Why are men avoiding marriage?

[Neuromancer]

Ya'll realize this is a blatant BM vs BW thread right.

 

[Strapped]

We are scared

 

[Michael's Black Son]

women don't bring anything to the table but ran through p*ssy while men are expected to still play the traditional male role
it's a bum deal

This.

The in-house pvss just not worth the many stages the relationship will ultimately morph into + the bickering over nonsense.

 

[Redguard]

I enjoy peace and quiet. I won't have that with 95% of women.

 

[blues_funk_reggae]

Getting married and divorced and losing half your bread within 1-2 years

shyt is a losing game for men

Spoiler

 

[blues_funk_reggae]

I enjoy peace and quiet. I won't have that with 95% of women.

These are big facts for me.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Marriage doesn't make sense in modern society. I still think it is the best way to raise a family but I doubt I'd ever go for it. Very few worthwhile candidates. The law being stacked against men.

Truth be told it's for the best of everyone involved because I'm not loosing half my assets without going rambo.

 

[Diondon]

I'm in favor of marriage but too much hinges on the fickleness of women. That's why the song goes "Take time to know her"
And the way my personality is set up, I won't be rushed into a gotdamn thing.

 

[Phitz]

1. People are highly indivualistic & mistakenly believe that they can get farther in life without a spouse.
2. Men falsely believe that single life is always the better option when statistics show that married men live longer, are healthier & happier than their single counterparts.
3. Men internalize the widely perceived & promoted imbalance of the divorce court system. They don’t realize that the vast majority of them are not in a tax bracket where they would be the victim of any alimony payments at all.
4. Too many people didn’t grow up around healthy marriages, so they are lost when it comes to choosing a partner. This is for women AND men. The people that were exposed to healthy relationships then have to exhaust themselves to teach others healthy boundaries...while having their own learnings to work on (I’m sorry, but this is basically double duty).
5. Too many people believe that child rearing between coparents vs healthy married couples are created equal.

BONUS: Why women aren’t getting married...

1. Women keep giving husband privileges to boyfriends. A boyfriend does not, and will never, deserve the gift of continuing his legacy through your womb. Cohabitation ain’t working in the best interest for women either...but if you must, have a timeline for marriage & stick to it or leave.
2. Women need to learn when to leave a dead end relationship & stop wasting their own damn time.

Alot of older married men tell me not to get married, and most(well all) of them say when they married they didn't get sex anymore.

 

[Phitz]

I wonder if he got her from overseas

mail order?

 

[Lord Bison]

1. Reread what I wrote. Is there anything in there that justifies your personal attack? You're just emotional because my ideas threaten your "sacred cow" -- state-sponsored church marriage, and the "validation" that comes with it. I hit a nerve and I'm glad my ideas scare you. Brothers -- that fear is a good sign.

Don't let her drag you down to her "guarantor", her "leverage" -- "the white man" -- to "validate" your love on some idiotic timetable.

The same bureau that "sanctifies" your state-sponsored marriage will rubber stamp your divorce if you come back one month later complaining that her breath stinks in the morning ...So why go to the state in the first place -- when we can use this anti-marriage trend in our culture to kill state-sponsored marriage FOR GOOD, and replace it with commitment in which the woman actually BELIEVES IN YOU, rather than just her "guarantor"?

My brothers, YOU are the "guarantor". If we insist on this kind of thinking in our culture, maybe women will begin to choose the men they fukk more wisely, so that YOU don't end up a target of her genocidal tendencies because of something Dirty dikk Rodney inevitably does to her. However, if we keep indulging them -- especially with shyt like church marriage (even though we KNOW the church is ratchet)... diamonds (even though we KNOW they're a scam)... and state-sponsored marriage (even though we KNOW it's a TRAP), things are NEVER going to get better for our culture.

2. "Ladies, please avoid these types of men at all costs"? Trust me, they won't. I'm tall, well-spoken, athletic, good looking and professional. If push comes to shove, I could just LIE to them, tapping into that "cinderella complex" to get way up in that ass -- but I don't even have to do that. Some women are actually attracted to and respect men of ideas, instead of those who just go along with the dusty ol' program (which, of course, has been working so well for the black community ).

3. My black brothers -- I know I don't have to tell you this but -- please avoid these types of WOMEN at all costs. She gets emotional and throws a personal attack because I posted ideas she disagrees with, instead of simply explaining the basis of her disagreement... Yes indeed -- please avoid this type of woman at all costs. Her ways won't work well in a relationship. Everyone but her knows this to be true.

I guess she feels "entitled" to never have her ideas challenged. lol -- This is the woman who wants you to marry her, on a timetable yet.

Dont listen to that broad man. The only reason why she's saying that is because she knows as a woman that they can lose access to a man's resources. It's in her benefit to keep men blind from the truth that women are a straight up long term LIABILITY when it comes to marriage.

 

[Knowledge]

I enjoy my closet space.

This and I also enjoy going to the bathroom without shyt being thrown everywhere and having to deal with every damn drain clogged. You don't know the struggle until you had to deal with a woman and trying to keep her from clogging drains

 

[MikelArteta]

Getting married and divorced and losing half your bread within 1-2 years

shyt is a losing game for men

Spoiler

I think the thing that bothers me is that it doesn’t matter if your a faithful loving husband and your wife is a cheater

 

[Knowledge]

I just wanna add fuel to the fire

 

[Phitz]

Marriage is the foundation to any functional society, this has been the case for millenia and goes beyond the ideals of feminists, Gmb and HOH agenda. Considering the ills facing western blacks, marriage is even more important than ever but I will let conventional Coli wisdom tell it GMB GMB GMB

Nobody is aruging agains't that but these brehs experiences based on the current socioeconomic set up is sobering evidence of why it's more emotionally and financially damaging for men. It's super risky now more than ever also.