I can be wrong, I won't pretend to be some guru on these message boards. But in my experience:
Men: A lot of dudes haven't grown into men yet and the ones that put up a front are frauds, they get a girl, get attached, get hurt and start hating on all broads instead of facing themselves and doing the work of healing or facing their own bullshyt. Being alone is a superpower, being on your own is a gift, learn this shyt and become your own best friend. Plus, commitment comes with a heavy ass price and guys, like women, are becoming more cautious with who they sacrifice that for because not just anyone is worth it. Either way, heartbreak is really an exercise that we must experience in order to become our better self. Invest in yourself and put yourself out there again if is something you really want deep down. Of course, some are just fine with the pump and dump, and if you decided kids aren't in your future it's a good route to go if you can manage. People moving on from terms like marriage and assigning terms like "life partner" instead (they on some Will & Jada shyt). But hey, as fukked and dysfunctional as people think that relationship is, it works for them, who the fukk needs titles at the end of the day if you can have freedom and be in a ship. What everyone thinks shouldn't matter.
Women: Lots of girls date dudes that are losers, I know because I was one of those guys getting girls out of his self perceived league. They are charismatic, promise things they do not deliver on, and make them feel amazing which is important in attraction--it's all about how you make her feel point blank. It is great until it isn't and they eventually see through you (which is good). Once they do, it is over brehs, she will eat your soul and move on. I fukked up because I never realized that I for someone reason always ended up with damaged women. My first girl was a rape victim, after that I dated around for years and never got into anything serious, next one was a chick with daddy issues and a mom that was jealous of her for being better looking so she treated her like trash, my next after that was a close friend that got cheated on after 9yrs and was straight up broken. Here's where that saying, "you attract what you are comes true," because brehs, I was fukked up. And you never realize this shyt until you do. Girls out here be looking for a dude that can save them, not fix them, they show and say this in more or less words because you are never going to fix people. People do not really change, they just become their truer selves as life goes on... sometimes it looks like change but really it was something you always had but finally decided to tap into. But in the end, this perfect dude don't exist because we are all damaged in some way. When and if these girls end up with a guy, I can guarantee it will be because they are just attracted to them, not because he matches her check boxes. Girls want a man that can provide, but they no longer need it. So more than ever, people, relationships, and connections are more disposable than ever. Never forget that.
you basically saying nikkas gotta stay in a marriage until they die unless their spouse cheats or abuses them...that's just living in hell b.
