Why are single moms the devil again?
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We mentioned already
Our community has too high of a percentage of unwed, single parents. And mainly it's the woman's choice to get with guys that they know aren't shyt for whatever reasons.
I'm not saying it's all, but it's a lot. Making bad decisions and probably never taking responsibility for their actions.
single mothers are not second class citizens..
but most young people like to be irresponsible and impulsive
(very true for me at that age!!)
..whereas being a parent requires responsibility and restricts spontaneity
so it is understandable why young adults are in no rush to take on a caretaker role,
or to partner up with someone operating under those constraints
but to truly understand this "nemesis/demon" situation, we need to consider a few things..
but most young people like to be irresponsible and impulsive
(very true for me at that age!!)
..whereas being a parent requires responsibility and restricts spontaneity
so it is understandable why young adults are in no rush to take on a caretaker role,
or to partner up with someone operating under those constraints
but to truly understand this "nemesis/demon" situation, we need to consider a few things..
men who "have options" are more selective (more stringent criteria)
for instance, i only consider 5-10% of the women my age
and that's not just appearance- but how they meet my NEEDS
meanwhile, men who "struggle" ..
exhibit #1: the "i haven't had sex in over a year" thread..
these men freely admit to considering 50-90% of women
..not exactly discriminating tastes (to be kind)
now when i approach women that appeal to me, i do the best i can do
even if i am only going to date her for 2-3 months, those are still 2-3 months of MY life
and i want that time to be fun, happy, productive, etc
i don't go "all out" for her 24/7, but i give it everything i've got when i approach
and continue when we are together 15-20 hrs/wk
meanwhile, less selective men hedge their efforts
they do more for the top of their scale
then drastically less effort for the low end
..so if/when they "strike out" at the most desirable women
then they half-ass their approach to the "lesser women", so to speak
and get FURIOUS if they are rejected
suddenly they hate single moms- post diatribes at the coli, etc.
pretend to be sociologists concerned with the plight of society,
sprinkle in some pro-black posturing, what have you
but basically "they mad"
..now look at it from the single moms perspective-
the guys approached her in a stank way- why should she say yes??
no one wants to be treated as second best,
even if they have some "baggage" (more responsibility with less spontaneity)
for instance, i only consider 5-10% of the women my age
and that's not just appearance- but how they meet my NEEDS
meanwhile, men who "struggle" ..
exhibit #1: the "i haven't had sex in over a year" thread..
these men freely admit to considering 50-90% of women
..not exactly discriminating tastes (to be kind)
now when i approach women that appeal to me, i do the best i can do
even if i am only going to date her for 2-3 months, those are still 2-3 months of MY life
and i want that time to be fun, happy, productive, etc
i don't go "all out" for her 24/7, but i give it everything i've got when i approach
and continue when we are together 15-20 hrs/wk
meanwhile, less selective men hedge their efforts
they do more for the top of their scale
then drastically less effort for the low end
..so if/when they "strike out" at the most desirable women
then they half-ass their approach to the "lesser women", so to speak
and get FURIOUS if they are rejected
suddenly they hate single moms- post diatribes at the coli, etc.
pretend to be sociologists concerned with the plight of society,
sprinkle in some pro-black posturing, what have you
but basically "they mad"
..now look at it from the single moms perspective-
the guys approached her in a stank way- why should she say yes??
no one wants to be treated as second best,
even if they have some "baggage" (more responsibility with less spontaneity)
ezrathegreat
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Another thread by a black male feminist 
, you guys can cater your life choices to women as much as like but you have to realize that they're are patriarchal black men who never will.
, you guys can cater your life choices to women as much as like but you have to realize that they're are patriarchal black men who never will.What's the bigger offense? Choosing a partner who isn't worth a damn or creating a life and not supporting it?
Neil Tyson
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They approach the most
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Neil Tyson
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Yeah I'm not trying to get taken advantage of by no brehettes. fukk a ciara
They're not. Thots gonna thot child or not.
It's irresponsibility in 90% of the cases. The teenage mom has no skills and nothing to teach the child. They run around racking up a few more babies while their mom and those of us who pay taxes takes care of the kids.
Kids grow up lost knowing they are "mistakes". If they are poor then lack of guidance can lead to gangs, drugs, other bs.
It's why you have a whole population of drill "rappers" gunning each other down like it's a crazy game.
OP are you tryna play coy? You don't see this with your own eyeballs wherever you live?
The healthiest way to raise a child is with both parents paying them mad attention and guiding them to healthy lifestyles. Not saying a single parent can't raise a healthy kid. Just like it's possible to get to the next town on a bike. But a car works better.
Kids grow up lost knowing they are "mistakes". If they are poor then lack of guidance can lead to gangs, drugs, other bs.
It's why you have a whole population of drill "rappers" gunning each other down like it's a crazy game.
OP are you tryna play coy? You don't see this with your own eyeballs wherever you live?
The healthiest way to raise a child is with both parents paying them mad attention and guiding them to healthy lifestyles. Not saying a single parent can't raise a healthy kid. Just like it's possible to get to the next town on a bike. But a car works better.
It is a mystery
Tory Lanez Stan
How am I a feminist?Another thread by a black male feminist
because a one parent household isn't a stable and good environment for children. The children then go on to repeat the same mistakes the mother makes and the cycle is perpetuated.
truth.
this is why we should be expecting more from both our daughters and our sons.
