Things I realised lately:
WORK
Someone will promise you the moon to convince you to do things (e.g. change jobs, join their department) but ultimately whatever they say - most of them only have their own interests in mind. People have no problem promising you things that ´will very, very likely´ happen (e.g. offering you a promotion after 1 year if you join) only to give THAT job to someone else they know longer and better (just happened to me). People talk and smile, but my mom was right: you should look at their actions, that tells you everything you need to know. Also: the sense of ´loyalty´ to a job or company is complete bullshyt - if they needed to fire you they´d do it in a heartbeat.
The best way to operate is to treat yourself like a business and make decisions as if you are your own ´business advisor´. Make decisions based on facts, not emotion and you´ll make more money and be happier in your professional life as long as cacs are part of deciding about your future. If you need to walk, walk. Also if you´re super fukking unhappy in your job, don´t just sit there and take it - talk to HR, talk to an internal Recruiter, talk to your Lead, but make moves to move teams.. Again, they´d drop you without problem if they´d have to to save money, so you should move when it benefits you.
LOVE
Life is like a school: you don´t go to the next level if you don´t successfully do your exams. Repeating the same actions that destroyed a previous relationship will destroy your following relationship. You get feedback and ignore it, you don´t pass the next exam. Not everybody´s the same, but if you see patterns, it means the repeating of actions inspires a similar reaction. The clichés are there for a reason: if you are sitting around waiting for someone to save you, make your life super fun, make you happy - you´re unhappy. Unhappy people are not fun or good partners. Happy people are. You need to invest in your relationship with you first: fill your life up, as hard and boring as that can be. Also: don´t compare. These perfectly happily couples are in the phase you were in when you were happy with someone - don´t compare, we are all different and in different phases. You don´t see those people sad, because they did or will do that when the problems hit.
Also: race is playing a bigger and bigger role in daily life. But love whoever the fukk you want. Really.
FRIENDSHIP
My parents said ´that´s an acquaintance, not a friend´ all the time when I grew up. I love friendships, but not everybody is a friend so not everybody deserves your full attention and respect and love and care. Save that for REAL friends. Don´t be disappointed when your ´friends´ don´t write, they are not friends - they are acquaintances, treat them as such.
MONEY
Money is both the key to using your time how you want and completely unimportant when your life is a mess (eg good paid job, but the job is hell). People who don´t save are fukking their lives over, because they´ll always stay in that position. Using credit/getting in debt to buy things is one of the biggest financial mistakes you could make. Don´t use Credit Cards, don´t take loans, don´t get in debt. Not counting a house, try to never take a loan. Use the 2x rule: if you want something you should be able to buy it with YOUR MONEY 2x. Nice TV? Can you buy it 2x? New car?? Can you buy it 2x now? If the answer is ´no´ it is an irresponsible purchase. Also: try to allocate a % of your income for fun (shopping, food, parties) or else you´ll feel like all you do is work and that is a killer.
THE COLI
I love The Coli, definitely one of the most fun communities with the craziest characters I´ve been a part of that is 100% entertaining whenever you visit (which is obviously daily). I think if we all get that it´s not THAT serious and that we´d talk differently face to face respect wise, we´re good. Just hope they never sell this to a cac company, it´ll be a wrap. I definitely don´t take someone negging serious anymore or someone sonning you in a reply, it´s all good basically.
glad I’m almost out of this hole brehs. Free daps & reps for erybody
. I'm not giving up or anything 
