What is the root of "bias" against lightskin men?

[#1 pick]

Disclaimer: Ya'll know I'm an equal opportunity brehette. Fine is fine...but I haven't hidden my sentiments that a litebrite can bring dat ass my way Now this isn't directed at anyone in particular, but I've noticed on here (and offline) a lot of derogatory comments made about lighter toned men. Some could be trolling but many are dead serious. I see it on fb, IG, chat groups I'm in, etc.

"He looks soft"
"Gay"
"He looks like he can't be trusted."
"Emotional"

So on and so forth...

I had a theory but kept it to myself, but after seeing this comment I decided to go ahead and make a thread



I don't know if this brehette is still around.... if you are, I'm sorry to use you as an example but it kind of confirmed what I thought. I think there are a good amount of women (NOT ALL, NOT MOST, probably not even the majority but a good amount) who say all this stuff about lighter men do so because deep down they feel like they can't bag them. Like these guys are too "pretty" for them so they'd rather act like they have no attraction to them at all.

Back in March I was at a party when my friend and I spotted this dude. She tried to discourage me from approaching him because he is "too damn light" (which he wasn't). I'm like I'm gettin' them digits. Slight work

So she is all and says "he'd probably turn me down" and I'm like I didn't want to hurt her feelings but I'm here wondering where all the insecurity came from.

Am I on to something or am I way off base? Ya'll can feel free to tag the litebrite brehs for their perspective on the matter.

Light skin breh who is tall and was seen as attractive when dating. I would say their fears aren't wrong. A lot of them had no chance. Me personally, I liked dark skin women but if you were average, it was unlikely I was going to talk to you. Just facts. A lot of women are average. Some slightly average and some below when it comes to looks.

A lot of hating just comes from wanting something you can't have for whatever reason

 

[monsterpreneur]

Light skin breh who is tall and was seen as attractive when dating. I would say their fears aren't wrong. A lot of them had no chance. Me personally, I liked dark skin women but if you were average, it was unlikely I was going to talk to you. Just facts. A lot of women are average. Some slightly average and some below when it comes to looks.

A lot of hating just comes from wanting something you can't have for whatever reason

LMAO! A lot of them know this which is why they "reject" light skinned men first. Most women don't think they can pull these men. It's sad. I've never been a skin tone person though.

 

[#1 pick]

LMAO! A lot of them know this which is why they "reject" light skinned men first. Most women don't think they can pull these men. It's sad. I've never been a skin tone person though.

I didn't pick what women find attractive or what they don't find attractive

 

[LezJepzin]

You know what it is

 

[Speaking Womanese]

Some women overcompensate when it comes to lightskinned men because they’ve probably shamed darkskinned men for liking lightskinned women in the past.

They don’t wanna look like hypocrites so they do the whole, “I don’t like pink dikk!” thing when the man’s around. I’ve witnessed these same types do things for the beige dude that they don’t for the dark ones so it’s whatever anyway.

Lightskinned men have a reputation for having high standards and are unlikely to approach any ol woman & this makes the average women feel self-conscious when it comes to them.

 

[Knicksman20]

Back in March I was at a party when my friend and I spotted this dude. She tried to discourage me from approaching him because he is "too damn light" (which he wasn't). I'm like I'm gettin' them digits. Slight work

Most important question in this thread no one asked you is did you get them digits?

As a light skinned guy I've dated all shades of Black women but on average I've dated more brown to dark skinned Black women. It's funny because when I'm out socially a lot of times they would say after chatting & getting cool is that I don't move like how they thought I would which I always found strange. They had in their minds I would ignore them or not give them the time or day. Comments in this thread make sense

 

[Azul]

Most important question in this thread no one asked you is did you get them digits?

As a light skinned guy I've dated all shades of Black women but on average I've dated more brown to dark skinned Black women. It's funny because when I'm out socially a lot of times they would say after chatting & getting cool is that I don't move like how they thought I would which I always found strange. They had in their minds I would ignore them or not give them the time or day. Comments in this thread make sense

You don't see I said it was "slight work"

 

[Knicksman20]

You don't see I said it was "slight work"

I see you sis

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Most important question in this thread no one asked you is did you get them digits?

As a light skinned guy I've dated all shades of Black women but on average I've dated more brown to dark skinned Black women. It's funny because when I'm out socially a lot of times they would say after chatting & getting cool is that I don't move like how they thought I would which I always found strange. They had in their minds I would ignore them or not give them the time or day. Comments in this thread make sense

I get that alot..

Women seem to expect attractive men to be arrogant, some will go out there way to be rude to the dude first because they expect him to be an a$$hole...I get that sometimes

 

[Gold]

 

[Jimmy Two-Times™]

Because they are half-breed tainted DNA demon pig blooded fakkits!

 

[13473]

i think the bias is overblown. for every chick saying no, 50 are thirstily yelling yes. i've witnessed some crazy stuff from old friends.

this dude ain't struggling


now some women may get agitated if he doesn't treat her right, and blame it on his skin tone on some "oh he thinks he can treat me this way. his head must be big cuz he's LS" but a darker guy treating her the same way is just considered a scrub.

or some feel lighter skin = feminine. both examples are just colorism


i also think it is just more socially acceptable for bw to say "i don't want light guys" vs "i love light skinned men." i'm 110% sure even the dudes on the #LiteisRite squad would be in their feelings if some coli brehette of any shade was making threads about her love of light skinned men. it'd be "u just want that light skin baby with a ponytail! "

 

[Solano707]

Disclaimer: Ya'll know I'm an equal opportunity brehette. Fine is fine...but I haven't hidden my sentiments that a litebrite can bring dat ass my way Now this isn't directed at anyone in particular, but I've noticed on here (and offline) a lot of derogatory comments made about lighter toned men. Some could be trolling but many are dead serious. I see it on fb, IG, chat groups I'm in, etc.

"He looks soft"
"Gay"
"He looks like he can't be trusted."
"Emotional"

So on and so forth...

I had a theory but kept it to myself, but after seeing this comment I decided to go ahead and make a thread



I don't know if this brehette is still around.... if you are, I'm sorry to use you as an example but it kind of confirmed what I thought. I think there are a good amount of women (NOT ALL, NOT MOST, probably not even the majority but a good amount) who say all this stuff about lighter men do so because deep down they feel like they can't bag them. Like these guys are too "pretty" for them so they'd rather act like they have no attraction to them at all.

Back in March I was at a party when my friend and I spotted this dude. She tried to discourage me from approaching him because he is "too damn light" (which he wasn't). I'm like I'm gettin' them digits. Slight work

So she is all and says "he'd probably turn me down" and I'm like I didn't want to hurt her feelings but I'm here wondering where all the insecurity came from.

Am I on to something or am I way off base? Ya'll can feel free to tag the litebrite brehs for their perspective on the matter.

Low key, she isn't your real friend. She shouldn't be discouraging you from wanting to get what you want (save putting your safety or self respect at risk).

 

[Actually6Foot3]

As a DS brotha I experienced the opposite. Chics LOVED LS nikkas. Every chic wanted a nikka that looked like Chris Brown when I was in HS not Tyrese. August Alsina was probably as dark as they dreamed of.

LS bias was made up. I was told I was black AF. This DS men phenomenon is within the last 5-7 years tbh

I'd also like to note that DS BM only have the theoretical advantage with BW. LS BM fair better than DS black men when it comes to interracial dating from what I've seen.

 

[Iceson Beckford]

As a DS brotha I experienced the opposite. Chics LOVED LS nikkas. Every chic wanted a nikka that looked like Chris Brown when I was in HS not Tyrese. August Alsina was probably as dark as they dreamed of.

LS bias was made up. I was told I was black AF. This DS men phenomenon is within the last 5-7 years tbh

I'd also like to note that DS BM only have the theoretical advantage with BW. LS BM fair better than DS black men when it comes to interracial dating from what I've seen.

Facts. Its a relatively recent thing thats blown up since being 'woke' on Twitter was trendy.

Lightskins have the advantage in IR and globally.