What is life like years later after someone close to you passes away?

[NkrumahWasRight Is Wrong]

It hurts more when you are not mentally prepared for it.

I was prepared for both of my grandmothers deaths so I moved on pretty quick. Although carrying the casket and shoveling dirt on her grave was pretty haunting (religious tradition ).

Idk what I'll do when my mom passes. She's turning 70 in November and already survived breast cancer so I expect her to be around a while. My dad has been a smoker for decades so it'll be less of a shocker when he goes

 

[UberEatsDriver]

They show up in your dreams.
You feel their presence in the beginning, less as time goes on.
Hearing they died breaks you in half like nothing you’ve ever felt before in life.
You’ll never get that innocence back about life that you had. Now you know your loved ones can get snatched at any time.
Seeing their body fukks your head up. You’ll never completely get that image out of your head. I sat alone with my brother in the funeral home for like 30 minutes and it still haunts me seeing him like that. He looked peaceful but he was too young to die. Makes me mad all over again writing this.
I moved on....before I had a blind rage about it...but I had to stop because I still had to live my life and go on but I’ve become a lot more cold and jaded about life and people. It ain’t right but I can’t help it.

Was your brother murdered If you don’t mind me asking?

 

[UberEatsDriver]

I was prepared for both of my grandmothers deaths so I moved on pretty quick. Although carrying the casket and shoveling dirt on her grave was pretty haunting (religious tradition ).

Idk what I'll do when my mom passes. She's turning 70 in November and already survived breast cancer so I expect her to be around a while. My dad has been a smoker for decades so it'll be less of a shocker when he goes

My dad is 75 and I’m learning each day to accept the fact that he’s going soon. Doesn’t help the fact that he’s talking about it.

And he isn’t sick or anything!

 

[NkrumahWasRight Is Wrong]

My dad is 75 and I’m learning each day to accept the fact that he’s going soon. Doesn’t help the fact that he’s talking about it.

And he isn’t sick or anything!

My dad hasn't seen a doctor since his army exit exam in the 70s

 

[Clayton Endicott]

My pops died a few months ago. Im not the type to post shyt when it happens on a message board, but he died suddenly at 58.

shyt is rough, and yea like others have said, he pops up in dreams.

Damn, sorry to hear that my brother. Peace and light to you and yours breh .

 

[UberEatsDriver]

Can’t imagine being a parent of a child that dies or even worse murdered.

I’d be finished as a person

 

[Torenko]

People definitely cope with death in different ways. I lost my older brother back in 02, but it still hurts severely today. My family members can talk about him so casually, but I still have to leave the room whenever he's brought up to avoid the anger, pain, and tears that comes with knowing he's not here when he should be. But maybe that's why I'm not over it yet; I keep running away from the fact that he's dead instead of confronting and accepting it.

 

[UberEatsDriver]

Death makes you appreciate every moment in life and the people around you too tho. You realize that eventually you will be separated from everyone you love and that each day is bringing you closer to your own demise so it encourages you to be good to those whom you love and to make good use of your time on Earth.

My mom has a tendency to call me multiple times in a row, which can get annoying. Like she'll call me to ask me about something, I'll tell her, and then we say our goodbyes and hang up. But then she will call me like two minutes later because there's something she forgot to ask me the first time

Plus she's always sending me these weird conspiracy videos on WhatsApp that she got from her old lady friends. She just forwards them to me and my siblings

It used to annoy the crap out of me, but nowadays I think it's cute tbh. The other day I thought about how I would miss these things if, God forbid, something was to happen.

I think we have the same mother lol JK but I’ve learn to answer each annoying call from my mom. Few years back I use to ignore her calls out of annoyance!

 

[semicko82]

Moms passed-can't listen to certain songs or I'll

 

[Karb]

I think we have the same mother lol JK but I’ve learn to answer each annoying call from my mom. Few years back I use to ignore her calls out of annoyance!

Yeah you have to be patient

 

[UberEatsDriver]

Yeah you have to be patient

I’m also very paranoid about missing a call that could save someone life.

So I answer all my phone calls on the second ring and answer all text. Of course if I’m not in the middle of something that doesn’t allow me to use tech

 

[xXOGLEGENDXx]

It all sounds nice, but to be honest there are days you don't think about them. Everybody likes going into this emotional show when asked like they're in a movie doing some monologue. You never forget and it hurts, but it's not running through your mind constantly. Life goes on.

 

[smokeurobinson]

Everyone close to me that has passed away....I can still hear there voices in my head when I think of them........

This the same fool who made mockery of my BMs death and now he in here looking for sympathy. SMH

 

[Reece]

Was your brother murdered If you don’t mind me asking?

Yea

He was robbed and shot

 

[NinoBrown]

Both sets of Grand Fathers passed a long time ago. I miss them even more now as a man and the conversations we could have had about life...pick their ear about their experiences as Black Men growing up...

All I have left of them are pictures....