Who do yall ladies feed first

[The Mad Titan]

We really got folks in here saying the man should eat before the child

Its a visual thats important if you eating together like that.

1) Mom making sure dad got his plate 1st shows order and that the kids don't come 1st for everything. As a parent you know your kids come 1st but when a kid knows that they come 1st that's how you get bad azz spoiled "me 1st kids".
2) It builds up the relationship when a man knows that his wife is going to "serve" him 1st before anyone else. Kids included, that doesn't mean the children aren't 1st priority it just means that they don't always come 1st in every single situation and shouldn't.


If she fixing her man the last of the food and not feeding herself or her kids everyone in that house has huge problems. In my aunts and uncles houses I never came 1st when meals was cooked and neither did their kids it was the husbands and then us. Now at gatherings, and events the kids ate 1st to make sure they got want they wanted then the adults.


Like the optic is even weird to me, sitting at a table kids and dad ready to eat and everyone gets a plate while he waits and smiles and the kids dig in.

Kids should respect the adults not the other way around. I don't get it....

 

[Boujee Bonita Braxton]

Even before me imperfection

Correct, Sir.

 

[75 Others]

Yeah man I don't get it either, as a head of household I make sure everyone eats before I do but I'm contrarian like that and always go against the grain.

I understand why some do, it just never sat well with me. If nobody else in the house eats, the kids are eating first without question.

I'm the same way. The fukk I look like my kids salivating over my plate and they hungry

 

[wastedmermaid]

depends if its a life or death situation & there's only one meal left, then yeah give it to the child.

But otherwise, if i as the man and primary bread winner come home from a full days work i expect to be handed the first plate with the biggest portions. my kid can wait a few minutes till after I get my plate.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Husband gets the plate first. Them kids don't have a job.

This. The person who gets up every day to make that money should eat first.

 

[BrehWyatt]

If I so happen to be dealing with a woman who has a child that isn't mine, I'd expect her child to be served first.

But if this is a me and wifey have made our own family situation ... well, we're all eating at the same time anyway, so whether you hand me my plate first or our kid(s) get theirs first is kind of inconsequential. Even if I got my plate first, I wouldn't start grubbing until everybody had their plate and was ready for grace to be said.

That said, if I cooked/prepped the meal, then my first reaction is to serve wifey first, so I guess deep down, I'd expect to get a plate first.

Though I'm rather at @The Mad Titan's take on it. Made legit sense.

Now, if this is a question where there's not enough to go around, so someone has to get first crack, then the child obviously goes first. Otherwise, as long as there's enough for everybody ... we smashing. .

 

[TEH]

Child.

at a grown man catching feelings over his progeny getting sustenance before him.

Single mother logic

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

Correct, Sir.

Lol i know u a good mother imperfection.

Its good

 

[ill_will82]

Kids eat first.

Man some of y'all got some issues. Put grown ass nikkas over kids. Grown folks can wait to be served.

 

[The Mad Titan]

Kids eat first.

Man some of y'all got some issues. Put grown ass nikkas over kids. Grown folks can wait to be served.

And Kids can't? Why can't an 6, 8, 10, 13, 15 year old wait until the adults get there plate to eat? If anything that would teach them manners, It has less to be about being greedy and more to do with character building and relationship strengthening in my opinion.

 

[Jo-Black49]

I think some people are confused about the question but hey I won't judge you because your family dynamics were different than mine. Children will one day move out and create their own families but your husband/wife will be there for life. I know that parents will do whatever they have to do for their kids but there must be some type of order. My parents had each other's back at all times. Always focusing on the kids as a priority beyond reasonableness can be detrimental to any relationship. Children should be shown their place and husband AND wives should be valued adequately. I guess I'm just old school like that.

 

[Bobby Lashleys eyebrows]

My child.. of course. boyfriends come and go, husbands come and go, kids are forever and theyre innocent. Besides that, any man worth having around your kids like that would tell the mother to make sure the child eats first, or prepare a plate for the kid, he will wait to get his. That's for any situation tho.. kids first, adults last. what kind of mother would i be to make sure my child doesnt eat first, but I'm feeding the man, that's some thottery. That's like feeding my kid some microwave spaghetti-o's while we're sitting down eating a 3 course steak dinner.

But if we're together as a family, then we eat and break bread all together as a family, in that case everybody eats the same.

You on a role. Kids always come first bruh. Even as a father as long as I get the big piece.

 

[Bobby Lashleys eyebrows]

Growing up I remember that my mom would serve my father first. He wasn't even home and yet she would separate his food first. When we were having dinner together, my father would always be served first. My mother has a lot of respect for my father. My father, however, always waited for everyone to have a plate so we could start eating as a family. I know my mother, she would give her life for me and I know that she loves me and I don't consider her being a bad mother at all. Now that I have my own wife I aim to encourage the same respect my mother had with my father with my wife and me.

That's understandable. My family never ate at the table at the same time but as a parent, I would always make sure my kids eating cause they gonna always come first no ma'at who gets served first.

 

[Jo-Black49]

That's understandable. My family never ate at the table at the same time but as a parent, I would always make sure my kids eating cause they gonna always come first no ma'at who gets served first.

As a parent should. I hope that what I wrote didn’t come across as an excuse to be negligent with the care of your child. On another note, nothing beats a family dinner specially when no one is beefin over dumb shyt.

 

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As a kid we ate together. My mom always gave my dad a plate first at the table.