Those of yall 27+ and older, has it become easier to find the type of mate you've wanted

[Kilgore Trout]

Yes way easier and you become way more in demand


but at the same time you have more competition for the 22-25 year old chicks.

 

[thashiek]

NOPE!

It was much easier in my youth. I had dozens upon dozens of instances of women approaching me. Now that happens like twice a year at best. There was so much variety back then that I'm sure one of them could have been the one... but it wasn't the right time.

And as far as me approaching women and finding "the one", it seems damn near impossible at this point. But I'm not the giving up type, so I'm still shooting my shots.

 

[Balla]

That's what I'm saying. I call that settling.

No.

I rather find my life first then figure out who I want as a mate.

 

[Solomon Caine]

Nah dawg, it ain’t easy.. get em young max 23 year.. lock em down.. as women get older they become more cynical..

 

[Balla]

Why do yall say this? I've known mad hoes my whole life from high school to college, it's hard to find a good girl to even have as a girlfriend back then, let alone settle down with. Lol you know how hard it was to find a girl that didn't have rumors about her?

I'm not tellin nikkas to settle down at 45, but why does everyone make late 20s and 30s sound like you can't find a girl?

Why's that different now for you? Why are women approaching you less now? Is it cuz u not in school?

NOPE!

It was much easier in my youth. I had dozens upon dozens of instances of women approaching me. Now that happens like twice a year at best. There was so much variety back then that I'm sure one of them could have been the one... but it wasn't the right time.

And as far as me approaching women and finding "the one", it seems damn near impossible at this point. But I'm not the giving up type, so I'm still shooting my shots.

 

[Balla]

True... but why can't you get a 23 yr old as a 30 + year old? Why settle down when you're 23?

Nah dawg, it ain’t easy.. get em young max 23 year.. lock em down.. as women get older they become more cynical..

 

[Solomon Caine]

True... but why can't you get a 23 yr old as a 30 + year old? Why settle down when you're 23?

Too much of an age gap.. my girl is only 2 years younger and it feels like 8 years..
We are hardly ever on the same page..

 

[Balla]

Damn maybe it's different for everyone.

Too much of an age gap.. my girl is only 2 years younger and it feels like 8 years..
We are hardly ever on the same page..

 

[Balla]

Yall must live where some good chicks is at because where I'm from no one gets married and stays together long. If they get married at all. In fact, out of everyone I know that's older is not with their woman anymore after a short amount of time. That's why I'm confused.

 

[thashiek]

Why do yall say this? I've known mad hoes my whole life from high school to college, it's hard to find a good girl to even have as a girlfriend back then, let alone settle down with. Lol you know how hard it was to find a girl that didn't have rumors about her?

I'm not tellin nikkas to settle down at 45, but why does everyone make late 20s and 30s sound like you can't find a girl?

Why's that different now for you? Why are women approaching you less now? Is it cuz u not in school?

High school was a different animal. I went to a high school that had over 4500 students. Plus I was on the social media wave in 99. I was over exposed and it made it easy to go anywhere and get approached. Because out of a group of girls, one was bound to find one of us attractive.

Now days, being more solo and not frequenting places that are typically meant for meet ups or hook ups.. its a very rare occurrence. Women now will give me those looks but won't approach. It seems to be happening with all my boys, even the ones who ended up as big successes. Women our age just don't do it as much as teenage girls... and to me that makes perfect sense. They are out of that boy crazy phase.

Don't get me wrong... I'm not saying it's hard to get a woman. Nah, actually that's easy as hell. Getting the right one is what seems impossible.

 

[Balla]

It was like that for me too. bytches would throw themselves at you with no effort. Yeah man once you out of school, shyt is extremely rare.

Don't feel too bad about not finding the right one, bro idk where these guys in here are from, but my school had nothing but sluts there, so idk what people are talking about saying that you gotta settle down so young. The only thing is that she won't have kids if you settle down young. I know I wouldnt settle down with any of the girls I went to school with.

Most people I know that settled down early are single. You can find a nice girl somewhere, maybe work or a library. Not on an app tho lol.

High school was a different animal. I went to a high school that had over 4500 students. Plus I was on the social media wave in 99. I was over exposed and it made it easy to go anywhere and get approached. Because out of a group of girls, one was bound to find one of us attractive.

Now days, being more solo and not frequenting places that are typically meant for meet ups or hook ups.. its a very rare occurrence. Women now will give me those looks but won't approach. It seems to be happening with all my boys, even the ones who ended up as big successes. Women our age just don't do it as much as teenage girls... and to me that makes perfect sense. They are out of that boy crazy phase.

Don't get me wrong... I'm not saying it's hard to get a woman. Nah, actually that's easy as hell. Getting the right one is what seems impossible.

 

[Shadow King]

I was thinking about making a thread like this earlier.... YES... The older and younger females look at you as a potential mate much more for sure. A working black man can have his pick of the litter. Don't worry brehs your time is coming...

Simply working is not the answer.

 

[Contrefaire]

I'm 27 and I'm noticing it's getting easier because people in my age or around it are more serious now. When I was 21ish unless you were cuffed since high school, serious dating was pretty much out of the question for a lot of folks.

That said, I don't think the old "all the good ones are already taken by X age" bullshyt is true anymore. Yeah maybe 10-15+ years ago that was accurate, but more women (and men) are less focused on LTRs and marriage in their early 20s than ever. More people want to get their careers off the ground before settling down now which is smart, and I see nothing wrong with it.

I think more people are realizing that the idea of your dating pool drying up by your late 20s/early 30s is just a fear-mongering relic of the past. I mean really, how many broads are going to college looking for their Mrs. Degree anymore? How many nikkas wanna stop playing the field at 23 and be tied down?

And just think, the shyt a lot of nikkas would've settled for in their early 20s is way different than what they're willing to entertain at 31 and the dudes a lot of young women would've consider themselves "happy" with at 22 looks a lot different at 28 (for some of them anyway).

 

[thashiek]

It was like that for me too. bytches would throw themselves at you with no effort. Yeah man once you out of school, shyt is extremely rare.

Don't feel too bad about not finding the right one, bro idk where these guys in here are from, but my school had nothing but sluts there, so idk what people are talking about saying that you gotta settle down so young. The only thing is that she won't have kids if you settle down young. I know I wouldnt settle down with any of the girls I went to school with.

Most people I know that settled down early are single. You can find a nice girl somewhere, maybe work or a library. Not on an app tho lol.

Maaaan. My school had so many rumors about everyone having aids, the clap, herpes.. just name it lol. It seemed like everyone was easy. Hormones just ran rampant.

For me, at 32 with no kids, I can say I'm definitely being patient. I don't do the baby momma thing or divorce.. so I'll keep waiting.

 

[TallMan_J]

I feel u, but it sounds like settling if you're not ready to settle down yet. Why you can't find a good woman as an older dude? She don't gotta be super young to you, but I feel it's possible for men to find good chick's at 30. Dudes be getting with hoes while they young, so it can happen anytime I think.

I understand what you mean. Sure, you can find someone at any age. It’s just the older you get, the slimmer the pickings. The quality of those pickings decrease, too. Idk too many women in their 30’s without children (who are capable of having them). Now if the dude is okay with linking up with a woman that has children (divorcee etc.), then his potions open up way more. Vice a versa.