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What is it like being in your 20s
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I turn 22 on the 31st of this month. 
After 21, it's
After 21, it's
Vandelay
Life is absurd. Lean into it.
Dont have kids before 25.
Dont have kids before 25.
Dont have kids before 25.
Travel.
Get a degree, trade, or start a business.
Dont have kids before 30.
Dont have kids before 25.
Dont have kids before 25.
Travel.
Get a degree, trade, or start a business.
Dont have kids before 30.
Why not
You don't have the long money, maturity, and adult experience to support a kid before 30.
get money...travel..drink...smoke...get p*ssy...repeat....
try to come out of it disease and child free....
try to come out of it disease and child free....
*L*E*G*A*C*Y*
Done.
My 20s are gonna be over come August 3rd this year. Big 3-0.
They were fun, but they sucked because I was in college for most of them in a city I didn't like and I spent most of those years broke as a joke and jobless.
I'm more looking forward to consistent income, job stability, and having money in my 30s now.
If I could do it again, I wouldn't.
Also, I have done the best in those years to establish myself on many different platforms...I'm glad I'm at where I'm at now and the possibilities are endless.
They were fun, but they sucked because I was in college for most of them in a city I didn't like and I spent most of those years broke as a joke and jobless.
I'm more looking forward to consistent income, job stability, and having money in my 30s now.
If I could do it again, I wouldn't.
Also, I have done the best in those years to establish myself on many different platforms...I'm glad I'm at where I'm at now and the possibilities are endless.
*L*E*G*A*C*Y*
Done.
I just graduated from college almost two years ago at 27.
I think I would of been happier if I wasn't in a school environment for well over 20 years. It was just too much and became really frustrating and irritating being in that environment. But as much as I want to give up all sorts of excuses for my 20s not being as fruitful as they could of been, ultimately the brunt of the blame goes towards myself. I was really irresponsible and didn't know the value of things because I grew up relatively priveleged and didn't have to worry about money. At the same time, even though I could get what I wanted (clothes, weed, food,) I wasn't happy cause I wanted more. It's hard to break that cycle of dependency that I was in, especially being a first generation Nigerian/West Indian in America and trying to adjust to the culture/work culture of the country...in a country where black people in general are at the absolute bottom of the totem pole and in a city (Pittsburgh) with the poorest and one of the most disadvantaged black communities in America and there are no opportunities in general.
I'm really sorry to go there, but it was the absolute WORST environment for someone like me. And I truly hated it there. And I spent way too long hating it to the point where I'm finally getting over all of the BS and hardships those years provided just now.
I guess the reason I spent so long in school was because I realized that I would be stuck forever living with my family in Pittsburgh until my 30s without a degree of any sort. There were no opportunities there, so I had to leave. And I realized that 10 years ago. So that took me a decade to get to the spot I wanted to be and now I'm happier. I remember making lists, trying to take any opportunity to get out...if it was going to community college to get my GPA and credits up to transfer to a four year university...or just trying to find someway to make money since I wasn't trying to do anything illegal and there were little to no opportunities.
I'm much happier now..even though life ain't sweet. At least I'm not sitting in the basement of my mom's house doing nothing with my life.
I think I would of been happier if I wasn't in a school environment for well over 20 years. It was just too much and became really frustrating and irritating being in that environment. But as much as I want to give up all sorts of excuses for my 20s not being as fruitful as they could of been, ultimately the brunt of the blame goes towards myself. I was really irresponsible and didn't know the value of things because I grew up relatively priveleged and didn't have to worry about money. At the same time, even though I could get what I wanted (clothes, weed, food,) I wasn't happy cause I wanted more. It's hard to break that cycle of dependency that I was in, especially being a first generation Nigerian/West Indian in America and trying to adjust to the culture/work culture of the country...in a country where black people in general are at the absolute bottom of the totem pole and in a city (Pittsburgh) with the poorest and one of the most disadvantaged black communities in America and there are no opportunities in general.
I'm really sorry to go there, but it was the absolute WORST environment for someone like me. And I truly hated it there. And I spent way too long hating it to the point where I'm finally getting over all of the BS and hardships those years provided just now.
I guess the reason I spent so long in school was because I realized that I would be stuck forever living with my family in Pittsburgh until my 30s without a degree of any sort. There were no opportunities there, so I had to leave. And I realized that 10 years ago. So that took me a decade to get to the spot I wanted to be and now I'm happier. I remember making lists, trying to take any opportunity to get out...if it was going to community college to get my GPA and credits up to transfer to a four year university...or just trying to find someway to make money since I wasn't trying to do anything illegal and there were little to no opportunities.
I'm much happier now..even though life ain't sweet. At least I'm not sitting in the basement of my mom's house doing nothing with my life.
You're actually winning more than you realize. I'm 26 but 30's are a lot more exciting and fun when you lay down the ground work from the 20's
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cruising at 30,000
the hangovers suck 
Vandelay
Life is absurd. Lean into it.
No one i know personally with kids before 25 is doing that good...eventually most parents get their finances and life right, but by then they are in their 40s.
Personally i dont like the thought of having my first kid in my 30s, but what i dislike even more is not being able to provide adequentely for my child. Whats adequente is debatable, but i define it as good schools, healthcare, traveling, and extracirricular/enrichment activities, and being able to spend some real time with them.
Shuttling them to daycare/headstart while i work 2 jobs because health insurance crushed my paycheck isnt the business.
Im at 30s doorstep, and im just finally getting things in order.
1. Realize that life is not short, it's LONG. And long as HELL if you make the wrong decisions.
2. Realize that your friends are not going to be there when you need them the most, nor will family or females. You are in this alone.
3. TAKE RISKS. I can't say this enough... TAKE RISKS. I didn't start taking risks until maybe a year or two ago.... my friends see the big difference in my life and how it's improved. Just a few months back I took a nine hour dolo trip to see a friend... shyt was awesome. Now I take random trips all the time.
4. LIVE LIKE YOU'RE BROKE. Or you will be. This coincides with #3.
5. If you are a person of color it's MASTER DEGREE/HIGHER OR GRIND ON A BUSINESS. No other options for us.
5. With that said... WORK REALLY fukkING HARD. You're 20. No excuse for not putting in 13 hour days if you have to.
6. With that said.... RELAX. Life is LONG. It's LONG as hell. Success takes time. Enjoy the ride. Enjoy your friends, indulge in cheat meals, play some video games, waste an hour on thecoli... you have to recharge.
7. Learn to FORGIVE PEOPLE no matter how hard it is. ALWAYS BE THE BIGGER PERSON. LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU APPRECIATE THEM WHILE YOU CAN. Trust me those random acts of forgiveness come back in the most random times.
8. Realize YOU CAN BOUNCE BACK FROM ANYTHING. It's never over. Especially if you start a business. I've been flat broke at least twice, my businesses have gone up and down. But I've also made 4 figures in one day more times than I can remember. It's a ride you learn to get comfortable with.
9. No more fukking EXCUSES. Anything that happens in life, is YOUR FAULT.
10. Plan to win. This game called life is a marathon. Play it as such.
2. Realize that your friends are not going to be there when you need them the most, nor will family or females. You are in this alone.
3. TAKE RISKS. I can't say this enough... TAKE RISKS. I didn't start taking risks until maybe a year or two ago.... my friends see the big difference in my life and how it's improved. Just a few months back I took a nine hour dolo trip to see a friend... shyt was awesome. Now I take random trips all the time.
4. LIVE LIKE YOU'RE BROKE. Or you will be. This coincides with #3.
5. If you are a person of color it's MASTER DEGREE/HIGHER OR GRIND ON A BUSINESS. No other options for us.
5. With that said... WORK REALLY fukkING HARD. You're 20. No excuse for not putting in 13 hour days if you have to.
6. With that said.... RELAX. Life is LONG. It's LONG as hell. Success takes time. Enjoy the ride. Enjoy your friends, indulge in cheat meals, play some video games, waste an hour on thecoli... you have to recharge.
7. Learn to FORGIVE PEOPLE no matter how hard it is. ALWAYS BE THE BIGGER PERSON. LET PEOPLE KNOW YOU APPRECIATE THEM WHILE YOU CAN. Trust me those random acts of forgiveness come back in the most random times.
8. Realize YOU CAN BOUNCE BACK FROM ANYTHING. It's never over. Especially if you start a business. I've been flat broke at least twice, my businesses have gone up and down. But I've also made 4 figures in one day more times than I can remember. It's a ride you learn to get comfortable with.
9. No more fukking EXCUSES. Anything that happens in life, is YOUR FAULT.
10. Plan to win. This game called life is a marathon. Play it as such.
NERO
All Star
You realize that this world is fukked up and there is precious little you can do about it. It will chew you up and spit you out. You will not be an astronaut and it is exceedingly difficult to save money. People are generally shytty and women are generally petty as hell. You realize that nothing is free and you will have to sacrifice to make something of yourself. You will see friends and family die and you will grow to hate the white man if you didn't already. No one will give you the benefit of the doubt especially as a young black man. If you dont already you will come to appreciate the humanity of black peoples as opposed to the virulent cac race.
Dreamzeedream
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some of the realist stuff i read on this site
Dreamzeedream
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i been 20 for four months now.. it has its ups and downs.. im just starting to enjoy,my freedom though, one thing ive realize i have been getting more attention from women esp from older ones. i can honestly say im liking the person im become. my 20s are starting off as a learning experience