What if she doesn't initiate text first?

[kaldurahm]

I actually just went on a date and lost epically might make a thread later. Lost so bad that she originally clowning me to her friends and family.

But imma toss it to the game and take the L

Just gotta try to improve myself.

 

[Dixon Cider]

trust me, and every other breh in this thread that said call women.

you don't know how many times women have told me its refreshing to see a man call them instead of texting. It builds rapport much quicker, makes her more comfortable and above all, it expedites the path to her p*ssy.

I mean i just don't call her randomly because I know she is usually at work until certain times. We make plans we talk on the phone. She's actually pretty pleasant to talk to on the phone as well but just poppin up with a phone call to talk is kinda

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

I actually just went on a date and lost epically might make a thread later. Lost so bad that she originally clowning me to her friends and family.

But imma toss it to the game and take the L

Just gotta try to improve myself.

Tell the story breh

We're all friends here

 

[Rawtid]

I'm saying...there's actually threads like "if I gave her my number in February and it's July and she hasn't called, is she playing hard to get?"

Maybe she's busy. Works a lot?

 

[FreedMind]

man you'll KNOW if she's feeling you... If you gotta do some mental gymnastics just to convince yourself she's interested, she probably not.

Don't thirst, it'll just leave you bitter

 

[kaldurahm]

Tell the story breh

We're all friends here

Might as well. Alright so first strike was when we were kissing and she went straight for tongue kissing, I wasn't ready for it so I was like wtf. Tried again and was like wtf again, just felt hella forced for a first kiss and after that the date went all the way down hill. I told her that I'm abstinent(for religious reasons and pregnancy scare, know bad move) and she was judging me since. Ive been abstinent for the past 2 years almost 3 since college.

I'm not gonna lie I took major Ls. But the maturity levels were also different. Im older and way more serious about career.

I learned my lesson, I need to get in where I fit in and date a nerd . Because I'm definitely a square and she the opposite. Even sht that I do seemed like I was a weirdo.
Probably biggest L on the coli. All good though, I'm 21 and new to this.

 

[International Playa]

Even tho you are on good terms and good vibes

Thoughts?

Kent, is that you breh?

 

[Virtuous_Brotha]

Completely normal in the beginning stages but if there still no initiave from her too text first after you've built rapport then its off to the bushes she goes

 

[Dixon Cider]

Completely normal in the beginning stages but if there still no initiave from her too text first after you've built rapport then its off to the bushes she goes

The rapport was built before we even had each others numbers.. All this began because she was hanging at a friends house and after a few times we got closer. In real life she actually asks questions to know me so its weird

 

[CinnamonTequila]

The rapport was built before we even had each others numbers.. All this began because she was hanging at a friends house and after a few times we got closer. In real life she actually asks questions to know me so its weird

The modern dating scene is just horrendously fukked up... Everything is so damn complicated...
We live in a world where people are afraid to feel anything genuine, or at the very least, are afraid to show it. If you like someone, you don’t tell them how you feel; rather you act interested enough for them to pick up on it, but not enough to freak them out. Don’t like it? Too bad. It’s all a big game and if you don’t play by the rules then you lose, and if you lose you end up alone and drowning in a pile of your own insecurity, wondering what you did wrong.

Everything is done through texting. It’s weird to call someone in the modern world just to have a conversation or try to make plans, so we’re forced to wait anxiously for a response that might not ever come.
Everything is calculated to appear thoughtless, and it is one of the most exhausting games I’ve ever had to play.

If I like someone, I want to hang out with him. It’s as simple as that. Or at least it should be. But in the dating culture to which we are enslaved, it has to be more convoluted than that. If I talk to him too much, I’m needy. If I’m always free when he asks me to hangout, I’m clingy and have no life of my own. If he takes three hours to respond to my text, and my phone is in my hand when I get his reply, I have to wait to answer so I don’t seem too eager. And I am constantly wondering why I play these stupid games.

Why can’t I call someone because I like talking to him? Why does showing I care make me needy?
I am so tired of living in a world where apathy is more effective in getting someone’s attention than honesty. I’m tired of the manipulative games that men and women play with one another in an effort to maintain control in a relationship that we’re not allowed to define.

So here’s my idea: let’s all stop being little fukks. Respect other people enough to tell them the truth. If someone makes you happy, tell them. If someone inspires you, tell them. If you’re not interested in someone, please just fukking tell them.

Stop treating a relationship of any kind like it’s a challenge to complete. Be honest with other people about how you feel, and don’t get so lost in playing the game that you forget to extend that same courtesy to yourself.

I'm only 22 and I'm already sooo fukking tired of these stupid games I just can't play them anymore and I refuse to do so.

OP: Just call her and ask her to go out. Talk to her in person and tell her that you like her and you would like to know if you guys are on the same page...
Trust me, if she's into you she will LOVE that. If she's not, then you already have your answer and will stop going crazy.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Slick think there was a good chance of smashing when we chilled because she wasn't against going somewhere to relax but same time it wasn't clear that it would go down, kissing hasn't happened.

If you haven't kissed her yet breh.. she ain't interested and if she is you getting closer and closer into the friend zone by the second.

 

[Ohene]

and that's where all y'all keep messin up


why are you letting this chic affect you to the point of riling your emotions?


that simp life is serious

fukk you lol . I usually dont care ...but man over the last 2 months I've been going through some shyt breh

 

[Voice of Reason]

trust me, and every other breh in this thread that said call women.

you don't know how many times women have told me its refreshing to see a man call them instead of texting. It builds rapport much quicker, makes her more comfortable and above all, it expedites the path to her p*ssy.

Absolutely, most women are going to get bored if you only text them. Even if they were initially feeling you.

 

[Voice of Reason]

I mean i just don't call her randomly because I know she is usually at work until certain times. We make plans we talk on the phone. She's actually pretty pleasant to talk to on the phone as well but just poppin up with a phone call to talk is kinda

Stop being predictable and call her at random times. As long as your not being excessive she will appreciate it and feel like you're taking the lead. Remember women want to be lead

 

[SheWantTheD]

trust me, and every other breh in this thread that said call women.

you don't know how many times women have told me its refreshing to see a man call them instead of texting. It builds rapport much quicker, makes her more comfortable and above all, it expedites the path to her p*ssy.

Real talk.. these new millennial chicks around my age prefer texting though

Either that or they just ain't that interested.. and texting 3 different dudes while you are always on your phone is easier than talking to one on the phone.