"When are black men going to start building black families?"-K Michelle pleads

[Still Benefited]

Let's stop this.

First you say women want to marry the men they want to marry. [Women choose]

Then you say we as men need to create a system. [Men choose]

Now, women got to do their own thing because we aren't in the right position. [Women choose]

I ain't with aimless discussions.

Like @Ezekiel 25:17 said, those who want something out of life will make a way to achieve that something, all others will complain and whine and talk endlessly on the sidelines.

As I get older, I realize, barring any negative unforseen events, most people like to think about what they want but are too lazy, inconsistent, or selfish to get what they want out of life - from money/resources to relationships.

I don't need a publicist. I would never waste my time entertaining a broad telling me "Black men this, Black men that". What the hell is she doing to avoid bad partners/relationships? Likely nothing, but she got everything to say about what Black men ain't doing for her, and nothing to say what she's doing for herself.

Such people are wastes of time.

Women want what other women want. The part your missing is where men create the archetype of what women want


Who was it that uplifted the tattooed,thugged out,flamboyant,pimp-like,swaggerish image of black men. Putting these characteristics on a pedestal to be admired? That was black men was it not?


You cant ignore the fact that this wasnt always the archetype in our community prior to hiphop. Women are fluid,this is the archetype we have created. nikkas would rather play watered down,wanna be versions of these characters hoping to get a piece of the action. Rather than be great as a regular,blue collar/white collar/intelligent/righteous black men who love their woman and are in committed relationships.


These are the types of brothas we need to stand up more. Instead they grown men worried they may get called "simps" or be accused of "glazing" they wife by kids if they say too much. I see it all the time,sad state of affairs

 

[LDC]

 

[ajnapoleon]

Responsible black men will do what Cam did and recieve the message and ignore the messenger. The others will throw out the baby with placenta,when even the placenta has nutrients#TheChildOfMan

You know what fukk her


I’m sick and tired of woman like this


Make all the wrong choices of men

She was dealing with Antonio brown of all people


Now she saying this?



Woman are not told they are losers enough

 

[Tair]

You seem to think a man with a stable career is all it takes to be a good husband. You need mutual attraction, and both parties have to put the effort in. I’m married. But I still have to buy flowers, and have date nights. Women care about those things.

And if the women is working full time, and contributing to half the bills, does she still have to do all the housework on her own, in addition to taking care of the kids? How would she have time for hobbies?

I was responding to a post and gave a quick example to undermine his point.

Physical attraction is part of a relationship but that type of attraction will not sustain a marriage/relationship. A person with a stable career has a better chance of creating a sustainable lifestyle and likely better suited to fatherhood than a man who is always between jobs, no real career, or aimless in life.

Are you compatible in the realm of:

• Personality (I will add communication style into this).
• Morals/principles/ethics
• Religious views
• Social views
• Life objective - are one of you more career focused to the point the other partner has to take a backseat to the other's career goals?
• Parenting style/child-rearing/family - do either of you know how to operate as a team and understand that building a family requires healthy communication skills and knowing how to work as a team?
• Health/food/fitness
• Etc.

The rest of your questions would be worked out in the above bulleted points before marriage. If not, they weren't mature enough for marriage in the first place much like the woman in the video is not marriage material.

 

[jay83]

Women are so irresponsible when it comes to speaking about their choices in men online.

2 dudes who did them dirty are all of black men now.
They never say “ the men I deal with are losers”

 

[Tair]

Women want what other women want. The part your missing is where men create the archetype of what women want


Who was it that uplifted the tattooed,thugged out,flamboyant,pimp-like,swaggerish image of black men. Putting these characteristics on a pedestal to be admired? That was black men was it not?


You cant ignore the fact that this wasnt always the archetype in our community prior to hiphop. Women are fluid,this is the archetype we have created. nikkas would rather play watered down,wanna be versions of these characters hoping to get a piece of the action. Rather than be great as a regular,blue collar/white collar/intelligent/righteous black men who love their woman and are in committed relationships.


These are the types of brothas we need to stand up more. Instead they grown men worried they may get called "simps" or be accused of "glazing" they wife by kids if they say too much. I see it all the time,sad state of affairs

Either she knows herself or not. I will not lower myself to be with some broad who can't think for herself and is reliant on what her friends think and want in life. That is a recipe for disaster.

As for the hiphop stuff. I ain't taking no blame for a damn thing. Those guys ain't me and I ain't them, I don't control them, I ain't their dad, I ain't their leader. Anybody trying to blame me for things I don't have shyt to do with can kick rocks. I ain't hearing it. They can be alone with their opinions and thoughts about me because I ain't listening to'em.

 

[Fanservice]

There are two main problems

1. Only square brehs yearn for marriage/family life

2. Black women under 40 are allergic to square men (unless they’re non-black)


I knew many white and asian girls who hooked up with “bad boys” when they were younger, but went on to marry and start a family with Ross from Friends

Black women don’t seem to get it until they’re approaching 40 with multiple kids with multiple men.

 

[Still Benefited]

There are two main problems

1. Only square brehs yearn for marriage/family life

2. Black women under 40 are allergic to square men (unless they’re non-black)


I knew many white and asian girls who hooked up with “bad boys” when they were younger, but went on to marry and start a family with Ross from Friends

Black women don’t seem to get it until they’re approaching 40 with multiple kids with multiple men.

Are white men still cosplaying as thugs and bad boys into their 30s and 40's? Honestly asking because i dont know. Yall say black women dont start seeking squares until they are almost 40. But is it possible that women grow with their men? And that black men are in a state of arrested development and dont accept being squares until we are in our 30's and 40s.


If all races of women go through their badboy phase. Is there a reason it seems black women are still on that type of time at a later age than other groups of women? It would be simple and easy to say its the women who are the ones stuck in their second child hood. But understanding universal law,when I look around im not seeing black men as the picture of maturing early, While black women are out there moving recklessly#TheChildOfMan

 

[FreshFromATL]

K Michelle still fine as fukk bruh. Not sure this fits the narrative.

 

[Doobie Doo]

This bih crying about the black family yet bragged about turning down 3 rings

 

[010101]

A WOMAN'S CHOICE

all the answers are there

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[Jaguar93]

 

[rico_85]

Black men aren’t building a mf thing with these baby mama ass bytches GO BACK TO YOUR BABY DADDY BIH

 

[Gloxina]

Breh lol




Anyway, I kinda feel for her…but only a bit. I honestly forgot how wild this chick was. She isn’t the one for this message because she’s literally made multiple horrible decisions in the public eye and doubled down when folks told her to course correct.

I completely forgot about the crazy bbl stuff and literal facial reconstruction.

Not to mention all of the other antics…

I think she was deeply insecure with a nasty attitude for a long time. Not an excuse, just an observation.



Hell, I know black folks who are 40+, 50, 50+ getting married/remarried. There definitely are good Black men out there who are catches, but the women they are with are catches as well.
A lot of these women don’t really understand what that looks like.



I’ll say it again: the men called “simps” and the women called “pick-mes” need to be together. Those are the folks who actually want to give and compromise in relationships. People who think you’re a sucker because you go all out for your person/partner are ppl you stay away from. It’s all about reciprocity.

 

[Problematic Pat]

"when will black men build black homes ".....2 minutes later ..."I turned down 3 rings because they werent like my grandpa "

Typical hoe babble from the qweens