Those of yall 27+ and older, has it become easier to find the type of mate you've wanted

[StretfordRed]

I’m 32, and struggled to find women who were right in their head over the past few years.

One thing I forgot about was the woman’s biological clock. Now I’ve met someone who is 30 and I’ve onky dated her for a few weeks and we both have got on well physically and mentally.

She said she wants kids and marriage (in general I mean) and I never quite thought that I’d have to think of the possibility that a woman is going to judge you by that too, especially with the older woman I meet

I was smashing a 24 but she had no substance. Now I’m older I feel more refined. My banter is better, my pockets are deeper and my mind is more settled. I think I need to find a woman to match

 

[Shadow King]

It was like that for me too. bytches would throw themselves at you with no effort. Yeah man once you out of school, shyt is extremely rare.

Don't feel too bad about not finding the right one, bro idk where these guys in here are from, but my school had nothing but sluts there, so idk what people are talking about saying that you gotta settle down so young. The only thing is that she won't have kids if you settle down young. I know I wouldnt settle down with any of the girls I went to school with.

Most people I know that settled down early are single. You can find a nice girl somewhere, maybe work or a library. Not on an app tho lol.

When people say settle down young they don't mean take your high school sweetheart and make it last forever. Though I don't necessarily agree with it, the age thought of for that phrase is 21-25.

Whether the hypothetical female is actually in college or not, the age equivalent to the last 2 years of college is when quality women seem to enter long term relationships and try to ride them out. I can't speak on white girls too much this based on black and Latin women, and while there's different patterns between the 2 of them, the common denominator is those of "quality" don't make it to their mid-20s single. Those who do are on some "cold shoulder on these nikkas"/ladies is pimps too/living out Beyoncé and Rihanna lyrics shyt, which is a mentality that brings on the issues brehs warn each other to avoid. At least where I'm at (Jersey).

I think what happens is we get older and even though we've raised our value, we make concessions on things that were important. The topic of body count on this board is an example. I think most of the dudes on some "never ask, let her 'tell on herself'" wave are 30+, or at the very least have been fukking early so it's no longer important to them. A dude in his early 20s finds body count more important.

I'm not in that age bracket yet but I can anticipate flings becoming easier. Long term relationships to build on? Nah. So I think the "get out the game early" crowd is right in that sense.

 

[Contrefaire]

I understand what you mean. Sure, you can find someone at any age. It’s just the older you get, the slimmer the pickings. The quality of those pickings decrease, too. Idk too many women in their 30’s without children (who are capable of having them). Now if the dude is okay with linking up with a woman that has children (divorcee etc.), then his potions open up way more. Vice a versa.

Is that really true in 2018 though? Sure past a CERTAIN age the pickings are slim, but I just don't believe that age is mid-20s anymore. Now if we're talking about those in their late 30s/early 40s and still searching then sure I'd agree, but there are plenty of women (and men) who are still childless by 27-33.

Honestly I think the biggest issue is the idea that people past X age are just "lames" or "damaged goods" who "didn't get chose". Birth control, dating apps and wage stagnation have made it so that a lot of folks out here have become very selective and careful with their choices.

In 2018 what exactly does a woman have to gain by marrying young when her "sweetheart" could be un(der)employed in a short time or she could just as easily find herself out-earning him by tens of thousands within a few short years? What does a man have to gain by cuffing a chick young when in a few years his income bracket could give him access to far better women?

 

[International Playa]

Yall nikkas really scare me with this age shyt. Yall talk about this all the time.

The older you get, the more single mothers you meet

 

[TallMan_J]

Is that really true in 2018 though? Sure past a CERTAIN age the pickings are slim, but I just don't believe that age is mid-20s anymore. Now if we're talking about those in their late 30s/early 40s and still searching then sure I'd agree, but there are plenty of women (and men) who are still childless by 27-33.

Honestly I think the biggest issue is the idea that people past X age are just "lames" or "damaged goods" who "didn't get chose". Birth control, dating apps and wage stagnation have made it so that a lot of folks out here have become very selective and careful with their choices.

In 2018 what exactly does a woman have to gain by marrying young when her "sweetheart" could be un(der)employed in a short time or she could just as easily find herself out-earning him by tens of thousands within a few short years? What does a man have to gain by cuffing a chick young when in a few years his income bracket could give him access to far better women?

You make some valid points, breh.

 

[DaddyFresh]

As long as you ain’t sloppy and broke it will be. If you got you life and finances in order you will have your pick of the litter from 18-25.

 

[Balla]

I agree with women in their 30s not being as dateable. That's why u get a girl mid to late 20s.

I just feel a man shouldn't force himself to settle down young if he doesn't want to. Maybe it's Just me.

I understand what you mean. Sure, you can find someone at any age. It’s just the older you get, the slimmer the pickings. The quality of those pickings decrease, too. Idk too many women in their 30’s without children (who are capable of having them). Now if the dude is okay with linking up with a woman that has children (divorcee etc.), then his potions open up way more. Vice a versa.

 

[MikelArteta]

it's been easier to date i've had yes i keep count 24 dates with different women since November, all were attractive all but one had no kids, all had a great career, all were black women between 29-34.

I probably would have entered a relationship with a good percentage of them, but not ready to be in a relationship after just being engaged last year

All these women care is that you're ambitious and have a good career and no kids, and because I'm a christian and I go to church its just an added bonus as all these chicks are religious and there are no men in the church anymore.

 

[MikelArteta]

The older you get, the more single mothers you meet

maybe but there are more childless women than ever before

 

[Balla]

Exactly what I'm saying bruh.

I'm 27 and I'm noticing it's getting easier because people in my age or around it are more serious now. When I was 21ish unless you were cuffed since high school, serious dating was pretty much out of the question for a lot of folks.

That said, I don't think the old "all the good ones are already taken by X age" bullshyt is true anymore. Yeah maybe 10-15+ years ago that was accurate, but more women (and men) are less focused on LTRs and marriage in their early 20s than ever. More people want to get their careers off the ground before settling down now which is smart, and I see nothing wrong with it.

I think more people are realizing that the idea of your dating pool drying up by your late 20s/early 30s is just a fear-mongering relic of the past. I mean really, how many broads are going to college looking for their Mrs. Degree anymore? How many nikkas wanna stop playing the field at 23 and be tied down?

And just think, the shyt a lot of nikkas would've settled for in their early 20s is way different than what they're willing to entertain at 31 and the dudes a lot of young women would've consider themselves "happy" with at 22 looks a lot different at 28 (for some of them anyway).

 

[King Poetic]

No

i live in a city where relationships is fake(los angeles) and all about image...

so you might find a chick, but you might not know what's her game

plus trying to find a black woman over 27 without a kid is like trying to find a ink pen in the pacific ocean

 

[Rocket Scientist]

It's hard most women have a story about a dude cheating or have been hurt before or their conversation just lacks.

 

[Balla]

Hear me out yall and answer this.

Why do yall feel an older guy has to settle for a chick the same age?

Answer this, when you are done with college, what is the difference between being 23 and 33 when it comes to meeting a woman to settle down with?

How come you can find a women at 23 after college, but not 33? Why does you being older have to stop you from finding a younger chick?

If you get with a girl while you're young because you feel you won't get any quality type girls as an older dude, you are settling, you are rushing into a relationship because you feel you won't find a capable women when you're older.

Everyone's different tho, some have did most of what they wanted to do and want to settle down, some have not done what they wanted to do.

All I'm saying is, if you wanna settle down young do it, if not don't settle. Do what you want in life first because it will make you go mad if you haven't done what you wanted yet.

 

[Balla]

Get a younger girl that hasn't been through it then.

It's hard most women have a story about a dude cheating or have been hurt before or their conversation just lacks.

 

[Dolla$]

Yup