Walk me through the mind of nikkas that create single mothers or cheat on their wives

[Serious]

People lie to themselves about their ability to be a spouse and/or parent, even though their is nothing inherently wrong with not wanting to take on either responsibility. And then you have society questioning people when they are not married or have kids, which adds pressure. But some people don't have the values, habits, and resources to do the job, unfortunately they don't have an alternative framework to fall back on. And so you eventually end up with a mismatch after the fact.

I challenge alot of assumptions within my own family regarding family creation. I've told my nephew it's ok if he doesn't want to get married or have kids. But I also tell him that coming from poverty in NYC means that his tradeoffs are probably gonna be more substantial. And that the variables of poverty, blackness, geography, lack of social capital can be overcome but require a larger degree of sacrifice and planning. Thus, this puts me at odds with the rest of the fam that places too much emphasis on fate and social status when it comes to marriage and having a kid.

damn you get it.....
I'm trying build wealth, so 'social status" and "material possessions' hold me back.
It's truly a sacrifice at times to break the cycle but I see the green light.

 

[CinnaSlim]

Tell me why I was talking online to a chick that had a one and 2 year old....

Nah get this, she said she aint been in a relationship in two years.

That type of math aint adding up

That's how I felt when this dude told me he was broken up with his baby's mom but she's pregnant again with his child.

People have kids not just unwed but uncoupled lol. You dont have to be in a relationship. People dont give a fukk anymore lol.

 

[Serious]

That's how I felt when this dude told me he was broken up with his baby's mom but she's pregnant again with his child.

People have kids not just unwed but uncoupled lol. You dont have to be in a relationship. People dont give a fukk anymore lol.

Well I do
and I ghosted her ass....

I know not all single moms are trifling because I grew up with one that wasn't, but damn that shyt right there is a fukk no.

 

[ultraflexed]

Yo. .. I finished reading that book a while ago. I was meant to hit you up in private to discuss the book. I'll message you later.

One of my side pieces caught me reading the book actually. She wanted to read it but I told her to find her own copy. Once she did... she was mad as fukk. .. she was complaining "not all women are like that, especially not me."

I told her "if it doesn't apply then let it fly." Clearly it did because she's still mad about that book now. I'm gonna have to bush her. That book clearly struck a nerve.

 

[Goat poster]

Either a idiot or kid but it really isn’t rocket surgery...

Just like crime, most cheating is from opportunity which is why work is where a lot of mfs do dirt. And hormones are a crazy thing, depending on the timing, relationship status, etc...if the right person is throwing it at you most people will take it.

Now leaving a single mother is a different story but the same common sense principles apply, sometimes people fukk but don’t get along at all. Not really that hard a concept to understand. You’ll meet people that you get along with fine at first then once y’all get past that surface level bs you see that y’all really ain’t that compatible.

And I don’t want to hear about self discipline from broke, sloppy nikkas

Yea you can turn down some ass / dikk from an undesirable but if you bank account dry, you look like shyt and a bum that has accomplished nothing then no one gives af about your over valuations of sex. You get no awards for that shyt

TRUTH

Especially the last part.

I’ve found the most judgemental men are ones who never had options.

Nobody gets married to cheat.

Hell, ppl make monogamy the end all and be all of marriage when it is so many OTHER factors where couples fall short( communication, respect, empathy, sacrifice, nagging, controlling) which then may lead to a spouse to cheat.

The Coli is full of young dudes tho.

 

[CW_1991]

I agree. Monogamy is not natural at all. Europeans were the ones to refine this concept.

But.... I don't agree with cheating. There are women who are happy to have an arrangement where their husband gets side p*ssy as long as he takes care of business at home. But we're talking about kept women who are a small percentile.

Most women would not be happy with that kind of arrangement because fidelity can sometimes be the delicate thread that keeps a marriage together. Finances, intimacy, attraction etc. .. those ties can be completely severed but it's the cheating that is usually the straw that breaks the camel's back.

Yeah, if she's a quality female and you know it'll hurt her then you don't do it. But these other birds out here, it's whatever

 

[shonuff]

man you gotta be young to ask such a stupid question

dudes and chicks kill me with the "you not respectable " shyt or the best ...you have no "discipline"

MLK fukked around is he not moral ? not "disciplined "? - he lacks self control? Elijah Muhammed same thing - fukked women besides who he was supposed to fukk

humans and yes ADULTS. want to fukk other ppl other than who they are "with" - shyt is WORLDWIDE - kings - presidents businessmen popes and swamis....even fukking Ghandi had a side chick

so maybe you need to ask - why you need to judge ...or have such a self evident question answered

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

man you gotta be young to ask such a stupid question

dudes and chicks kill me with the "you not respectable " shyt or the best ...you have no "discipline"

MLK fukked around is he not moral ? not "disciplined "? - he lacks self control? Elijah Muhammed same thing - fukked women besides who he was supposed to fukk

humans and yes ADULTS. want to fukk other ppl other than who they are "with" - shyt is WORLDWIDE - kings - presidents businessmen popes and swamis....even fukking Ghandi had a side chick

so maybe you need to ask - why you need to judge ...or have such a self evident question answered

Breh let ya girl cheat on you and then hit you with that MLK & Ghandi & Elijah line you just pulled and then come back and tell us how moral and disciplined she is.



Being good at your job doesn't make you a good husband. Lying and cheating are immoral no matter who is doing it.

Weinstein & Cosby did plenty of good but they're also rapist.

 

[Koli_Kat]

You think you love her. Sometimes you gotta sacrifice that nut for the person you love. Even if easy p*ssy falls into your lap. Why go through the process of marriage just to tear it down? I wish brehs had pre-nut clarity. Brehs can't be overly dominated by their heart(Wives/GF's) and their dikk(hoes they wanna smash). Just be a bachelor or set up a FWB relationship with the woman you love. Y'all can talk chill and do all the things you want, and be guilt free.

99% of the time that's not what she wants.Only so long you can bang a woman out in a fwb situation until she either

A. Wants new and exciting dikk
B. Want something more serious

 

[Biscayne]

Yep

 

[Serious]

Breh let ya girl cheat on you and then hit you with that MLK & Ghandi & Elijah line you just pulled and then come back and tell us how moral and disciplined she is.



Being good at your job doesn't make you a good husband. Lying and cheating are immoral no matter who is doing it.

Weinstein & Cosby did plenty of good but they're also rapist.

Also can we redefine work or a job. I probably work for what is equivalent to 90 minutes in a day. The rest of time I'm just surfing the web looking busy. Heck fairly convinced, I do work on my masters degree online at work and no one would bat an eye.

 

[thekyuke]

I’m not in that camp (I’m faithfully married with kids), but I’m willing to bet that it’s due to the fact that your penis feels very good when it enters a vagina.

DUNHHH!? WTF,is this even a post? OP,I'm a married man-you didn't know this srsly?? Newsflash! That's why we do what we do-women who think they can do the same are called hos.PERIOD

 

[kej718]

It's not always the mans fault. Some women will have a baby thinking it will keep or change a man. Ultimately she gets to decide if she becomes a single mom. A man has no say in if she will keep a child.

Never been married so I don't know why a man would cheat. It may be because they are not in love and he wants to keep the family together, or not enough sex.

 

[BlackJesus]

Right... this breh wants a PhD level dissertation on why this happens. Uhh...because sex feels good???

So your willing to throw away your kids because sex feels good?

 

[Wildhundreds]

Nikkas in here jeulzing like a mfer..

If you know you can't stop fcking bytches, why get married?

And if you must fck another woman, while you're married, keep it to a one night stand. No numbers exchanged, no communication..

If you can't do one of the above, thats beta male shyt..