong. About everything that you are typing damn near. I can tell you were not raised with a father around because you speak on shyt you don't know about and you can't possibly think of any other situation. I'm telling you I know too many men(work with them actually) who have either primary custody or 50/50. Yet you are trying to tell me, a single dad who has his son 19 to 20 days out the month(one of many mind you) that I don't do the same thing these mothers do out here, deifying motherhood and downplaying fatherhood. It's fatherless behavior my man, that doesn't reflect reality. If you do have a dad show him what you typed and watch him regret ever nutting in your mother and creating you for downplaying his impact on your life. Unless of course he was a bum then it obviously makes sense. If you have kids a woman has to deal with your kids as well, that is FACTS. Trying to tell me different when I literally live it is crazy work bro.

 

[RickyDiBiase]

So I didn't tuck my son in last night either huh? Or the night before that? Give him baths? I never took him to the doctor? He crawled in my bed last night to sleep with me cause he hates being alone. Dog are you a mama's boy? Just say that bruh cause that's what you sound like. If you have 50/50 with your child you literally have to do THE EXACT SAME shyt A SINGLE MOTHER DOES. There ain't no way around it. You sound like a fool right now.

Breh don't waste your time, you arguing with people who live off of theories and secondhand, circumstantial accounts.

 

[Dallas' 4 Eva]

Breh don't waste your time, you arguing with people who live off of theories and secondhand, circumstantial accounts.

It's a dangerous mindset to have, because people like that saying things like that are why a lot of men believe they have no chance at really being I their child's life and just don't even fight. They just accept being a weekend fun parent. Men need to stop believing the nonsense. It is VERY EASY AND REALISTIC to get 50/50 custody of your kids, it's not even that much of a fight.

 

[Canon]

Just to re-inforce why they don't date/mess with black women. Them divestors scallywags do the same shyt with black men. It's obvious after awhile

the absolute classic gaslighting

 

[Reptile]

They aint lying

 

[Vandelay]

What if the kids damn near grown?

 

[010101]

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[beenz]

Unless she’s widowed, I believe majority of this to a high degree

If yall both had kids its a different subject

Edit: I mean I think women highkey know/do this on purpose

my girl is widowed, so I guess I'm not being a simp then.

 

[VertigoKnight]

Not for me personally. Can't take a woman with kids seriously for anything long term. As there is a person in their life more important than you'll ever be. Which makes sense.

Then you add in stuff like baby daddies hanging around. No thank you.

Had to have serious words with my younger bro once.

He was dating a chick who already had a 2 yr old.

And was at that time pregnant with another brehs child. So 2 different baby daddies.

I know why he was doing it. He needed a place to lay his head. Told him to fix up. The risk of getting her pregnant was high.

They finally broke up and he met a chick with no kids who he now has four kids with.

 

[Ohene]

thats entirely too harsh. was not the path for me, but i admire some guys i know who helped raise their partners kids

harsh but is it a lie?

ive even talked to my friend about this and asked him point blank does he feel like if he was where he is now in life that he would get with his fiancee...he reluctantly admitted that he wouldnt - that he settled before he hit his prime.

he is short and back then he was not in a stable job, lived with family, wasnt educated, had acne problems so that's probably the reason
now he is doing ok in IT, lives on his own (with his family), has a solid car, fly gear, dreads and is more confident in himself

 

[Hitchens]

the absolute classic gaslighting

But why are some of you guys so obsess with this topic? You guys are not being force to date single mothers. So whats with the obsession of dating single mothers as a topic?

 

[MrLogic]

you aren’t a real man then

I am.