Mike Nasty
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Cool story, spend the first half of the story building up this great character and then the second half tearing it down, clowning how the man isn't worthy of her presence.
Why are men avoiding marriage?
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Cool story, spend the first half of the story building up this great character and then the second half tearing it down, clowning how the man isn't worthy of her presence.
because black women wanna lay up, when in reality they never had it like that.
As someone in a long term committed relationship, I just don't feel the need to yet. 
We plan on having children soon so it'll happen before then, but for now, we're perfectly happy with each other without the financial burden of paying for a wedding.
I also think I have the benefit of having been in another serious relationship before this one that didn't work that taught me not to go reaching for shyt before it's time. Thankfully I'm with a woman who is more than willing to talk and discuss how we both feel about the subject so we make sure we're both in a good place with the relationship.
I guess an easier way to say it is I chose wisely.
We plan on having children soon so it'll happen before then, but for now, we're perfectly happy with each other without the financial burden of paying for a wedding.
I also think I have the benefit of having been in another serious relationship before this one that didn't work that taught me not to go reaching for shyt before it's time. Thankfully I'm with a woman who is more than willing to talk and discuss how we both feel about the subject so we make sure we're both in a good place with the relationship.
I guess an easier way to say it is I chose wisely.
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im outchea
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My ex girlfriend got married last year. Church girl, very sweet person.
But I’ve came on her face about 4 or 5 times since she’s been married. That alone confirmed that marriage isn’t for me.
But I’ve came on her face about 4 or 5 times since she’s been married. That alone confirmed that marriage isn’t for me.
I don't want to marry because guaranteed contracts in general are the stupidest shyt. They bring nothing but laziness and disrespect down the line. The power to leave is usually what keeps relationships in line. "Happily married" brehs usually are:
1. newly married in honeymoon phase
2. loser "sitcom dad" type brehs who take women's bullshyt knowing that they don't have a snowballs chance in hell of getting steady p*ssy any other way
3. just faking it for appearances but deep down they know they have gotten themselves into a deep quagmire
1. newly married in honeymoon phase
2. loser "sitcom dad" type brehs who take women's bullshyt knowing that they don't have a snowballs chance in hell of getting steady p*ssy any other way
3. just faking it for appearances but deep down they know they have gotten themselves into a deep quagmire
LiveFromLondon
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so are you ok with single parent homes and baby mama hood which unstablizes a community and theres a lot of things that have been around for centuries, are you going to include them to counter my point. Plus this marriage shyt goes beyond you and your ideals when it comes to building healthy communties, show me a community thats in order and marriage isnt at the foundation.
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even the women I know who practice family law know how bad it is for men so I don’t bother wasting time arguing with these IG and FB posting chicks lol
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Is this nikkah a Coli poster?
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Didn’t really understand your second point when in reality divorces are at a high rate currently and as the man in the video said men are 5x times more likely to commit suicide after a divorce. Of course the men in happy relationships are going to be happier than single men but I don’t think the video is about that.
It’s a very common critique you guys have of us.
It doesn’t matter whether every race outearns black people, all women care about money/resources. Plus you have not address the alimony part of your comment that people have said was wrong
Happily married to a black woman Ive known since 11 years old. We went to Uni together and got together 2 years before we graduated. Became true homeowners (made a lot of money off of the crypto boom) by paying off our house in 2017, mid thirties and we are now considering having at least one child. My girl is educated and makes more than I do
We happy. All I can say is you nikkas need to reach higher. The problems you nikkas describing are the same issues friends of mine are going through. nikkas need to stop spending their lives building something positive, then marrying DOWN. You marry up or across, period. bytches figured this out centuries ago and nikkas is still slow to catch up.... Worried about a bytch taking your shyt because you marrying bytches that dont have shyt of their own.
Let a pretty face on insta trick you into marrying a bytch with a $200 net worth, lose everything in a divorce because the bytch is annoying and stupid, then go dry dikked for the rest of your life screaming
This is kind of bullshyt. Your wife can divorce you tomorrow and you will pay for it. My parents show that your theory has holes
Happily married to a black woman Ive known since 11 years old. We went to Uni together and got together 2 years before we graduated. Became true homeowners (made a lot of money off of the crypto boom) by paying off our house in 2017, mid thirties and we are now considering having at least one child. My girl is educated and makes more than I do
We happy. All I can say is you nikkas need to reach higher. The problems you nikkas describing are the same issues friends of mine are going through. nikkas need to stop spending their lives building something positive, then marrying DOWN. You marry up or across, period. bytches figured this out centuries ago and nikkas is still slow to catch up.... Worried about a bytch taking your shyt because you marrying bytches that dont have shyt of their own.
Let a pretty face on insta trick you into marrying a bytch with a $200 net worth, lose everything in a divorce because the bytch is annoying and stupid, then go dry dikked for the rest of your life screaming MGTOW on some quasi-gay/incel shyt brehs.
You make some good points, and in theory your way of doing things would help guarantee a happy marriage, but in actual reality it can happen to anybody
.I know a breh, mid thirties, good god-fearing college educated man who married this girl I went to school with, good girl, equally yoked and all that. Had a beautiful daughter, nice house in the suburbs, all that. Anyway, he got married around 2014 and he's currently in divorce proceedings as we speak
It's how the game goes sometimes. Humble yourself some breh because it could be you too
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They not tryna hear marry across or up. THey want to marry down to control the bytchHappily married to a black woman Ive known since 11 years old. We went to Uni together and got together 2 years before we graduated. Became true homeowners (made a lot of money off of the crypto boom) by paying off our house in 2017, mid thirties and we are now considering having at least one child. My girl is educated and makes more than I do
We happy. All I can say is you nikkas need to reach higher. The problems you nikkas describing are the same issues friends of mine are going through. nikkas need to stop spending their lives building something positive, then marrying DOWN. You marry up or across, period. bytches figured this out centuries ago and nikkas is still slow to catch up.... Worried about a bytch taking your shyt because you marrying bytches that dont have shyt of their own.
Let a pretty face on insta trick you into marrying a bytch with a $200 net worth, lose everything in a divorce because the bytch is annoying and stupid, then go dry dikked for the rest of your life screaming MGTOW on some quasi-gay/incel shyt brehs.
Thinking that she not gonna run to the white man for a deal
I can be wrong, I won't pretend to be some guru on these message boards. But in my experience:
Men: A lot of dudes haven't grown into men yet and the ones that put up a front are frauds, they get a girl, get attached, get hurt and start hating on all broads instead of facing themselves and doing the work of healing or facing their own bullshyt. Being alone is a superpower, being on your own is a gift, learn this shyt and become your own best friend. Plus, commitment comes with a heavy ass price and guys, like women, are becoming more cautious with who they sacrifice that for because not just anyone is worth it. Either way, heartbreak is really an exercise that we must experience in order to become our better self. Invest in yourself and put yourself out there again if is something you really want deep down. Of course, some are just fine with the pump and dump, and if you decided kids aren't in your future it's a good route to go if you can manage. People moving on from terms like marriage and assigning terms like "life partner" instead (they on some Will & Jada shyt). But hey, as fukked and dysfunctional as people think that relationship is, it works for them, who the fukk needs titles at the end of the day if you can have freedom and be in a ship. What everyone thinks shouldn't matter.
Women: Lots of girls date dudes that are losers, I know because I was one of those guys getting girls out of his self perceived league. They are charismatic, promise things they do not deliver on, and make them feel amazing which is important in attraction--it's all about how you make her feel point blank. It is great until it isn't and they eventually see through you (which is good). Once they do, it is over brehs, she will eat your soul and move on. I fukked up because I never realized that I for someone reason always ended up with damaged women. My first girl was a rape victim, after that I dated around for years and never got into anything serious, next one was a chick with daddy issues and a mom that was jealous of her for being better looking so she treated her like trash, my next after that was a close friend that got cheated on after 9yrs and was straight up broken. Here's where that saying, "you attract what you are comes true," because brehs, I was fukked up. And you never realize this shyt until you do. Girls out here be looking for a dude that can save them, not fix them, they show and say this in more or less words because you are never going to fix people. People do not really change, they just become their truer selves as life goes on... sometimes it looks like change but really it was something you always had but finally decided to tap into. But in the end, this perfect dude don't exist because we are all damaged in some way. When and if these girls end up with a guy, I can guarantee it will be because they are just attracted to them, not because he matches her check boxes. Girls want a man that can provide, but they no longer need it. So more than ever, people, relationships, and connections are more disposable than ever. Never forget that.
Men: A lot of dudes haven't grown into men yet and the ones that put up a front are frauds, they get a girl, get attached, get hurt and start hating on all broads instead of facing themselves and doing the work of healing or facing their own bullshyt. Being alone is a superpower, being on your own is a gift, learn this shyt and become your own best friend. Plus, commitment comes with a heavy ass price and guys, like women, are becoming more cautious with who they sacrifice that for because not just anyone is worth it. Either way, heartbreak is really an exercise that we must experience in order to become our better self. Invest in yourself and put yourself out there again if is something you really want deep down. Of course, some are just fine with the pump and dump, and if you decided kids aren't in your future it's a good route to go if you can manage. People moving on from terms like marriage and assigning terms like "life partner" instead (they on some Will & Jada shyt). But hey, as fukked and dysfunctional as people think that relationship is, it works for them, who the fukk needs titles at the end of the day if you can have freedom and be in a ship. What everyone thinks shouldn't matter.
Women: Lots of girls date dudes that are losers, I know because I was one of those guys getting girls out of his self perceived league. They are charismatic, promise things they do not deliver on, and make them feel amazing which is important in attraction--it's all about how you make her feel point blank. It is great until it isn't and they eventually see through you (which is good). Once they do, it is over brehs, she will eat your soul and move on. I fukked up because I never realized that I for someone reason always ended up with damaged women. My first girl was a rape victim, after that I dated around for years and never got into anything serious, next one was a chick with daddy issues and a mom that was jealous of her for being better looking so she treated her like trash, my next after that was a close friend that got cheated on after 9yrs and was straight up broken. Here's where that saying, "you attract what you are comes true," because brehs, I was fukked up. And you never realize this shyt until you do. Girls out here be looking for a dude that can save them, not fix them, they show and say this in more or less words because you are never going to fix people. People do not really change, they just become their truer selves as life goes on... sometimes it looks like change but really it was something you always had but finally decided to tap into. But in the end, this perfect dude don't exist because we are all damaged in some way. When and if these girls end up with a guy, I can guarantee it will be because they are just attracted to them, not because he matches her check boxes. Girls want a man that can provide, but they no longer need it. So more than ever, people, relationships, and connections are more disposable than ever. Never forget that.
