What's the biggest thing you learned from your last relationship?

[Data-Hawk]

Red Flag issues that you seen earlier will eventually been the issues that will cause you to be unhappy. I learned if I ever saw any red flags, it will be best to keep it moving...

Ive dodged soo many bullets since then

Came in here to say this. Don’t ignore the red flags and hope things will get better.Also don’t try to change people.

 

[PCHMalibu]

I think about it often. Its something I clearly have to address before I get married. I dont know what the answer is.
I think I have a hard time transitioning from "this is a girl I want to impress and wow" to "this is a life partner".

When my goal is to impress and wow... once I've accomplished that i'm like... aight what next?

A lot of that is subconscious... Not wanting to get too close, fear of rejection, vulnerability.
I do the same. Had to learn to work through my issues and appreciate having a healthy relationship.

 

[Cheercomp]

• Be a better leader in the relationship. Dont sit on your ass acting all high and mighty expecting the chick to continue to look at u as That Dude if you're not taking charge with the direction the relationship moves in
• Don't be a dog in the streets whiel you've got something worthwhile at home. More than likely, the shyt in the streets is temporary and nowhere near as valuable as what you could have at home if you invested that same energy

 

[sanityovar8ted]

That u can think u really know sum1 n yet don't know them at all...n if a nikka cheats after 12 yrs of being faithful all hope is lost 4 monogamy n commitment #gmb

 

[Brehcepticon]

I wasn’t emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship. Maybe I’m still not

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

long story short: I need to calm down. I can never be fully honest with my girl. My life is too crazy. The kind of girls I need to date don't need to know about it.

 

[HE_Pennypacker]

Like @skeetsinternal said, people will show you who they are.

Also;
-be wary of a girl who comes from an all female family of straight women who have ran all the men off.
-trust your gut
-know when to cut someone off
-red flags aren't going anywhere, they'll just come back bigger
-anyone who EVER says something about arguing to "spice things up" is a moron and ought to be sent away

 

[Coolin']

That a relationship takes effort. A lot of people see these rom-coms and think it's that easy...nah breh. Gotta put in the work for a relationship to sustain. I learned that the hard way.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

Same, same same.
I think my biggest issue is that I've never had any issue getting women.

And as much as I hate to say this (because it will sound narcissistic)... I take pleasure in courting because I fee like she should be happy to be around me for those couple of months.

Even in a city like Dallas... I sometimes feel like a shark in a fishbowl.
I'm young (kinda), with a nice car and a nice income. shyt gets to your head easily.

I think I need to get over myself before I can truly appreciate a good girl.

I have the same problem. Might be a Nigerian thing. I like my current girl tho

 

[Astroslik]

I like trains

wtf

 

[GodinDaFlesh]

Smash as soon as possible because you never know when it ends.

 

[GhettoTeK]

Never put the other person first,

NEVER make sacrifices for other people, their success has nothing to do with you.

Never isolate yourself from the ones who were always there with you for some new person.

And people come and go like seasons.

 

[raoulduke187]

sometimes you'll be damned if you leave and you'll be damned if you stay

 

[Ol’Otis]

let people make their choices
don't hold these joints
free em & leave the door open

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Seen this while lurking

 

[Carlton Banks]

No matter how vocal a woman is about her desires, her actions will ALWAYS say otherwise. Women have a way of constantly pounding the same narrative in your head and being really persistent and nagging about shyt that they SAY they want, but it's not what they actually want.

Basically women don't know what they want and don't stress and go broke trying to please them. All the demands they have are irrelevant in most cases.

Also... Always be the guy that you were when they first met you. Don't soften up or ever let your guard down. And much as they'll vocalize and bytch and moan about how you need to open up more and how they wanna grow closer as a couple, in the end they will resent you for it. Never fall in love with these bytches. Leave that love shyt to them.