When is it a problem being too transparent or honest

[UWasntThere]

A lyric by Jay z gave me the BEST approach in dealing with Females.....


"Where is her man?
I don't know
I DON'T ASK ..I DONT PROBE"


Women tell on themselves all the time without even doing a Dj Vlad interview

Besides they don't like YOU interrogating them because it makes them feel accountable

Like as.if you were they DAD

the problem with most Good.Guys they wanna be these women's Dad.looking out for their best interest

Nah be that BAD DADDY that let them.be the FREE WILD GIRL they seek to be but knows how to PUT THEM IN THIER PLACE when it's needed

They really do though.

I got some shyt to take care of, but ill add my input later. Something I've been dealing with lately as well

 

[010101]

It really comes from knowing our value and being self-confident, even though we aren't perfect.

Brehs who aren't about shyt but smashing p*ssyholes won't be able to fake it.

But if you're happy with who you are and where you're at (which, admittedly is a struggle for 95% of people) then you won't need to feel like succumbing to the machinations of whores.

I'm basically talking about being a genuine person.

When you're a genuine person, you have the natural ability to cut through bullshyt and disarm people, because they feel comfortable being who they really are in your presence.

One of the themes you'll notice about me is that I constantly rep #TeamBabydikk, because hey, that's who I am. I've had confidence issues in the past because of it, but at the end of the day it's who I am and I slang what I slang so .

Nobody is perfect, so just be who you are. Just being genuine will put you ahead of 85% of people in the world, and your relationships will reflect that.

you a wild nikkas b i get what you're saying though*

 

[BaldingSoHard]

you a wild nikkas b i get what you're saying though*

I've said it before... life became really easy once I threw my ego in the bushes.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Women are liars.

Not all. Some of us are just more covert with our moves. Not necessarily lying... at least I don't think so.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Not all. Some of us are just more covert with our moves. Not necessarily lying... at least I don't think so.

That, what you said right there in the bold is exactly what breh is talking about.

Women will emotionally rationalize their dishonesty so that they can go through life without thinking of themselves as liars. And this is very important for women because you are supposed to be our moral superiors.

Men... we know what it is. We just lie and live with the knowledge that we're scumbags.

That's what he means. Everyone lies, it's human nature. The difference between men and women is that women believe their own lies.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

That, what you said right there in the bold is exactly what breh is talking about.

Women will emotionally rationalize their dishonesty so that they can go through life without thinking of themselves as liars.

Men... we know what it is. We just lie and live with the knowledge that we're scumbags.

That's what he means. Everyone lies, it's human nature. The difference between men and women is that women believe their own lies.

yeah, I get you.. I meant there is a difference between being straight up deceitful and dishonest to a man's face for selfish reasons (like cheating in a relationship) and there's withholding information in order to protect his feelings (the oversharing of information). Not saying either one is right, but I just associate lying with not caring or giving a shyt about the other person's feelings.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

yeah, I get you.. I meant there is a difference between being straight up deceitful and dishonest to a man's face for selfish reasons (like cheating in a relationship) and there's withholding information in order to protect his feelings (the oversharing of information). Not saying either one is right, but I just associate lying with not caring or giving a shyt about the other person's feelings.

Exactly. If a woman can find a path through an emotional disconnect, then it's not lying, it's just apathy and therefore irrelevant.

Props for the honesty.

 

[Yinny]

I lie to weed out shyt. Otherwise I’m blunt if I already know people are gossiping about me. Rather you get it from the horse’s mouth, I personally hate being blindsided or having someone deceive others about me but still keep entertaining it.

 

[MaxPain]

From what you said, I think that she thinks of you more closely as a friend, than an actual boyfriend. Reason why I say that is because when you disclose certain details about yourself or different situations you were involved in, you're less filtered with a person that you consider your friend. Because you're less worried about any judgements or any harsh feedback/criticism like you would get from someone that you're in a relationship with. As a friend, you expect them to be more understanding because that committment factor is less strenuous in that way, than in a relationship. That worry about - "is he gonna break up with me if I let him know".. blah blah... And with a friend, your less affected by how they might reaction or what their reaction will be. I understand what you say about transparency and openness but there is a such thing as being too revealing and too open. Certain things just don't need to be said, because you have more consideration for that person's feelings. Like she doesn't have the same level of respect for you as she would for a boyfriend.

Why do u make so much sense

@GrindtooFilthy read this and digest it. A woman who likes u wont wanna ruin her chances with u being upfront too early. Thats an indicator of friendzone

And u know im good for it cuz I dont ever co sign a coli female if ever

 

[KodeBlue]

Someone has to be the leader.

Someone has to set the tone.

I prefer it to be me.

If she falls short, she wasn't here for shyt anyway.

If she doesn't... well then we have something.

They got to learn. Women get away with too much already.

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

I'm hip I just wanna know that we're on the same page so I dont come across bullshyt

Being honest about your needs and boundaries with your partner is healthy. It's hard. We can't expect people to know how we want to be treated if we don't tell people.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

A woman who likes u wont wanna ruin her chances with u being upfront too early

that's my point. I'm not ruining the opportunities to be with a man that I am really interested in or that I am really falling for. If anything, I am even more guarded and protected with what I say because that appearance of being the 'woman for him' needs to be right. Not to the point where I'm fake but just a lot more restricted with how I conduct myself. But I know with men that I'm dealing with casually.. it's whatever, any details or advice that I want to talk about is no holds barred kind of thing.

I know it sounds counterproductive with transparency, but it's all about image, putting forth your best self for the person that you're most attracted to. Later on as the relationship gets more intense, then at that point, if there are more serious issues that come up that we can strategize together, as a couple, that's still separate from being on full disclosure.

 

[Nicole0416_718_929_646212]

Why do u make so much sense

Life... smh.. just life (and growing up in a male dominated family.. lol, being exposed to diff situations, 5 brothers in my family growing up, and nothing but male cousins, uncles.. etc. so just me and my mom, 1 aunt and (my grandmother until she passed ). I think gave me a broader perspective.

 

[International Playa]

Some real game in this thread, gold nuggets

if a female is disclosing her whorish antics or past = friendzone


@Nicole0416 I think its the same with men, when we really like a female we dont mention past relationships or talk about ex's etc

 

[Neuromancer]

xactly.. she doesn't respect you on the boyfriend status level. you shouldn't make a decision about this yet. I would give it time.. I don't think she would really be truthful in her response, if you ask her whether she's seeing other people or what she really wants to do. Just be wary - look at her body language and the signs. Any sign of her being uncomfortable at the questions, it's a no go. I know when I was asked..I would get real fidgety, try to deflect/divert or avoidance (like not really answering the question with a definite response). Now as I'm getting older, I just know more of what I want, so I'm direct about it anyway.

Damn you are honest.