What if she doesn't initiate text first?

[SheWantTheD]

Might as well. Alright so first strike was when we were kissing and she went straight for tongue kissing, I wasn't ready for it so I was like wtf. Tried again and was like wtf again, just felt hella forced for a first kiss and after that the date went all the way down hill. I told her that I'm abstinent(for religious reasons and pregnancy scare, know bad move) and she was judging me since. Ive been abstinent for the past 2 years almost 3 since college.

I'm not gonna lie I took major Ls. But the maturity levels were also different. Im older and way more serious about career.

I learned my lesson, I need to get in where I fit in and date a nerd . Because I'm definitely a square and she the opposite. Even sht that I do seemed like I was a weirdo.
Probably biggest L on the coli. All good though, I'm 21 and new to this.

Breh.. how old is the girl? You talking like you were in your late 20s or early 30s, but your only 21 LOL.

 

[Ohene]

Real talk.. these new millennial chicks around my age prefer texting though

Either that or they just ain't that interested.. and texting 3 different dudes while you are always on your phone is easier than talking to one on the phone.

pretty much man. shyt, there have even been times when getting the number I asked do you want me to call or text and 100% of the time they said text. These girls are too scared for phone convos. It's a quick way to get your ass ignored.

 

[FukYaFeelings]

Breh.. how old is the girl? You talking like you were in your late 20s or early 30s, but your only 21 LOL.

 

[Piff Perkins]

whatever you do.....dont look thirsty

This. If you want to keep pursuing her go ahead but don't be thirsty. If you send her a text in the morning and she don't respond, don't send another in the afternoon or evening. In fact don't send shyt until she responds.

And if she responds hours later don't be responding back in like 30 seconds lol. You got shyt to do too, no need to respond immediately. Let her wait.

 

[Malik1time]

trust me, and every other breh in this thread that said call women.

you don't know how many times women have told me its refreshing to see a man call them instead of texting. It builds rapport much quicker, makes her more comfortable and above all, it expedites the path to her p*ssy.

Alot of brehs should do that. I've called several girls and they be liking that

 

[Dixon Cider]

The modern dating scene is just horrendously fukked up... Everything is so damn complicated...
We live in a world where people are afraid to feel anything genuine, or at the very least, are afraid to show it. If you like someone, you don’t tell them how you feel; rather you act interested enough for them to pick up on it, but not enough to freak them out. Don’t like it? Too bad. It’s all a big game and if you don’t play by the rules then you lose, and if you lose you end up alone and drowning in a pile of your own insecurity, wondering what you did wrong.

Everything is done through texting. It’s weird to call someone in the modern world just to have a conversation or try to make plans, so we’re forced to wait anxiously for a response that might not ever come.
Everything is calculated to appear thoughtless, and it is one of the most exhausting games I’ve ever had to play.

If I like someone, I want to hang out with him. It’s as simple as that. Or at least it should be. But in the dating culture to which we are enslaved, it has to be more convoluted than that. If I talk to him too much, I’m needy. If I’m always free when he asks me to hangout, I’m clingy and have no life of my own. If he takes three hours to respond to my text, and my phone is in my hand when I get his reply, I have to wait to answer so I don’t seem too eager. And I am constantly wondering why I play these stupid games.

Why can’t I call someone because I like talking to him? Why does showing I care make me needy?
I am so tired of living in a world where apathy is more effective in getting someone’s attention than honesty. I’m tired of the manipulative games that men and women play with one another in an effort to maintain control in a relationship that we’re not allowed to define.

So here’s my idea: let’s all stop being little fukks. Respect other people enough to tell them the truth. If someone makes you happy, tell them. If someone inspires you, tell them. If you’re not interested in someone, please just fukking tell them.

Stop treating a relationship of any kind like it’s a challenge to complete. Be honest with other people about how you feel, and don’t get so lost in playing the game that you forget to extend that same courtesy to yourself.

I'm only 22 and I'm already sooo fukking tired of these stupid games I just can't play them anymore and I refuse to do so.

OP: Just call her and ask her to go out. Talk to her in person and tell her that you like her and you would like to know if you guys are on the same page...
Trust me, if she's into you she will LOVE that. If she's not, then you already have your answer and will stop going crazy.

As much as I'd like to say good morning and hope you have a good day. I feel it makes me look corny but not that I care how I look it just leaves me vulnerable and like I said anything fukkkery happens between us is going to reflect on the social group as well.
Even my last relationship I didn't ever pour my heart out at the end and tell how I felt because of vulnerability and not falling into beta male activity. This current one I have no problem leading, again she works alot. Can't really say much when shes tired. She replies during work but like I said if shes not initiating I feel like im doing too
Much.

 

[Dixon Cider]

Not too long ago this chick I fukked couple times was around people I knew and was all "he keeps texting me like crazy" i literally texted the bytch to formulate a next time to
fukk
And these bytches get all
Stupid and say shyt like that to make it look like nikkas is hounding them, i ignored her ever since that.. Thats what im trying to avoid with this one.

 

[Voice of Reason]

Real talk.. these new millennial chicks around my age prefer texting though

Either that or they just ain't that interested.. and texting 3 different dudes while you are always on your phone is easier than talking to one on the phone.

Trust me if she's interested she wants you to call.

 

[Dreadknox77]

One text , one phone call . If nothing after that , bushes status

 

[Dixon Cider]

Hmmm shot out a text an hour ago.... No response... Will edit this post if replied but until then FDB, i'm over this whole dating/mating/friends/fukking/whatever single
shyt

 

[Ronnie Macho]

Even tho you are on good terms and good vibes

Thoughts?

You gotta be like Jeezy my nikka...

"If a bytch text me now, she might not get no reply
I'm too busy doing me, I'm 'bout to turn up or die"

To answer your question...never believe what a bytch says...only believe what she shows you by her actions...

 

[Dixon Cider]

You gotta be like Jeezy my nikka...

"If a bytch text me now, she might not get no reply
I'm too busy doing me, I'm 'bout to turn up or die"

To answer your question...never believe what a bytch says...only believe what she shows you by her actions...

I mean we was vibin so of course ima
Text to check on her and not on no bugging type just but like i think its a good sign if you have a female you talk to everyday... Or maybe im bugging.

 

[Ronnie Macho]

I mean we was vibin so of course ima
Text to check on her and not on no bugging type just but like i think its a good sign if you have a female you talk to everyday... Or maybe im bugging.

Breh...she's talking to you and 10 other dudes...if she look like anything she's getting hit on at least 10+ times a day as soon as she walks out the door...don't make the
mistake of thinking you're the only dude that she talks to that feels that way...don't make the mistake of thinking your special to her or irreplaceable...you haven't heard from her
because she's making time for someone else...go do you breh...

 

[Rozay Oro]

I actually just went on a date and lost epically might make a thread later. Lost so bad that she originally clowning me to her friends and family.

But imma toss it to the game and take the L

Just gotta try to improve myself.

You make the thread?

 

[Dixon Cider]

Hmmm shot out a text an hour ago.... No response... Will edit this post if replied but until then FDB, i'm over this whole dating/mating/friends/fukking/whatever single
shyt

Yea this game is silly