What should be the dating time minimum (months/years) before getting married?

[DaChampIsHere]

How do you go from single to married in 4 seconds b. Explain please.

Maybe there's a "Boyfriend" and "Engaged" box on the forms you fill out. Impressive.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Why do people only wanna listen to stats when they verify their agenda.

Would you have listed the statistic if it didn't support your position.

Sure thing breh. Numbers don't lie though, nor do they try to account for every individual case. That's just the general state. You are more likely to divorce.

Numbers don't lie but people do. Numbers can be manipulated to paint any picture you want them to. Marriage stats are all over the place and very inaccurate anybody with any point about marriage can find a statistic to prove their point.

 

[AllHolosEve]

How will you know that your home living styles/habits are compatible? I understand not running around shacking up with people. But if you actualy plan on marrying someone I think it's best to try it out first. Times are always good when you can go home all alone, but I think it's important to see how each other acts when it's time to cohabitate and compromise.

If anything living with that person teaches you about your temperament. Having someone stay over 3 times a week is different than someone in your face 24/7, barging into the bathroom when you trying to take a dump, pets, how clean that person is, etc. This is a buyer's market. It would be silly not to take advantage of it.

th!s, you gotta l!ve w!t that person to know the da!ly sh!t..... !d say g!ve !t at least a year... people can be dat!n for years & be head over heels then l!ve together a couple months & be s!ck of each other....

 

[KTD2]

Girl from my HS has been married 4 times (we're all 27-28.) Each time she met and married the guy within like 4-6 months.

I can't tell you what the ideal time frame is, but it's not that.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

Would you have listed the statistic if it didn't support your position.


Numbers don't lie but people do. Numbers can be manipulated to paint any picture you want them to. Marriage stats are all over the place and very inaccurate anybody with any point about marriage can find a statistic to prove their point.

Doesn't matter if we can make up imaginary scenarios. You all were trying to act as if living together was one of the keys to a successful marriage and as if not living together was wrong. Your stance isn't true.

It's cool. Discredit it if you like.

Learning how to sprint doesn't teach you how to run a marathon. Marriage and cohabitation are two different things.

 

[malbaker86]

There should be some kind of a balance while you're dating where you each have your own spot but can come through and stay for a few days at a time to see the person's habits without being stuck living with them.

Once you see what kind of a household they hold down on their own, you know whether or not you could live with them, and ultimately if you can make that jump to marriage just based off how much independence they can or can't handle.

Big difference still but I see your logic in the first paragraph. People do what you mentioned and that's fine too, but there's still a HUGE difference between coming over for a few days and living with that person.

 

[Rawtid]

How do you go from single to married in 4 seconds b. Explain please.

You don't. Relationships progress and they can progress without moving with each other. Don't you have a best/friend? Did yall have to live together before you called each other best friends?

 

[⠀⠀⠀]

the time it takes for a baby to be born multiplied by 3


marriage is a joke these days though

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Doesn't matter if we can make up imaginary scenarios. You all were trying to act as if living together was one of the keys to a successful marriage and as if not living together was wrong. Your stance isn't true.

It's cool. Discredit it if you like.

Learning how to sprint doesn't teach you how to run a marathon. Marriage and cohabitation are two different things.

No, I haven't seen anyone say it was key to a successful marriage. Someone said those that do it are "fools" and people took offense to that.

If you're gonna run a marathon you practice first. You don't just learn how to run and take a look at the course. You get up you go out and you run on the course to practice and get familiar with it.

 

[MrNoFlyZone]

Big difference still but I see your logic in the first paragraph. People do what you mentioned and that's fine too, but there's still a HUGE difference between coming over for a few days and living with that person.

Understood, but I guess my point was more about seeing how a person handles their own and slowly increasing the time you spend with them domestically as a means to "test drive" before you decide to live with them instead of just signing a lease with a person and being shocked when you find out how they live.

 

[Doctor Gonzo]

Girl from my HS has been married 4 times (we're all 27-28.) Each time she met and married the guy within like 4-6 months.

I can't tell you what the ideal time frame is, but it's not that.

Well for that particular girl, yes.
As for other people, who knows how it'll be till they reach

 

[malbaker86]

Understood, but I guess my point was more about seeing how a person handles their own and slowly increasing the time you spend with them domestically as a means to "test drive" before you decide to live with them instead of just signing a lease with a person and being shocked when you find out how they live.

Gotcha :shake:. I think a lot goes back on the two people involved too.

I don't think we're saying you go out with somebody and a month later, y'all two go get an apartment together. I think we're saying (well I am at least) that if you're dating somebody for 2-4 years before getting married and say...the 2nd year you two decide to move in together, there's absolutely no harm in that and that you can find out a hella lot about your partner prior to getting married. Does that assure you're going to last? Of course not

Somebody said people who live together before marriage are fools, that's ridiculous.

 

[AZBeauty]

A year is long enough to get to know a person.

 

[DaChampIsHere]

No, I haven't seen anyone say it was key to a successful marriage. Someone said those that do it are "fools" and people took offense to that.

If you're gonna run a marathon you practice first. You don't just learn how to run and take a look at the course. You get up you go out and you run on the course to practice and get familiar with it.

Cohabitation is not practicing marriage though. Marriage is a commitment not a "let's try it out and if it doesn't work we'll break up" or "I'll act good enough til it's marriage time".

 

[MeachTheMonster]

Gotcha :shake:. I think a lot goes back on the two people involved too.

I don't think we're saying you go out with somebody and a month later, y'all two go get an apartment together. I think we're saying (well I am at least) that if you're dating somebody for 2-4 years before getting married and say...the 2nd year you two decide to move in together, there's absolutely no harm in that and that you can find out a hella lot about your partner prior to getting married. Does that assure you're going to last? Of course not

Somebody said people who live together before marriage are fools, that's ridiculous.

Exactly. If you've already decided the person is marriage material there is no harm in living with them for a while to make sure your still compatible. If your just moving in with someone for financial reasons, or cause you think things could work out, then obviously you are making a bad decision.