What's the problem with being "quiet"?

[1986]

Well, going on dates and expecting not to having to chat is not a good idea, even though you're introverted you have to make an effort. And being the one asking questions is not enough, you have to provide your own thoughts/ideas/perceptions on things while having a conversation. If you feel tired of constantly being the one asking her the questions just tell her "okay I've been asking you questions for a while now, your turn". Girls like to talk a lot about themselves though, I've been on worthless dates were the girl just yaps about herself (I hate people like that) to the point where I've called it a day and left, but (most of them) also like to hear you speak. I think it has to do with confidence; if you're quiet you're perceived as shy which most people associate with lack of confidence which is a turn off for girls.

Of course being quiet does not automatically mean you're shy or lack confidence but I'm just saying that's how most people (unfortunately) look at you though.

 

[STFARN]

Usually theres a lot of underlying mental issues as to why you are 'quiet' or 'lame'

Some broad that was in my group at a music festival said I had a big mouth, and her friend in the group said I was a douchebag and she didn't want to dance with me

Same set when they said that, I hooked up with and grinded on like 9 different girls, and took a guy's girlfriend

Got these bytches mad out here

Stay ignorant

 

[Pegasus Jackson]

One of my friends is so quiet and socially awkward I joke with him that he has mild autism.

Suffice to say, he's not exactly dog paddling in p*ssy.

 

[Still Benefited]

Sounds like you have a attitude problem you refuse to work on

The women on these dates thought you were quiet and didn't like them,your family thinks you dont like them....You might not just be introverted but rude as shyt

Your doing something to make people uncomfortable,if that doesn't bother you that's cool,but we gon pretend everybody else has the problem

Theres no reason you shouldn't have shyt to talk about with your family,tell them about what you read on thecoli today if you need to,maybe they'll learn something...No reason you shouldn't have questions to ask a girl you just met who you want to have a relationship or at least sex with,or you should want to tell her about yourself....You gon keep wasting money going on dates learning a little bit at a time

 

[Claudex]

The problem with being quiet is that a lot of quiet people don't know how to speak with their bodies. Nay, they often don't even realize that their bodies will speak for them.

I'm talking about body language. It's an actual thing.

Socializing is a great part of how humans got to where they are today, it's just a part of everyday life. But a big part of socializing is dependent on facial and body cues. A lot of people who are comfortable being quiet forget that.

I ain't gon' tell you to speak more, because talking is overrated and @Mr. Somebody laid down the truth already . But if you're quiet AND you're the odd ass dude that can't look people in the eye AND are visibly uncomfortable around people then all that people will notice is that; on top of everything else, you don't talk.

So if not talking makes you feel better, at least learn to look like you're physically invested in the person that chose to spend her/his time with you. Otherwise you're just a reminder that even when they're in your presence they're still alone.

 

[Neil Tyson]

Sounds like you have a attitude problem you refuse to work on

The women on these dates thought you were quiet and didn't like them,your family thinks you dont like them....You might not just be introverted but rude as shyt

Your doing something to make people uncomfortable,if that doesn't bother you that's cool,but we gon pretend everybody else has the problem

Theres no reason you shouldn't have shyt to talk about with your family,tell them about what you read on thecoli today if you need to,maybe they'll learn something...No reason you shouldn't have questions to ask a girl you just met who you want to have a relationship or at least sex with,or you should want to tell her about yourself....You gon keep wasting money going on dates learning a little bit at a time

If she wanted to know more about OP she'd have asked.

 

[Still Benefited]

If she wanted to know more about OP she'd have asked.

Well most men have mustaches,if a woman has one it comes off as abnormal.

Most women lack social skills when it comes to men as they should,most men dont have horrible social skills when it comes to women,so his quietness is coming off as abnormal.

I guess your point is if she's quiet she doesn't have a right to bring up him being quiet.

I say if she had a mustache he would've had the right to bring it up

 

[Mandarin Duck]

I was all with you based on the thread title then I read the OP.
nikka you can't be quiet on a date. Especially on a first date.

 

[Elle Driver]

Sometimes you just don't have shyt to say.

 

[theflyest]

Havent read the rest of the thread yet, but it's a numbers game.

When you introverted, it's harder to make connections with people, but you gotta keep at it until you come across a female your comfortable talking to.

Also, you should be self aware by now & know "I can't talk to this woman," & move on.

You should have an idea before you take a woman out if yall would have a good time or not. No need to waste money if yall can't talk to each other.

 

[iFightSeagullsForBread]

Yep.

A bunch of yapping about nothing.

That's purely subjective.

Because every quite person that holds this snobby view in regards to social interaction, is just as vapid, self-satisfactory tool you'd ever come across.

Your observations and witticisms aren't as interesting and groundbreaking as you think they, you're a translucent recluse that has a high opinion of himself based on his limited exposure of society, so they project instead of actually experience.

 

[SemiEnlightenedBum]

tis the quiet observers you really gotta worry about,thy always wonder if they can engage in mental chess like thy can..cause if you can let a loudmouth/drama queen/85er pull out their own noose they will,then thy don't gotta waste a breign cell on you,dose muhfukkas are precious like raped chillren holdin the /\xI/ /\/\UnDi...
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[KravenMorehead™]

tis the quiet observers you really gotta worry about,thy always wonder if they can engage in mental chess like thy can..cause if you can let a loudmouth/drama queen/85er pull out their own noose they will,then thy don't gotta waste a breign cell on you,dose muhfukkas are precious like raped chillren holdin the /\xI/ /\/\UnDi...
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you in the matrix my nikka?


this nikka turnin digital

 

[Pdiddy]

I've gotten that before...I'm not shy or anything...I just dont like running off at the mouth..I'm a thinker

 

[CinnaSlim]

I like scorpions because they are usually quiet. They observe people and tend to have intelligent and deep conversations when they do open up. I'm the same way. Im quiet because I don't care to talk just to talk. I talk when I have a reason to.