Tyler Perry Suggests that BW settle....does not go over well

[Peachstate]

sounds like black women need to step their game up if they arent getting the results they want



that advice sounds very familiar....

No arguments from me lol.

Both sides have work to do.

 

[7th Letter Specialist]

Tell me how y'all would feel about this, and be honest:

Oprah or Beyonce or Michelle Obama uses her platform to say "Listen. Black men are typically more fit and easygoing than black women. Black men want fit and feminine and friendly but the reality is, your soulmate may be overweight and have an attitude because black women go through a lot. It's okay. Choose her anyway because love is all that matters."

Y'all cosigning that or nah?

They been saying this tho. Ain't that what "body positivity" is?

 

[Voice of Reason]

black men are more fit, and more financially capable than black women statistically...

so the black women who "have to settle" should look inward on what puts them in that position

If you take away the over time hours do Black men really make more than Black women?


The astronomical Black male incarnation rate means a sizable amount aren't on the dating market at all.


Plus like a posted above Black men have lower economic mobility than anyone.


Black women are not imagining the lack of viable partners compared to women of other races they are just directing their frustration in the wrong direction.

 

[The Fade]

The allure of asceticism grows

 

[Savvir]

I think there's also a conversation to be had about why some bw would rather die alone than settle and are completely fine with that.

black men are more fit and make more money than black women....

the only women who have to "settle" are the women who cant get what they want....

so it seems they'd rather die alone than do what it takes to get what they want...

especially when "what they want" very clearly exists

(sorry about quoting your repeatedly, we are running around in the same argument now. I didnt look at the screen name of who i was quoting)

 

[Peachstate]

They been saying this tho. Ain't that what "body positivity" is?

100% lol, and yall rightfully call it out. That's all I'm doing in this thread

 

[Ahadi]

I agree you should not have to settle but Black folks need to stop the gender wars when we are dealing with the impact of white supremacy.

Nah. Black ppl need to settle.

Sorry. It is what it is. Until the community got our own infrastructure, then you can be more “selective”.

 

[Canon]

Black women do not make more money than black men.

Anyway, terrible fukking advice, and nobody ever says this to other races of women.

Why didn't he suggest that black men get their money up instead?

well shyt which is it?

and yeah black people need to settle. 2 incomes > 1.

 

[Savvir]

No arguments from me lol.

Both sides have work to do.

nah, black women have the work to do...

black men have more options in dating...

if we cant get it in our community, we can easily get it from other races of women

 

[7th Letter Specialist]

100% lol, and yall rightfully call it out. That's all I'm doing in this thread

Fair enough

 

[Peachstate]

nah, black women have the work to do...

black men have more options in dating...

if we cant get it in our community, we can easily get it from other races of women

Well, enjoy. Everyone should go where they're appreciated.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I agree you should not have to settle but Black folks need to stop the gender wars when we are dealing with the impact of white supremacy.

@Savvir
@Peachstate

What no one has mentioned is how Settling and Dating Down is 100% dummy shyt.

Why? Because that argument is surrounded purely by income. Just because you make more money than someone doesn't make you better than them. It's poor people that have way more humility and genuine humane acts than rich people.

bytches who talk about Settling and Dating Down are walking red flags.

Finances are a pretty big box. The biggest box, actually. My example was silly and superficial, I grant you that. Financial concerns literally affect your future and your descendants' futures.

Hard agree on your last paragraph.

I agree Finances is the biggest box. But these women aren't talking about monetary investments. They want big houses, luxury cars, fine dining and travel. A couple bringing in $120k together can be very comfortable. But let these women tell it, a man making $60k ain't enough.


You don't need a $200k salary to live comfortable, but you do need it if you want to go to Paris/Dubai.

 

[Canon]

the delusion that black women have around them and there status is fukking wild

 

[Peachstate]

well shyt which is it?

and yeah black people need to settle. 2 incomes > 1.

Right, but he thinks he's speaking facts. I'm saying based on his assertion, why didn't he advise bm instead?

 

[Savvir]

Well, enjoy. Everyone should go where they're appreciated.

this post should have said "yeah, my sisters need to tighten up"

this lassai-faire attitude just leads to more complaining and false narratives from your side of the community