I dig what you saying but don't subscribe to that mind set, ain't shyt for me to mysterious about I'm up front on all my shyt cause I expect the same in return
I dig what you saying but don't subscribe to that mind set, ain't shyt for me to mysterious about I'm up front on all my shyt cause I expect the same in return
You're saying hunter gathers don't have male female romantic relationships?
More coli brehette advice ..
You not wrong. The wrongest thing you did was posting the story on here for all the crazies to chime in.
You liked her, wanted the relationship to advance, you communicated that and tried to work with her/ be mindful of her previous situation.
She's an a$$hole, that doesn't mean you were wrong.
2 golden rules to live by (relationship wise)
When people tell you who they are, believe them.
When Ole girl was on all that "I'm just not ready for a relationship, we can fukk and do all this relationship shyt though.."
You knew you wanted a relationship with her so you should have said hey cool I respect that. We want two different things so imma let you go. Goid luck.Bye.
2.reciprocity is key
There will be some give and take in every good relationship. Everything ofcpurse will not be 100% equal but there should be balance. (Read up on love languages).
If your partners effort isn't equal to yours let them go. This girl never put forth an equal amount of effort to yours.
Cut her off. Let her go. She's gonna have regrets and most likely try to get you back (so yall can go through the same unbalanced cycle again, because she doesn't appreciate you)
Don't be pissed
Don't let this make your hate all women.
Use this as a learning tool for your next relationship.
You're young, you got plenty of time to get it right.
Good luck
I def dig all of that, preciate the advice Brehetteslime, I ran back into the dame once I returned from Iraq. I didn't know of the ex being a jailbird until after I got back to the states and relinked up with her.fukk with a chick who's ex is a jailbird
funny story: some lame nikka that tried to fukk her told her I died in an IED attack in Iraq
she had been tryna get in touch with me the whole deployment but cock blocking hating ass nikkas like to spread lies about nikkas get's 72-virgin'd and shytI started reading this shyt thinking it was short then scrolled down and saw all that text.....
nah breh, you getting whole chapters from me. be happy you previewing the book before I publish this bytch and charge 19.99 for the entertainment
Dog you're doing the most. If you are having sex with a girl the oxytocin flowing in her body will ensure that she'll want a relationship. What you have to do is put pressure on her. Next time don't argue or beg, just start to pull away. She'll feel like she's losing you and then to avoid losing you she'll give you what you want. The problem though, is that this is not how relationships should be entered. You want her to want to be in a relationship with you.
With that being said I'm going to give you some tough love. Drop the girl, or at the very least start to distance your emotions from her. Relationships where the guy demands a relationship hardly ever work. You are going against the natural order of things. The way the world is supposed to work is 1) Women see's high level man 2) Women seduces man into chasing her 3) Women gets man to commit to exclusive relationship.
Now, the fact that you are having sex but she doesn't want an exclusive relationship tells me one of two things either 1) She's not super attracted to you, you are not her first choice and she's hoping that her first choice will come to their senses or 2) she has major issues. Regardless of whichever one it is, and it could be both, you should invest time in other chicks and protect your heart. Never get into a relationship with a girl if you are not her first choice. That is a recipe for pain.
Finally even though you are getting sex on the reg, still work on improving yourself. What are your goals? What are your dreams? What are you doing to make those things a reality? If you can answer those three questions with real answers you are on your way to being a top level man. You won't be able to get any girl you want but there will be girls in this world who see you as their very own Prince Charming. And when that happens she'll ask you for the relationship instead of the other way around. Good luck and God speed.
With that being said I'm going to give you some tough love. Drop the girl, or at the very least start to distance your emotions from her. Relationships where the guy demands a relationship hardly ever work. You are going against the natural order of things. The way the world is supposed to work is 1) Women see's high level man 2) Women seduces man into chasing her 3) Women gets man to commit to exclusive relationship.
Now, the fact that you are having sex but she doesn't want an exclusive relationship tells me one of two things either 1) She's not super attracted to you, you are not her first choice and she's hoping that her first choice will come to their senses or 2) she has major issues. Regardless of whichever one it is, and it could be both, you should invest time in other chicks and protect your heart. Never get into a relationship with a girl if you are not her first choice. That is a recipe for pain.
Finally even though you are getting sex on the reg, still work on improving yourself. What are your goals? What are your dreams? What are you doing to make those things a reality? If you can answer those three questions with real answers you are on your way to being a top level man. You won't be able to get any girl you want but there will be girls in this world who see you as their very own Prince Charming. And when that happens she'll ask you for the relationship instead of the other way around. Good luck and God speed.
That was my problem with women in totality. Expectations of I am this way so she ought to be this way too. The farthest thing from reality. Play the game by its rules to beat it because you're not going to change it.
I know you mean good, but you lawst me right there. I ain't never going to pressure a chick to be with me, that's worse than a chick playing games. just being with me to not hurt my feelings? fukk that.
I agree with you, Monogamy isn't "natural" but it has been documented in the animal kingdom and when it comes to homo sapiens it helps strengthen the bond between partners and shyt is a hell of a motivator if done right
I read some of that long ass shyt
And u basically was the female
Shorty told u the deal
And u still pressured her
U could just keep chilling and fukking
But u need a label like a bytch
And u basically was the female
Shorty told u the deal
And u still pressured her
U could just keep chilling and fukking
But u need a label like a bytch
Read the rest of my post...
Either there are no good women left in this country or I'm just prone to picking the wrong one's.
So I finally get this chicks number I've been digging at school since I started going there. I had a crush on her for a little bit and she started liking a nikka based off of her (her words) finding out I wasn't a dummy (we had the same class one semester). so I'm digging her brain, trying to see where her mind at and initially the good foot presented made me like her more.
we start getting deep into thing, smashing within a week, hanging out damn near every day, face timing and phone boning for hours on end. now to me, this was something major because even with chicks I was fukking with in the past, I never talked on the phone for hours on end and facetiming was out the question (never liked facetime). either way, we on path to having a serious relationship (or atleast I thought).
So she broke down to me she had just gotten out of a relationship at the top of the year and the dude she was with did her extra dirty (cheated on her, emotional/verbal abuse, etc. etc. common traits of a "ain't shyt nikka"). so she tell's me "I don't want to rush into anything and get hurt again."
I told her I completely understood and we'd go at her speed, now mind you this is after we fukked. now had we not fukked again, I'd had chalked it up to my sex game being weak and that was her 'nice-way' of letting me know it by saying she wasn't trying to rush into shyt.
so we continue the face timing, the phone boning, the real boning, the dating, etc. etc. so about a few weeks in, I'm like "Look, we doing all the shyt a couple does. I'm trying to make it exclusive and spark a relationship." her response "I don't want to rush into anything and get hurt again". so that had me likebut I said "Cool" and asked her flat out, "
Do you think I'm like your ex? Do I give you any signs that I'm trying to play you or have plans of hurting you?" she says no.
Mind you, I went above and beyond to prove to her I ain't got no shyt up my sleeves. I broke down my previous relationship (which was like years ago), my sexual history, the whole 9. posted the chick on my IG (something I've NEVER done, and did it only to show to her I ain't gaming her), let the chick get the code to my phone, I mean by Coli's breh defintions, I was a whole simp and a half but
This chick, like a month and a half into all the shyt we been doing was still on some "I'm not trying to get hurt shyt." so now I went from being cool about it to "on now she playing with a nikka." so I told her flat out, I'm cutting her ass back until we get on the same page because that shyt doesn't make sense. we talked about it and she claimed she saw it my way but still ain't want to get hurt.
One night in a store, the shyt came to a head for me. we walked into the spot I frequent alot and a female I always speak to (would've bagged her had she not told me she was engaged to get married, don't know why she gave me the digits... I learned of her engagement AFTER she gave me the digits, and she came before the current chick I'm typing about) was at the entrance. now I'm no dumb nikka, or a clown so I speak to shawtie like I would any other day "What's up wit cha?" she responds "Hhheeeyyy" (like she normally does), so the chick I'm trying to get in a relationship with mocks her like "hhheeeeyyyy" as we're walking past.
I stopped dead in my tracks like(cause I picked up on the jealousy asap) and I tell the chick "Nah, come back let me tell you something." she keeps walking, laughing and say "Nah nah, I'm sorry" so I get a little more serious and say
"Nah, all jokes aside. come here." she comes back and I tell her "Don't ever do that shyt again, I come here alot and you crossing all the wrong lines with that shyt." she apologizes and tries to get a kiss and hug, I wasn't going for it. she realized I was dead-ass serious and stopped smiling and said she apologized and wouldn't do it again.
now I'm really jive pissed off because I'm in the back of my mind having a war room meeting with myself like "How the fukk do you even think you got pull like that and you the same chick claiming you don't want no relationship?!" my other dialog's chip in like "this bytch wild, the fukk she acting like wifey for and she not ready for that role?" so then I hit her with some real shyt, "So what's up? we in a relationship or not? we keep doing all the shyt couples doing and you not trying to get exclusive. that shyt don't make sense to me, and you're reasoning would've been sufficient had it not been all the times you been telling a nikka that I've made you the happiest you've been in a long time and all this other jazz." she tries to evade questioning so then I ask her, "Do you want to be in a relationship with me or not?"
this chick,
she answer after a pause with a half-ass "Yes" while motioning her eye's down and to the left (lying). so I called her on it and told her "You don't even mean that shyt, don't just say the shyt cause I'm putting you on the spot." so after that night, I cut her ass smooth off. she text's me the next morning after talking queen-shyt in a text [about how if I can't see she wants to be with me, that even Ray Charles had better eye sight (
tl;dr Same chicks who get fukked over, and claim ain't no "good nikkas left" in the world be the same women who don't want a "good nikka" then wonder why they keep getting fukked over.
I'ma write a book and be a best selling author with the amount of wild ass women I deal with.
TL;DR
But your avy is slick, breh. No homo.
Only 14% or so of animals are truly monogamous. I'm in a relationship so l'm for it, but the reality is only so many people can participate in it.I agree with you, Monogamy isn't "natural" but it has been documented in the animal kingdom and when it comes to homo sapiens it helps strengthen the bond between partners and shyt is a hell of a motivator if done right