Them hoes ain't really friends...regardless of who saw who first and who liked/started persuing him first I don't believe 2 women could honestly claim to be "friends" while both are actively going after the same man. There are too many men in the world to go after a man my friend wants and vice versus ...there's just some shyt you just don't do and that's one of them.
There's no reason why someone I currently(as in we keep in close contact, regularly talk or hang out) consider my friend would be dealing with the same man, once we both become aware of the situation. Someone has got to back down, if nothing else than for the sake of true friendship...also who really wants a man who would knowingly try to date 2 friends? Doesn't seen like much of a man to me... because, again there are too many other options available, especially for men...Exceptionally so depending on where you're located...there's no need to go double dipping in the same circle of friends. Situations like this immediately make me side the dude...like why you gotta try to get at my home girl? Within my circle there's a good chance he wouldn't end up dating either of us because we'd both decide that he isn't
worth it...there's just too many options for this type of thing to occur unless one of the women isn't truly friends with the other to begin with. Competition in that form doesn't belong or dwell with the confines of friendship. And I believe that goes for both men and women.
I used to work with 2 so called friends at Express a few years ago, and while they were "boys" around me and our other Co workers they constantly talked shyt about the other to me because they both wanted to talk to me. It was a huge turn off and I stayed away from both of them first of all because neither of them were the physical type of guy I liked: Secondly they way they would trash the other behind each other's back in an attempt to make themselves more appealing to me was just pathetic. A man who knows what's he's got to offer and or bring to the table doesn't need to down the next-let alone his boy- to attract a woman if he's got he's got it, calling out your boy won't win you any points, and lastly I was well aware simply by their hoe-tactics alone that if I did end up choosing one over the other and shyt went left, those 2 f*ckboys (I hate that term but it fits them to the T) would more than likely remain cool on some level and would probably try and trash me in the end so I left them both alone.
That type of behavior reeks of insecurity, and a pathetic lack of self, and those characteristics don't appear out of no where, i would guess that theres an underlying resentment of some sort thats been there rhe entire time...
I would rather chill 1 deep than be frenemies with a woman who looks at me as the competition, bc honestly as women we deal with that type of shyt from all types of other women anyways, why make a women like that a friend to begin with?