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How hard is this shyt got damn
Basically.
Twitter argument : If a Husband and Wife both make 80k/year who pays the bills ?
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Basically.
Formerly Black Trash
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If a woman pays nothing shes not worth keeping
I don’t get the concept of separate accounts in a marriage.I only paying all the bill if we have a joint account that we each have authority to access. My wife not keeping her money separate from mine.
Can somebody break that down for me?
WaveWhisperer
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cuz if yall share the whole shyt and one of ya aint being being responsible and considerate , spending all the paper,then you got ya own shyt just incase you gotta get the fukk on ..
Woodwerkz
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All bills paid through joint account that each contributes equally to.
Imagine paying all the bills, she pockets her money, divorces you, and her assets are far in excess of yours while still claiming some of your money. Disgusting.
I had a good friend get burned with the same logic that @Swagnificent is talking about. He said (and I can still quote him nearly verbatim) "I'll never say not to get married but I will say fukk paying for everything when she works also because you don't have the law on your side. 12yrs I can't get back where she worked and saved all of her money. I rushed back after my car accident injuring my back because she made me believe it would strain us down the line by me using my savings to offset the income loss from the Short Term Disability claim. I had no idea she had over $300k stashed away bc I was just paying for everything out of habit. So when I started asking about her money bc she quit her job & was half stepping around the house she wanted to separate. She divorced me a year later and I pay alimony because she was 'accustomed to a lifestyle' based on the fact I paid everything. So in hindsight she played the hustle perfectly and now I'm working 18hrs days between this job and another to still take care of her, the kids and my household. I only found out about what she had saved after finding her bank statements when I was shredding old documents. "
He said he confronted her about it and she bragged about now being about $400k and told him he should be grateful she didn't put him on child support too.
Historically, women got married for financial/economic benefit. If you’re not helping to provide that then there’s no need for marriage.
If I’m putting in the same work hours and have to work when I get home, I ain’t splitting shyt. That’s a lot of extra work and time that’s unpaid.
Gotcha. I think growing up the only times we had separate accounts were for specific needs like “emergency accounts” or “holiday accounts”.
Everything else went into one pot that my mom and dad had access to and they could see where bills were being paid. Sometimes I wonder if a lot of these issues come with more money more problems. Ironically I wonder if accumulating wealth can drive people apart b/c they start worrying more about stuff like this. I know poverty can strain marriages but I almost feel like having too much can too.
Hmmm...I like the idea of letting whoever is better with money deal with it. But that takes good people who ain’t out to fukk u over and trust. Just stuff to think about.
Ezekiel 25:17
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Paying for p*ssy would be way cheaper. What are these women doing if they're entire paychecks going to their bank account? They stacking saving $3000 a month easy, what does the man get? I hate selfish conniving bytches
The only upside is that when y'all do divorce, half that money she saved is yours.
The only upside is that when y'all do divorce, half that money she saved is yours.
Only a man making in the top 1% should have a wife in their house making 80k and not paying any bills.
Unless you a millionaire kat I can't see a wife living in a home making 80k and not paying any bills.
If a wife even says some shyt that she shouldn't pay any bills she is selfish as hell.
shyt would be like a able body man who works 40 hours a week (off on the weekends) and doesn't do chores at the house, but the wife does all the chores.
Unless you a millionaire kat I can't see a wife living in a home making 80k and not paying any bills.
If a wife even says some shyt that she shouldn't pay any bills she is selfish as hell.
shyt would be like a able body man who works 40 hours a week (off on the weekends) and doesn't do chores at the house, but the wife does all the chores.
"Historically, women got married for financial/economic benefit"
Correct, and history and it's teachings have changed drastically.
"If you’re not helping to provide that then there’s no need for marriage."
Correct, and this goes for women too.
"If I’m putting in the same work hours and have to work when I get home, I ain’t splitting shyt. That’s a lot of extra work and time that’s unpaid"
Like I previously mentioned, those things you listed in your other post about cleaning,cooking,etc. are done by both adults in a normal household. The spiel about it being extra unpaid work makes me think im talking to a kid.
My mom would give my dad her whole check and he'd pay the bills (is that a West Indian thing?). They had a joint account, but she let him handle it. She got to pick the house, home renovations, vacations etc. She had a say with how the money was spent. No one would make a major purchase without discussing it with the other.
Piff Perkins
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How hard is this shyt got damn
This is how you know a lot of ppl on twitter are not only stupid but they have no context for these convos outside of Instragram memes and rap lyrics. People in relationships share bills, very often. Both pay for shyt. That's the point of having dual income.