Why are men avoiding marriage?

[Coli Bot]

My ex girlfriend got married last year. Church girl, very sweet person.

But I’ve came on her face about 4 or 5 times since she’s been married. That alone confirmed that marriage isn’t for me.

You a fowl nikka

 

[nairdas]

Waste of time and money imo

 

[phcitywarrior]

Ehh, the way I see it, some people just don't value it. Plain and simple. The people that value marriage and the commitment behind it will put in the work to make sure their marriage works

If you see marriage as a piece of paper, then marriage is no different than a divorce contract or a college degree. If you see marriage as the union of man and woman into one, then you'll act accordingly.

My two cents

 

[Michael's Black Son]

I saw how my dad go took to the cleaners he's lucky he bounced back I don't know if I ever want to take the risk with marriage or kids.

With the way these females are even my female family members have told me not to trust these hoes it's crazy out here.

Insane. After seeing what your dad went thru did that affect your relationship with your mom since you had/have to deal with both of them but on very different terms?

 

[Magic Mulatto]

I'm fine without a legacy.

I just want to make my life as easy as possible.

Me too, breh . . . Me too

just because you marry up means nothing, anyone can lose their job or stuff changes. My sister was working a great job before she got married, she got married had 3 young kids and it was no longer feasible for her to work so she stopped so that chick you marry that may check all your boxes of marrying up can easily change. People change as well yeah you can follow any script and do this and do that but still lose in the end.

Your wife could wake up tomorrow and no longer want to be married to you and there is nothing you can do about it. Just like I can be the best employee at work for a decade and still go in tomorrow ad my boss saying sorry we are letting you go. To sit on your high horse like the average man is just getting down on one knee and walking down the aisle with anyone and is an idiot while you are so smart is disgusting.

Just like you can exercise work out eat healthy and still be diagnosed with cancer while the fat slob who never exercises and eats red meat and drinks a can of coke every day is healthy, the same how you can choose right, be with your hs sweetheart who makes more than you but is still submissive and been down since day 1 ad still have them thangs dropped

That’s that REAL! right there . . .

 

[diggy]

Because the potential brides gonna be putting IG filters on them at the altar

 

[MF budz]

Why get married when 50% of people get divorced? Im good on all that. Imagine being married to someone for 25-30 years then they just fall out of love with you and get to take half your shyt. Or worse you have kids under 18 and they try to take them. Ill just be with you forever cause we want to not because we have a ring and piece of paper

 

[number21]

The bubblehead boards and simps in here man.

Got no real reasons but weak shaming tatics on why men should buy into modern marriage again.

 

[skeetsinternal]

I saw how my dad go took to the cleaners he's lucky he bounced back I don't know if I ever want to take the risk with marriage or kids.

With the way these females are even my female family members have told me not to trust these hoes it's crazy out here.

Sorry to hear about your parents. I can say with confidence your mom never loved your dad. It's impossible for a woman to love a man and it's never about love. Your moms showed her true self at the end. A man should never trust abytch, they are emotional and every semblance of humanity in a bytch is driven by her hormones.

If a bytch tell you she loves you, it's game
If a bytch says you can trust her, it's game
If a bytch says she faithful, it's game

The game is cold

 

[bennyfein]

Because women are hard to control these days. Plus thanks to social media ita harder to please them. There's always something better out there in her eyes.

 

[The Odum of Ala Igbo]

I can be wrong, I won't pretend to be some guru on these message boards. But in my experience:

Men: A lot of dudes haven't grown into men yet and the ones that put up a front are frauds, they get a girl, get attached, get hurt and start hating on all broads instead of facing themselves and doing the work of healing or facing their own bullshyt. Being alone is a superpower, being on your own is a gift, learn this shyt and become your own best friend. Plus, commitment comes with a heavy ass price and guys, like women, are becoming more cautious with who they sacrifice that for because not just anyone is worth it. Either way, heartbreak is really an exercise that we must experience in order to become our better self. Invest in yourself and put yourself out there again if is something you really want deep down. Of course, some are just fine with the pump and dump, and if you decided kids aren't in your future it's a good route to go if you can manage. People moving on from terms like marriage and assigning terms like "life partner" instead (they on some Will & Jada shyt). But hey, as fukked and dysfunctional as people think that relationship is, it works for them, who the fukk needs titles at the end of the day if you can have freedom and be in a ship. What everyone thinks shouldn't matter.

Women: Lots of girls date dudes that are losers, I know because I was one of those guys getting girls out of his self perceived league. They are charismatic, promise things they do not deliver on, and make them feel amazing which is important in attraction--it's all about how you make her feel point blank. It is great until it isn't and they eventually see through you (which is good). Once they do, it is over brehs, she will eat your soul and move on. I fukked up because I never realized that I for someone reason always ended up with damaged women. My first girl was a rape victim, after that I dated around for years and never got into anything serious, next one was a chick with daddy issues and a mom that was jealous of her for being better looking so she treated her like trash, my next after that was a close friend that got cheated on after 9yrs and was straight up broken. Here's where that saying, "you attract what you are comes true," because brehs, I was fukked up. And you never realize this shyt until you do. Girls out here be looking for a dude that can save them, not fix them, they show and say this in more or less words because you are never going to fix people. People do not really change, they just become their truer selves as life goes on... sometimes it looks like change but really it was something you always had but finally decided to tap into. But in the end, this perfect dude don't exist because we are all damaged in some way. When and if these girls end up with a guy, I can guarantee it will be because they are just attracted to them, not because he matches her check boxes. Girls want a man that can provide, but they no longer need it. So more than ever, people, relationships, and connections are more disposable than ever. Never forget that.

 

[Suleiman Bey]

Because women ain't shyt

 

[Raid]

1. People are highly indivualistic & mistakenly believe that they can get farther in life without a spouse.
2. Men falsely believe that single life is always the better option when statistics show that married men live longer, are healthier & happier than their single counterparts.
3. Men internalize the widely perceived & promoted imbalance of the divorce court system. They don’t realize that the vast majority of them are not in a tax bracket where they would be the victim of any alimony payments at all.
4. Too many people didn’t grow up around healthy marriages, so they are lost when it comes to choosing a partner. This is for women AND men. The people that were exposed to healthy relationships then have to exhaust themselves to teach others healthy boundaries...while having their own learnings to work on (I’m sorry, but this is basically double duty).
5. Too many people believe that child rearing between coparents vs healthy married couples are created equal.

BONUS: Why women aren’t getting married...

1. Women keep giving husband privileges to boyfriends. A boyfriend does not, and will never, deserve the gift of continuing his legacy through your womb. Cohabitation ain’t working in the best interest for women either...but if you must, have a timeline for marriage & stick to it or leave.
2. Women need to learn when to leave a dead end relationship & stop wasting their own damn time.

Although some of that may sound like it make sense I know couples who chose not to get married or wait a while to get married that went way further, and still together while married couples getting divorced left and right.........

Once people get married they have a habit of forcing a view of ownership on one another that always end in destruction.......Couples who aren't married tend to be more romantic yet realistic, and married couples always come off as corny to me for some reason, like the wife always gotta do something that show she ''controls her man''
and the husband always have to be a corny dude that abides......

Its not a good look tbh.......

 

[Jermio]

I will laugh in the face of any married man. Either he a POS loser, or his wife a thot. No wiggle room.

 

[Jerz]

Because it ain't worth it