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Why are men avoiding marriage?
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You know an issue is real when Black AND White men are both complaining about it. Marriage, divorce and family law in America just needs to be revamped if this country wants people to still come together in 50 years.
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Yep, a lot of women really want to get married but they don't really want to be married
Along with the realization that if a woman really loves you, she's gonna love you with or without commitment.
If a woman ever starts pressuring you for more commitment, then she don't really love you. She's just investing into you with expectations of a return.
And there's nothing wrong with that, but at that point we can accept that most marriages are business decisions, and have little to do with actual love especially for women.
That's why you see so many women married to nikkas everybody can tell they don't love.
Most men would have no problem getting married. Problem is most of the guys women are actually going for ONLY in the top 20% already went off the market in college or made the cost benefit analysis and realized the bachelor life is the better option.
Now I'm seeing all these female dating coaches like Nicole Michelle and Sara Lena teaching "feminity" to women under the guise of acting traditional to snag a man on the road to 6 figures or higher that is willing to accept their wife being a stay at home mom.
Like they werent the main culprits talking about being strong and independent for the past few decades
That 50+ hour workweek and bills piling up is humbling them.
Now I'm seeing all these female dating coaches like Nicole Michelle and Sara Lena teaching "feminity" to women under the guise of acting traditional to snag a man on the road to 6 figures or higher that is willing to accept their wife being a stay at home mom.
Like they werent the main culprits talking about being strong and independent for the past few decades
That 50+ hour workweek and bills piling up is humbling them.
DrBanneker
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I agree with what you said except that the last two bullet points make it look like deadbeat/non-commital brehs are the woman's only obstacle to getting a ring. I am married almost a decade now (to a BW and I am BM) and we often discuss the failings of our still single friends. From the girl angle:
1. Too many women are looking for men that don't exist or have trouble ditching childish ideals. My wife had a couple of friends she tried to hook up with good professional brehs we know. Among the responses: "he's too nice", "I like light skinned, curly hair guys". We are in our late 30s. If you truly want a marriage and family you need to straighten your priorities first.
2. Don't try to get married too young. Pressuring a breh to commit in his early 20s is rarely a good proposition. If you are that desperate to get married that early, date someone older.
3. Let a man be a man in the relationship. I don't mean let him walk over you, beat you, disrespect you, etc. but ladies attract gentlemen. If you love someone, you help them and plan together, don't harangue him all the time for supposed shortfalls, especially if you make more than him. Your professional accomplishments don't give you ground for a superiority complex.
4. Our society isn't equal and a lot of women tend to try to hop dikks until right up to their sell by date. Men can do that since we don't have the societal and biological issues as we go into our 30s. Not fair, but the way it is.
We have professional BW friends wanting to just get dikked down until their clock starts ticking and then they have to filter the men to find good ones, get in a relationship, make it serious, etc. One of the reasons my wife and I won is we stopped playing the game when we know we had a good thing.
5. Over-prioritizing career. Nothing wrong with doing good at work but that company could cut you loose tomorrow and you have nothing but the money you saved. Never sacrifice your social life or it becomes a habit and then an addiction. These are the people alone bragging about they reply to all 300 emails every day.
6. Wasting prime opportunities to meet someone. Going back to school (which is more typical now) is a prime time to meet someone. A lot of people waste this unfortunately.
7. Be feminine, at least sometimes. Not saying you have to throw on makeup in the morning while he's still sleep but I don't buy the argument that people are too busy to learn how to cook basic meals or dress nice every now and then. Slumming it, letting yourself go, only ordering takeout is not just unhealthy, it isn't appealing to a lot of dudes. Women that appeal to a man's eyes and stomachs stand a better chance. I'm not being judgmental just telling you the deal.
DrBanneker
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This ain't just a BM/USA problem...only difference is in Asia they don't typically have kids outside of marriage. However, their marriage rates are cratering all the same.
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KingJudah2 said:
Married 16 years next June to a beautiful Black woman.
IDK WTF you talm'bout, breh. I've never been divorced.
IDK WTF you talm'bout, breh. I've never been divorced.
This is why we ain't tying knots any more....
Fukked up shiit.
When I first seented her face... her beauty stands tall at a 8.5ish.
Then she spoke and I heard her story...
Negatory 2.
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Fukked up shiit.
When I first seented her face... her beauty stands tall at a 8.5ish.
Then she spoke and I heard her story...
Negatory 2.
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I wanted to ask this.u married?
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RIP Fresh RIP Doe RIP Phat
If marriage is an indication of a well functioning society (which I think it is), China and Russia are going crazy.This ain't just a BM/USA problem...only difference is in Asia they don't typically have kids outside of marriage. However, their marriage rates are cratering all the same.
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Marriage is a beautiful thing if you find the right person. My older brothers lady makes six figures, pays most of the bills, and is a great woman overall.
Sadly, women like this are very rare, and the average bytch these days is getting ran through.
Sadly, women like this are very rare, and the average bytch these days is getting ran through.
I think whoever said that a lot of women love the idea of being married and not the actual person they're marrying was spot on.
A lot of women simply get to a certain age and see their friends/family getting married, feel their clock is ticking, and get hitched the first chance they get, even if they don't really like the dude.
Result: The women eventually get bored with and/or tired of their husbands (who they didn't really love to start with) and divorce them.
I think that happens a lot. No real solution other than to avoid getting married unless you really think she loves you.
A lot of women simply get to a certain age and see their friends/family getting married, feel their clock is ticking, and get hitched the first chance they get, even if they don't really like the dude.
Result: The women eventually get bored with and/or tired of their husbands (who they didn't really love to start with) and divorce them.
I think that happens a lot. No real solution other than to avoid getting married unless you really think she loves you.
I highly recommend to any breh, young or old to NOT ever get married. You will regret it. I promise you.
Happily married to a black woman Ive known since 11 years old. We went to Uni together and got together 2 years before we graduated. Became true homeowners (made a lot of money off of the crypto boom) by paying off our house in 2017, mid thirties and we are now considering having at least one child. My girl is educated and makes more than I do
We happy. All I can say is you nikkas need to reach higher. The problems you nikkas describing are the same issues friends of mine are going through. nikkas need to stop spending their lives building something positive, then marrying DOWN. You marry up or across, period. bytches figured this out centuries ago and nikkas is still slow to catch up.... Worried about a bytch taking your shyt because you marrying bytches that dont have shyt of their own.
Let a pretty face on insta trick you into marrying a bytch with a $200 net worth, lose everything in a divorce because the bytch is annoying and stupid, then go dry dikked for the rest of your life screaming MGTOW on some quasi-gay/incel shyt brehs.
just because you marry up means nothing, anyone can lose their job or stuff changes. My sister was working a great job before she got married, she got married had 3 young kids and it was no longer feasible for her to work so she stopped so that chick you marry that may check all your boxes of marrying up can easily change. People change as well yeah you can follow any script and do this and do that but still lose in the end.
Your wife could wake up tomorrow and no longer want to be married to you and there is nothing you can do about it. Just like I can be the best employee at work for a decade and still go in tomorrow ad my boss saying sorry we are letting you go. To sit on your high horse like the average man is just getting down on one knee and walking down the aisle with anyone and is an idiot while you are so smart is disgusting.
Just like you can exercise work out eat healthy and still be diagnosed with cancer while the fat slob who never exercises and eats red meat and drinks a can of coke every day is healthy, the same how you can choose right, be with your hs sweetheart who makes more than you but is still submissive and been down since day 1 ad still have them thangs dropped
