Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

[Canon]

A couple bringing in $120k together can be very comfortable. But let these women tell it, a man making $60k ain't enough.

and the vast majority of them don't even make that

but they have standards and won't settle

 

[Anerdyblackguy]

I don’t know how men do it. I just don’t have it in me to be a stay at home dad.

If shorty is making more than me I have to find a way to get my money up.

 

[Canon]

Right, but he thinks he's speaking facts. I'm saying based on his assertion, why didn't he advise bm instead?

im guessing he aimed it towards them because way more BW listen to Tyler than BM

 

[Peachstate]

@Savvir
@Peachstate

What no one has mentioned is how Settling and Dating Down is 100% dummy shyt.

Why? Because that argument is surrounded purely by income. Just because you make more money than someone doesn't make you better than them. It's poor people that have way more humility and genuine humane acts than rich people.

bytches who talk about Settling and Dating Down are walking red flags.




I agree Finances is the biggest box. But these women aren't talking about monetary investments. They want big houses, luxury cars, fine dining and travel. A couple bringing in $120k together can be very comfortable. But let these women tell it, a man making $60k ain't enough.


You don't need a $200k salary to live comfortable, but you do need it if you want to go to Paris/Dubai.

60k is fine for some. But if the women has a certain lifestyle before she meets a man that she provides for herself, it makes no sense to marry a man she'd have to downgrade her lifestyle for.

 

[Ahadi]

Right, but he thinks he's speaking facts. I'm saying based on his assertion, why didn't he advise bm instead?

Because women today aren’t realistic lol. They’re in fairy tale land.

It’s either die alone, be the “fine auntie”, or get a dog. A dude isn’t gona have everything lol so you all have to sacrifice something.

Be like the Asians and find the best deal.

Morrisborismichaelbstpatrickshemarshakur does not exist

 

[Peachstate]

this post should have said "yeah, my sisters need to tighten up"

this lassai-faire attitude just leads to more complaining and false narratives from your side of the community

Well you were fearmongering, and that doesn't motivate me personally. BW need to tighten up for sure.

 

[Wild self]

60k is fine for some. But if the women has a certain lifestyle before she meets a man that she provides for herself, it makes no sense to marry a man she'd have to downgrade her lifestyle for.

Superficial BS, I'll repeat again.

 

[blues_funk_reggae]

This whole "settling" thing has done a number on women out here
some of these women will wake up one day at 75 years old and still be screaming "mah standards! i'm not settling! mah requirements! I know my worth" from the tallest building
here's the crazy part....men settle all the time. the difference is men do it in silence, men find comfort in who they settled with, we don't scream about "mah standards!" over and over
Kevin Samuels told women to find a "suitable" man. not Mr Right, not Mr Perfect, not a "high value man" or a demigod, he said "suitable" and women lost their minds

 

[Savvir]

60k is fine for some. But if the women has a certain lifestyle before she meets a man that she provides for herself, it makes no sense to marry a man she'd have to downgrade her lifestyle for.

this is confusing...

the pool of men make more than women on average...

but women are complaining about downgrading lifestyle?

seems like the real issue is that anything other than an "upgrade" is settling...

it's gotta be easy as hell to find somebody making the same money as you... from a pool of people that make more than you.

 

[Peachstate]

and the vast majority of them don't even make that

but they have standards and won't settle

That's not who TP is talking about though. He's talking about high earning bw.

It's like the uproar over a bw attorney who said she wouldn't marry a busdriver. Why was she even asked that question? It's so insulting.

 

[Cakebatter]

60k is fine for some. But if the women has a certain lifestyle before she meets a man that she provides for herself, it makes no sense to marry a man she'd have to downgrade her lifestyle for.

Its not like adding a second person doubles expenses. A woman making $100k a year can live the exact same lifestyle if she marries a dude making $30k.

 

[ShackZilla89]

Listen. No shame in working ANY job, especially since black men still face discrimination in the labor market. Salute, and I mean that.

My issue is, why do black women HAVE to marry down? Why can't she marry on her level or higher? There are real consequences to this for women, but bw are expected to look past logic and reality just to have a man on her arm.

Why do black men have to marry down? Most of yall got kids, most of yall are overweight, too many of yall are miserable misandrists that will destroy any man's happiness. Not to mention the fact that alot of yall don't even like men that would positively impact our community. The list can go on...

 

[Ahadi]

This whole "settling" thing has done a number on women out here
some of these women will wake up one day at 75 years old and still be screaming "mah standards! i'm not settling! mah requirements! I know my worth" from the tallest building
here's the crazy part....men settle all the time. the difference is men do it in silence, men find comfort in who they settled with, we don't scream about "mah standards!" over and over
Kevin Samuels told women to find a "suitable" man. not Mr Right, not Mr Perfect, not a "high value man" or a demigod, he said "suitable" and women lost their minds

& that’s why Ol girl on the couch is 40 and confused as her dating life is in shambles. (2 decades and you didn’t find anyone is crazy)

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

60k is fine for some. But if the women has a certain lifestyle before she meets a man that she provides for herself, it makes no sense to marry a man she'd have to downgrade her lifestyle for.

It's her choice. If she skips out on a good man because he can't afford the Benz

 

[FTBS]

Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?

Overweight women with attitudes get wifed everyday. Most men may not prefer overweight rude women but aint no man gonna pick being alone over that if he has no other options. Thats a key difference between the genders...men take what we can get.