Criptonite187
Rookie
never heard of a dude begging a girl to be in a relationship my whole life. lmao 
StickStickly
Superstar
So here's the deal, you are into a girl who was in an abusive relationship. That takes time to get over, because basically what happens is your perception and your Brain chemistry gets messed with- every man or human being has the potential to use and abuse her like he did.
So the mistake that happened is you and her got sexual way too quick. That's a big red flag.That means either that she doesn't trust your intentions (using her for sex) or that she thinks all you want is sex from her. Either way You are absorbing all of her ex's qualities, whether she wants you to or not. She also could be giving in to your desires, giving you want you want telling you want you want to hear and making her body respond to it because that's how her brain knows to relate to men right now. Remember she can't trust her own instincts right now because they betrayed her in the past. So demanding a relationship (which is your perogative) and flirting with others in front of her = blast from the past. Right now that's just how her brain works, it's chemical. She may be apologetic but trust she is going back and forth on what to believe on the inside.
If anything she's not ready for you. She needs time to retrain her brain. She's not ready for a relationship. Probably best to drop her and let her heal.
So the mistake that happened is you and her got sexual way too quick. That's a big red flag.That means either that she doesn't trust your intentions (using her for sex) or that she thinks all you want is sex from her. Either way You are absorbing all of her ex's qualities, whether she wants you to or not. She also could be giving in to your desires, giving you want you want telling you want you want to hear and making her body respond to it because that's how her brain knows to relate to men right now. Remember she can't trust her own instincts right now because they betrayed her in the past. So demanding a relationship (which is your perogative) and flirting with others in front of her = blast from the past. Right now that's just how her brain works, it's chemical. She may be apologetic but trust she is going back and forth on what to believe on the inside.
If anything she's not ready for you. She needs time to retrain her brain. She's not ready for a relationship. Probably best to drop her and let her heal.
Perfectson
Banned
good speech , cliff notes
1) she isn't into you like that right now - so you should back off, keep smashing if you comfortable with that and if you're not then keep it moving. Let her chase you if that's what she wants to do
2) she is into you, but wants her freedom - that probably means she's smashing other guys too. either same solution, back off
3) she's used to a strong hand and you're not providing that - be a man, stop talking about relationships and just put her in her place as needed and keep it moving
4) continue to beg her like Keith Sweat and get left holding the bag when she bounces for a real man
SheWantTheD
Veteran
If you think these so-called nerdy educated women ain't chasing or messing with thugs/ain't shyt dudes you got another thing coming..Hoes are hoes......no escaping that.
but an educated hoe is gonna have degrees
and make sure she got a place to live for her
and her child (that can read)
the exit strategy for the average cute bum from
the hood is having a baby by a hustler
and possible child support.
SheWantTheD
Veteran
I bet all y'all nikkas who's saying he's a simp or feminine for wanting a title are the same ones who would shyt bricks if you found out you shared your girl.
The way the game is played today, there NEEDS to be a conversation about what y'all "are", what type of relationship y'all have between
each other and where it's heading. There are too many people out here who thought they were in a committed, exclusive relationship only to find out
the person was fuccing other people and it was fine because there was no "title" because they never talked about it.
The way the game is played today, there NEEDS to be a conversation about what y'all "are", what type of relationship y'all have between
each other and where it's heading. There are too many people out here who thought they were in a committed, exclusive relationship only to find out
the person was fuccing other people and it was fine because there was no "title" because they never talked about it.
SheWantTheD
Veteran
traveling to a different country is easy p*ssy huh?
East Coast.
Well prior to meeting her, I always wanted to go there. I met her online on some online language exchange site while learning Japanese. We started talking, she seemed way more interested in me than in learning English. We kept talking, a few months later I had some money and free time and the opportunity was perfect. She don't really look all that good without makeup. It was a cheap trip, easy p*ssy and a new experience(traveling).
SheWantTheD
Veteran
This right here. I don't see anything wrong with him wanting a relationship and expressing that.
Thing is OP wasn't messing with anyone else, had high interest in the girl, was having sex with her
and they were giving each other a lot of attention. So he overlooked things he shouldn't have, and should have
developed self control and charged her to the game.
I've been there, not begging a chick to commit to me per say, more so letting things slide and over looking things
because you're into the chick.
What he should have done was express his wanting for a committed exclusive relationship in a calm and collected manner.
If she wasn't with it then charge her to the game.
SheWantTheD
Veteran
Dudes in the friendzone bruh.never heard of a dude begging a girl to be in a relationship my whole life. lmao
Which is worse than his situation, because he and the chick are acting like they are a couple without having the actual title.
Yeah, it was easy p*ssy as in I didn't have to do anything to get it when I was there.traveling to a different country is easy p*ssy huh?
You acting like I literally went online searching for some p*ssy online, found one an booked a ticket right away. I was already planning on going there. That's actually a smart thing to do which is talk to girls from somewhere you're going to visit in the future.
1 other person
Superstar
This is some real shyt
KravenMorehead™
Barrel Brothers.®
Is there something specifically you're looking for in a woman that's eluding you?
I learned the hard way.
Ronnie Lott
#49erGang
Either there are no good women left in this country or I'm just prone to picking the wrong one's.
So I finally get this chicks number I've been digging at school since I started going there. I had a crush on her for a little bit and she started liking a nikka based off of her (her words) finding out I wasn't a dummy (we had the same class one semester). so I'm digging her brain, trying to see where her mind at and initially the good foot presented made me like her more.
we start getting deep into thing, smashing within a week, hanging out damn near every day, face timing and phone boning for hours on end. now to me, this was something major because even with chicks I was fukking with in the past, I never talked on the phone for hours on end and facetiming was out the question (never liked facetime). either way, we on path to having a serious relationship (or atleast I thought).
So she broke down to me she had just gotten out of a relationship at the top of the year and the dude she was with did her extra dirty (cheated on her, emotional/verbal abuse, etc. etc. common traits of a "ain't shyt nikka"). so she tell's me "I don't want to rush into anything and get hurt again."
I told her I completely understood and we'd go at her speed, now mind you this is after we fukked. now had we not fukked again, I'd had chalked it up to my sex game being weak and that was her 'nice-way' of letting me know it by saying she wasn't trying to rush into shyt.
so we continue the face timing, the phone boning, the real boning, the dating, etc. etc. so about a few weeks in, I'm like "Look, we doing all the shyt a couple does. I'm trying to make it exclusive and spark a relationship." her response "I don't want to rush into anything and get hurt again". so that had me likebut I said "Cool" and asked her flat out, "
Do you think I'm like your ex? Do I give you any signs that I'm trying to play you or have plans of hurting you?" she says no.
Mind you, I went above and beyond to prove to her I ain't got no shyt up my sleeves. I broke down my previous relationship (which was like years ago), my sexual history, the whole 9. posted the chick on my IG (something I've NEVER done, and did it only to show to her I ain't gaming her), let the chick get the code to my phone, I mean by Coli's breh defintions, I was a whole simp and a half butI liked the chick a ton and felt she was worth being upfront about.
This chick, like a month and a half into all the shyt we been doing was still on some "I'm not trying to get hurt shyt." so now I went from being cool about it to "on now she playing with a nikka." so I told her flat out, I'm cutting her ass back until we get on the same page because that shyt doesn't make sense. we talked about it and she claimed she saw it my way but still ain't want to get hurt.
One night in a store, the shyt came to a head for me. we walked into the spot I frequent alot and a female I always speak to (would've bagged her had she not told me she was engaged to get married, don't know why she gave me the digits... I learned of her engagement AFTER she gave me the digits, and she came before the current chick I'm typing about) was at the entrance. now I'm no dumb nikka, or a clown so I speak to shawtie like I would any other day "What's up wit cha?" she responds "Hhheeeyyy" (like she normally does), so the chick I'm trying to get in a relationship with mocks her like "hhheeeeyyyy" as we're walking past.
I stopped dead in my tracks like(cause I picked up on the jealousy asap) and I tell the chick "Nah, come back let me tell you something." she keeps walking, laughing and say "Nah nah, I'm sorry" so I get a little more serious and say
"Nah, all jokes aside. come here." she comes back and I tell her "Don't ever do that shyt again, I come here alot and you crossing all the wrong lines with that shyt." she apologizes and tries to get a kiss and hug, I wasn't going for it. she realized I was dead-ass serious and stopped smiling and said she apologized and wouldn't do it again.
now I'm really jive pissed off because I'm in the back of my mind having a war room meeting with myself like "How the fukk do you even think you got pull like that and you the same chick claiming you don't want no relationship?!" my other dialog's chip in like "this bytch wild, the fukk she acting like wifey for and she not ready for that role?" so then I hit her with some real shyt, "So what's up? we in a relationship or not? we keep doing all the shyt couples doing and you not trying to get exclusive. that shyt don't make sense to me, and you're reasoning would've been sufficient had it not been all the times you been telling a nikka that I've made you the happiest you've been in a long time and all this other jazz." she tries to evade questioning so then I ask her, "Do you want to be in a relationship with me or not?"
this chick,
she answer after a pause with a half-ass "Yes" while motioning her eye's down and to the left (lying). so I called her on it and told her "You don't even mean that shyt, don't just say the shyt cause I'm putting you on the spot." so after that night, I cut her ass smooth off. she text's me the next morning after talking queen-shyt in a text [about how if I can't see she wants to be with me, that even Ray Charles had better eye sight ()] asking if she could treat me to a movie and a kissy emoji, I'm at work at the time but I would've lost my job if I had snapped.
tl;dr Same chicks who get fukked over, and claim ain't no "good nikkas left" in the world be the same women who don't want a "good nikka" then wonder why they keep getting fukked over.
I'ma write a book and be a best selling author with the amount of wild ass women I deal with.
You let that bytch string you along and fell for her bullshyt games
Ronnie Lott
#49erGang
she aint string him along told the truth
thats all u can ask for
she on her 500 days of summer shyt tho