When you got dumped.

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#HOH squad huh? She probably fukked some other nikka, realize shyt wasn't much greener on the other side then came back running to you. Best believe she was getting dikked down while she was blowing yo shyt up.

You a straight savage my dude. Though you used that Diane chick, at least you ain't kick her to the curb for your ex.

im actually a very nice person. but when i'm fuccked with, i feel vengeful. and i'm not remorseful for anything i do in the quest for revenge. i feel it takes a special type of heartlessness to breakup with someone and just disappear. especially during the holidays. that's the kind of pain u cant let slide.

when i broke up with girls, it was one of the most stressful experience for me. i broke up with them but still allowed them to contact me and we even hooked up here and there. i did it to help them ease the pain and to gradually stop being into me. i believe that's more humane.
 

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im actually a very nice person. but when i'm fuccked with, i feel vengeful. and i'm not remorseful for anything i do in the quest for revenge. i feel it takes a special type of heartlessness to breakup with someone and just disappear. especially during the holidays. that's the kind of pain u cant let slide.

when i broke up with girls, it was one of the most stressful experience for me. i broke up with them but still allowed them to contact me and we even hooked up here and there. i did it to help them ease the pain and to gradually stop being into me. i believe that's more humane.
Does it really ease the pain and gradually make them less and less interested? I think when girls completely cut you off after breaking up it's because they are dealing with a new dude and they don't wanna be talking to their ex, or they are just so sick and tired of you that they don't want any contact with you again.

Funny cause the chick I posted about on this thread gave no fukks about completely cutting me off but I at least didn't cut her off completely when I was losing interest. She started playing games, cancelling dates, was "too busy", so I said fukk it and charged her to the game. I still answered some of her texts (even tho I took my time) rather then just cutting her off completely. We had a class together at the time and I didn't change my seat either.

Now when it was her time to cut me off, she just did it out of nowhere cold turkey(over text too). No reply. Last time I saw her in person, she was smiling to herself like it was an ego boost that I wasn't over her. Should have never gave her a second chance, cause I was fine with charging her to the game too.
 

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Does it really ease the pain and gradually make them less and less interested? I think when girls completely cut you off after breaking up it's because they are dealing with a new dude and they don't wanna be talking to their ex, or they are just so sick and tired of you that they don't want any contact with you again.

Funny cause the chick I posted about on this thread gave no fukks about completely cutting me off but I at least didn't cut her off completely when I was losing interest. She started playing games, cancelling dates, was "too busy", so I said fukk it and charged her to the game. I still answered some of her texts (even tho I took my time) rather then just cutting her off completely. We had a class together at the time and I didn't change my seat either.

Now when it was her time to cut me off, she just did it out of nowhere cold turkey(over text too). No reply. Last time I saw her in person, she was smiling to herself like it was an ego boost that I wasn't over her. Should have never gave her a second chance, cause I was fine with charging her to the game too.

u screwed up by texting her and calling her incessantly.

the rules are simple.

if a girl cancels a date, without providing an alternative time: no response from u
if a girl takes a day to respond back to you: dont bother responding
if a girl does anything that shows disrespect: cut it off

all these signs are there early in the relationship. u need to nip them fast, going forward.
 

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the worst ether I ever got when I got dumped wasn't from her.

It was from her 8 year old nephew.

Me: ":what: what's with these hickeys on your neck?! whats with this flimsy ass chain you got on!!??"

Her Nephew: ":umad: Stephanie got a REAL boyfriend now!"

Me: :dwillhuh:

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I wanted to ki-

nah, I sat in the caprice and :mjcry:
What?! :dwillhuh: How old were y'all at the time? Should have reported her ass to the police or at least to her parents. :scust:
 

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This was a few years back, but I called her up to tell her I hadn't heard from her in a while.
She told me she didn't want to see me or talk to me anymore.
Told me I made her feel like she wasn't good enough, and bad about herself.

To be honest I don't know where that came from.
Took me off guard and I wished her the best in life and that she reached her dreams and that I'm rooting for her.

I was hurt as hell though for about 2 weeks. Made me do some soul searching.
:to:

I realized it was her, not me.
:beli:
 

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u screwed up by texting her and calling her incessantly.

the rules are simple.

if a girl cancels a date, without providing an alternative time: no response from u
if a girl takes a day to respond back to you: dont bother responding
if a girl does anything that shows disrespect: cut it off

all these signs are there early in the relationship. u need to nip them fast, going forward.
Nah bruh I didn't do those things.

I did initiate contact most of the time in the beginning. But I rarely double texted her. We never really talked on the phone, mainly text. And we didn't even text that much other then when we first got to know each other. Texted her for a couple hours that same night I got her number. When she first cancelled a date I was weary when she didn't set an alternative one. After a while of being tired of her bs I told her that it doesn't seem like she's interest and we should be friends. She said no that wasn't the case. I was still a bit weary but was like "meh, whatever". One time she took over a day to respond to a text that wasn't even a question, so I said fukk it and started ignoring her and stopped initiating contact.

That's when she started chasing me. At this point I stopped initiating contact, would ignore some of her texts or take my time replying. I wasn't trying to get her back per say, I got tired of her bs and was losing interest fast. After weeks of her chasing me I said fukk it why not give her a second chance cause the other chicks I was hollering at were playing. So I asked her out on a date she agreed, but eventually cancelled. I told her cool and started ignoring her again.

When she realized that I was completely done that's when she asked me out on a date. I talked to my brother if I should charge her to the game or go on this date with her. Wanting to have sex with her was one of the main driving forces for me to go through with it. Date went fine, she even invited me over to her place. I tried to make a move and she was playing hard to get. Day after seemed like she wanted to kiss me but I don't do that PDA shyt. Day of the date she was all flirty and touchy, applied her lip balm or whatever when I was putting my chapstick on so my lips don't get fukked from the winter weather.

After that we had break from school and she just went cold on me. It's whatever to me, I'm pretty much over it now.
 

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u screwed up by texting her and calling her incessantly.

the rules are simple.

if a girl cancels a date, without providing an alternative time: no response from u
if a girl takes a day to respond back to you: dont bother responding
if a girl does anything that shows disrespect: cut it off

all these signs are there early in the relationship. u need to nip them fast, going forward.
Oh and I texted her like once a day before it started to go down hill.

It was never hours and hours of going back and forth.

One of the the things I regret doing was sending her good morning and good night texts tho. My brother

told me bishes love dat shyt. She liked it initially, but soon took it for granted and after a while probably saw me as a simp

that was head over heels for her (I wasn't or at least I didn't act like it).

Oh and early on she would try and start arguments over text, I believe these were tests. I refused to go back and forth with her

and told her that she's overreacting over a small misunderstanding and when she gets her shyt together to hit me up.

She'd blow my shyt up and I wouldn't reply.
 

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This was a few years back, but I called her up to tell her I hadn't heard from her in a while.
She told me she didn't want to see me or talk to me anymore.
Told me I made her feel like she wasn't good enough, and bad about herself.

To be honest I don't know where that came from.
Took me off guard and I wished her the best in life and that she reached her dreams and that I'm rooting for her.

I was hurt as hell though for about 2 weeks. Made me do some soul searching.
:to:

I realized it was her, not me.
:beli:
I wish it only took me 2 weeks to get over a chick :francis:
 

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What was said to you by your partner? I've been dumped twice. Once via text, I know, shyt is lame. Eff that bee. Every time I open my text messages my phone scrolls up like a year and I have to see what she said again. It's infuriating but motivational.

My first break up the chick said her family didn't approve of me. I still don't understand that. She tried to throw me some ass years after she dumped me and tried to embarrass me. I ended up hooking up with her best friend, making out with her, and getting a chick's number while on a date with her. Revenge was sweet.

My second break up was world shattering. She invited me over to her house and started talking about some other nikka. Asking me what I thought of him and shyt. She didn't actually break up with me. I was crushed. I didn't show it, never will, and don't plan to.

My third break up changed me at my core. Ill never be the person I was before I dated her. My friends say my relationship with her was equal to two marriages. This girl would tell me she loved me and wanted to have my kids. She told me I'm caught up in my feelings and they're affecting her differently. She also said she likes being my girlfriend because I spoil her but she didn't want the emotional baggage.

But she still wanted the D. Matter of fact all those bytches wanted the D after they dumped me. People tell me I've changed. I'm a real cold dude, but it's only because I've been in relationships where shyt is on the line and I've taken my L's. I was legit friends with all the girls I dated so I lost a friend too.

I used to live to attract women. Now I'd rather just skateboard or cook food. I used to want a family and marriage now I don't care either way because there's no way in willing to trust a woman with my future again.
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sweetest revenge was from about 6 years ago. girl broke up with me during holiday season (around christmas time). i was devastated. she even returned the gift she had bought me. (i know this cause i read her emails. yup i sure did.). i also checked her phone records, found out she went and hung out with this one male "friend" of hers late at night. i called her the next day to confront her about it. she was furious. why u checking my phone, blah blah. he's just a friend. we were talking about u. lol. i was yellling at her on the phone, she hung up. and that was that. i never called her again.

about 2 months later. she never sent me the keys to house. so i texted her to have her send it. she calls me immediately and starts to cry. says she misses me but the relationship just cant work because her father (he's racist) wont allow it and her mother is so so about it. this i knew already. but shes crying on the phone. so that phone call led to more phone calls. we started talking again. told her i was seeing someone new. at first it didn't seem to bother her. but over time, when i would tell her i goto get off the phone because diane and i have plans, it started to irritate her. lol. i knew what i was doing.

eventually she goes, can you stop talking to that girl??? now, i wasn't really into diane. at all. but i just kinda dated her because she was really into me. but the presence of diane was driving my ex off the wall. there'd be many times id tell my ex to call me, and when she called, i wouldn't pick up. and she'd be blowing up my phone. one time she called and her number came up on my television screen as i was watching a movie with diane. diane didn't like that at all. so i'm thinking, "hmm, here's another opportunity to stick it to her". so i had diane pick up the phone to tell my ex "he's not here. who's this?". now, no one answers my phone bbut me. so when dianed picked up, it wrecked my ex. she hung up on diane and starts to blow up my phone again. where are you??

and when i didn't respond, she goes "u know what, i cant take this. i wish u the best with diane". to which i responded: "ok. wish you well in your future endeavors".

she responded:

"that wasn't the response i was looking for. i thought u'd at least fight for us".

but wait, i wasn't done.

she came through to the crib once. we fuccked. and she was under the illusion we were now back together. lol. i told her i'd break up with diane that night. so when that night came. i told her, i'm going to take diane out to dinner and kindly let her down. and sure enough, when night time came, i took diane out to dinner. and i conveniently turned off my phone for the night. and no, i didn't break up with her. diane spent the night. after diane left next morning, i check my phone and see that i've got like 65 missed calls, and like 5 or 6 voicemails.

lol. yeah. revenge was sweet. the story is much longer than this but im tired of typing lol

:banderas:
 

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I been dumped 2 or three times. It does suck.

They just got tired of being in a relationship and were getting involved with someone else, or didnt like the confides of a monogamous relationship.
The other dumped me because he got back with his ex or something idk.

I just would rather be dumped because at least I know I did my best. It's their decision. Im not gonna force anyone to be with me.
 

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The best advice my mother ever gave me in terms of relationships is that whatever happens, happens.

If a girl breaks up with you or you end the relationship yourself? It was going to happen sooner or later, and you're better off with it ending than being stuck in a loveless, complacent relationship.

A girl cheats on you? It was going to happen, you can't control other people's desires and actions.

It seems like such a hokey piece of advice, and I understand that. But when you think about it, it makes complete sense. My family has couples that have been together for over 30+ years; and just by talking to them, they've always told me that they knew when they found their true SO. You can't get caught up in the short term, you have to be able to step back and take a look at the bigger picture, and realize that eventually there will be something out there that's better for you.

Just my two cents.
 
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