Only loud jackasses who speak too much get burned HARD. In this era of attention whoring, being quiet brings you all kinds of good attention and a piece of mind.
A lot of y'all dudes are probably just socially awkward. Asking females out on dates just to be quiet and weird, #WhereTheyDoThatAt?
The problem is that message boards are predominantly populated by introverts so y'all get to keep having your circle jerks about how cool introverts are and how extroverts are really the ones with the problems. In reality, extroverts have better social skills, wider social circles, and end up having a lot more sexual partners/experiences than introverts do. So unless all of y'all look like Denzel/Idris Elba, (which undoubtedly you all do), you're probably not getting laid all that much if you don't have a mouthpiece
A lot of y'all dudes are probably just socially awkward. Asking females out just to be quiet, WhereTheyDoThatAt? The problem is that message boards are predominantly populated by introverts so y'all get to keep having your circle jerks about how cool introverts are and how extroverts are really the ones with the problems. In reality, extroverts have better social skills, wider social circles, and end up having a lot more sexual partners/experiences than introverts do. So unless all of y'all look like Denzel/Idris Elba, (which undoubtedly you all do), you're probably not getting laid all that much if you don't have a mouthpiece
There are cool extroverts, the ones mentioned in the OP just aren't. How are you gonna be an extrovert without any conversational ability, come to think of it, most of those happen to be women. You can have a wooden personality as long as you're a 9 looks wise.
In a world filled with narcissistic extraverts, I find that in order to eat in the millennial dating world, I like everyone else has to introduce myself to women through my more talkative representative. Once I have someone hooked, than I can revert back to "quiet" self. It is what it is.
It's crazy how much of a big deal people make it. I remember my 1st date on went on a couple of years ago. All through the date she kept asking me why I'm so quiet but I was the one asking her questions and shyt. She cut contact a week after for whatever reason. Went on an Tinder date and the same shyt happened. She said she couldn't trust me because I was a Scorpio but didn't talk a lot This breh at work tried to hook me up with a coworker and she sent him a text "No, he's too quiet"
I'm a type of person who speaks when spoken too but if I don't have anything to say to you then I don't. I'm not gonna start talking to you because you're standing by me. shyt is weird af
I'm the same way breh, been that way all my life.
Don't have hardly any friends because of it and everywhere I go I get the same response. "Man you're quiet".
I dunno...I was an only kid for years and got used to being alone and talking to myself in my head.
I don't understand why everyone else has to talk so damned much!!!
This is my life on a pretty regular basis. It is so fukking annoying. I'm like,"Tf, what do you want from me? I didn't even know you existed until 5 seconds ago...."
I guess everything you say lets people know how your mind works in some way.
The more someone knows how your mind works the more they have an idea of who you are and therefore what you're capable of, so they have a sense of security around you.
So the more you talk the more people will gravitate to you cause the sense of security makes them comfortable.
Now look at it the opposite way; the less you talk the less they have a sense of who you are, so the less comfortable they are. And your clothes are non-verbal communication too, so let's say you're quiet, and your clothes ain't showoffy cause you're broke. Now verbal communication is 0 and non-verbal communication is 0 so internally they're like
That's why the quiet guy/girl gets labled weird/creepy, and the class clown has more people gravitate toward them and people that don't know them feel comfortable walking up and talking to them. Also why people feel comfortable walking up to comedians and celebrities they see in interviews, that they never met before.
Even in relationships or on dates, women for example are risk averse by nature cause they gotta walk around in a world with another gender that's bigger and more capable of physical aggression than them, so making them sure that there's no potential harm is important, so say they like a guy talking is a psychological pat-down or sorts. That isn't really a girl thing though, more so people who talk alot. quiet men and women will analyze you from afar. Being talkative doesn't have to be your default social disposition, but knowing how to be on a whim is a good skill to have in your toolbox.
Personally I'm quiet myself and don't give a fukk about the stupid shyt people be on about it, but i'm just saying Even online how many posters you wanna bet lowkey think i'm "weird" for never really saying shyt, it is what it is
Some of them will find themselves trying to initiate conversation with you in a kinda subconscious effort to fill that questionmark/gap in their brain, and restore their comfort in whatever environment they meet you at (classroom, work). Let's say they try to do that, have a convo with you, but because you're guarded (naturally, cause you don't know them like that), and they still don't get anything outta you. Since he/she couldn't restore their comfort around you comfort directly through conversation with you or in other words by pulling you in, they'll do it by ostracizing you out of the collective minds of the environment (classroom, work), by labelling you a weirdo in convos with everyone else behind your back, or in other words by pushing you out.
I used to ask myself why people always act that way about quiet people cause I'm quiet too,but i'm live when I wanna be. I think it might be cause the family moved around alot when I was younger, so I internalized an outsider/ fish out of water mentality, You get the feeling that everyone knows each other and you're the new guy, so you don't realize that shyt everyone knows each other about as little as they know you. Plus i'm just internal and analyze alot by nature. it's a whole universe worth of shyt going on in my head. I wish i could turn it off sometimes but everything happens a way for a reason
I remember when I went to my Uncle's Thanksgiving party and I was chillin in his man cave watching the football games and my Aunt comes in then says "Why are you being antisocial"? most of the people at the party didn't like me anyways because I don't talk a lot and all of them are extroverts. So why would I want to talk to them
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You can always tell who talks too much, I keep a wide berth from them unless they have information I need.
This breh at work tried to hook me up with a coworker and she sent him a text "No, he's too quiet"
Even online how many posters you wanna bet lowkey think i'm "weird
