What's a realization / eye-opener you've had lately?

[Afro]

You got plenty of time.

Having to spend a lot of time recovering from stuff that went on in your younger years can make you feel like you've wasted time but you've really just cultivated wisdom. It's like rubber band, you pull that shyt back and put stress on it til it can't really pull any more, all there is left to do is let go. And once you do let go you fly harder and faster than you thought you could.

Well damn, that is an excellent way to think of my younger years.

Dap+Rep man, good start to my work day

You right though, I had so much anger,despair,resentment and animosity that my mind and body couldn't handle it anymore.

God made sure to plant the seeds in my head for healing. I pray that I don't relapse.

 

[Karb]

Sometimes your deepest scars are from the battles that you never fought.

You can either act or not, either way there's a price to pay. The cost of not even trying is usually higher than the cost of failure.

 

[Ducktales]

I’ve been a Christian my whole life and have been avid actually researching world history and what led to the destruction of black civilization ( great book called that as well) and researching Egypt Greece Rome and I now know the Bible is bullshyt as well as every other religion. The whole thing. I hate it took so long for me to see. Biggest weapon used to control us. Tried telling friends and family but they won’t even try to hear me out and feel I’m going to hell cuz I don’t believe in a Greek god named Jesus

 

[Karb]

I don't like negative energy, however I contain a fair amount of it. I channel the negative energy to help me strive to progress.

For years I had a red-blooded racist conservative for a supervisor. Instead of lashing out, I made sure she would never check-mate my ass. My disdain for her fueled my growth and helped me to progress. I didn't let the negativity burn me up (although at times, it was very difficult), but instead used it as fuel.


I like to think I'm a nice, giving person. I used to try to be polite to most people, not an ass-kisser at all, but I tried to be cordial.

With that being said, many people mistaken kindness for weakness and try to take advantage.

As a result, negative energy is essential - in my case - in the form of a stoic demeanor .

If it wasn't for the @ssholes of the world, my facial expression when in public or the workplace would be that of a happy-go-lucky individual - but that's impossible due to ways of the jungle, in other words, man's primitive nature.

You can't be all positive....a negative charge is vital as well.

I totally agree, but I wouldn't call that "negative energy". You just have to be guarded and be very aware of the context in which you're operating as well as the power dynamics and how people might mistake your kind nature for timidity or submissiveness.

I've had similar experiences breh. I used to try to be kind and cordial, and sometimes I would even go the extra mile to help someone by doing some shyt I really didn't have to do. It's just in my nature to be helpful. But I quickly learned that some (if not most) people look at ALL human interactions through the prism of power dynamics. So for instance, some dude at the job might ask if you can help him with something because he's under too much work load. In your mind, you just feel sorry for him and want to help him. In his mind, he just suckered you into doing his work for him.

It doesn't mean that you should now become an a$$hole to people, just be aware of what's going on.

 

[Bless't]

The closest woman in your life can be the greatest ally or the single source of your psychological and financial ruin. This is not so much a "new" revelation, more so a very recent reminder that after years of investment and shared experience.....a woman will "forget" when push comes to shove. This is not reassuring. It's a fascinating thing when observing the nature of "comfort" and how it transforms the psyche. There is a saying regarding peaceful times and creating weak men etc..., point being struggle/hardtimes can temper a mindset to stay the course and truly maintain true allegiance. Contrarily, a life of comfort affords leisurely imaginings...inquiries outside of menial comfort even.

Oh and The quote I alluded to before, it's a good quote:

"Hard times make strong men, strong men make peaceful times, Peaceful times make weak men, weak men create hard times."

 

[hostsamurai]

Do explain

Mass approach.. is... 10 a day?

It's however much you can. If your work takes you away from areas without a flow of women you want to talk to then it's probably not a good idea to change your schedule unless you can afford to.

But if you want good results, it'll take time and effort so 5 a day isn't bad. Remember it's not like you're having 20 minute conversations or anything. If you can do 10 then you're a champ and you're guaranteed to get some results - results and insight 90% most guys haven't had. With unshakable effort there will definitively be a good result.

 

[Karb]

Age does not equal wisdom.

I've met too many folks twice my age who are useless in life. Made me realize that you could hit age 90 and still know nothing.

But I listen to their tales because sometimes you learn what not to do.

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I should have fought harder in high school for myself. Feels like I'm playing catch up and I'm 27

I'm a few years younger and have felt the exact same way these last couple years man

Look on the bright side brehs, rather you figured this shyt out now than when you're 35 (which could easily happen and DOES happen to a lot of folks). 27 is still very young. If you start thinking "what's the point", you'll look back 10 years from now and kick yourselves in the back for giving up. Some brehs are deep in their 40's still trying to figure this shyt out.

 

[Pazzy]

A lot of generation y'ers/millenials are very pretentious. The sadder part is that a lot of my age groups running with a battery in their back thinking they are smarter than what they really are and they are in fact very ignorant. They cosign shyt without even researching or educating themselves first before following. They think they're standing up for a cause or fighting the power but it's more of fashion statement to look cool. Receiving attention and being popular seems to be viewed as success.

If you were to question them on social justice issues, you'll find them saying either a or b. No c, no d or etc. It's embarrassing.

 

[hostsamurai]

A person should have a lot in common with their partner, or their partner will inevitably find someone that "just gets them" and probably cheat, go through couples therapy, or get a divorce. It's axiomatic, if you feel like you should want to be around your partner, but you're bored or not connect, you won't want to be around them to confirm the bad decisions made.

 

[Paradise50]

There are a lot adults who take adderall tobpeeform better at tmtheir job.

Inattentiveness is a real problem someone can have. If they're taking adderall for it then so be it


people on anti-depressants (tons of people) and benzodiazepines are putting their health at way more risk than someone taking therapeutic doses of adderall.


Anti-depressants have some of this shyttiest side effects out there, no matter what class of them you're taking.

 

[Paradise50]

Knowing how to move around white folks w/o compromising your integrity is important. My Dad always told me that and would rant about some of his black employees when I was younger. He would say how "it's hard to help your own when they won't listen to the advice you give 'em" ...."I just let the ignorant ones drown"

Now in the work place I come across those types. I give them the benefit of doubt but if they do dumb shyt then I let 'em be.

 

[KeysT]

Relationships, marriage, procreating is really not worth the drama/trouble/responsibility. It's just another thing to keep you busy til you die. A woman's love is the least secure thing you can desire.

I am realizing more and more that this is true.

 

[Raw Lyrics]

I totally agree, but I wouldn't call that "negative energy". You just have to be guarded and be very aware of the context in which you're operating as well as the power dynamics and how people might mistake your kind nature for timidity or submissiveness.

I've had similar experiences breh. I used to try to be kind and cordial, and sometimes I would even go the extra mile to help someone by doing some shyt I really didn't have to do. It's just in my nature to be helpful. But I quickly learned that some (if not most) people look at ALL human interactions through the prism of power dynamics. So for instance, some dude at the job might ask if you can help him with something because he's under too much work load. In your mind, you just feel sorry for him and want to help him. In his mind, he just suckered you into doing his work for him.

It doesn't mean that you should now become an a$$hole to people, just be aware of what's going on.

Facts.

 

[Thanos]

A lot of people have very surface level understanding of things that they believe and support.

From my women friends, I learned not to give advice out so easily, people love to leave out parts to make themselves look better than they are.

Quality > Quantity, especially in romantic relationships, there are some bummy chicks out here

1000 good things can't outweigh one bad thing, folks ,especially, on social media loved to feed on negative energy and will drag anyone down with them for having different feelings.

A lot of black folks in white dominated spaces(Non-workplace settings) love to try to appeal and just suck up to white folks. We don't really need to, we are the coolest people on earth.

 

[Columbo]

Fappin is a tough addiction to overcome, someone link me to the no fappin thread. I cant be going through JBO no more