I was raised by two married parents, who conceived me after their wedding, so I have no stake in this.
I'm wondering about the bitterness toward them too.
I'm wondering about the bitterness toward them too.
Why are single moms the devil again?
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i agree but that still puts the onus completely on the woman, who then in turn is shamed for not walking away from the direct result of both of their actions.
i actually would suggest that women abstaining from sex is the best option.
[probably not the most realistic] but i completely believe it would be the most effective
birth control isnt 100% effective and men lie. as many self proclaimed "good guys" that we have on here, theres no shortage of "thats that bytches problem" "not my fault if her bc failed"
"she just needs to take care of it/ abort it" "she can make me pay child support but she cant make me be a father/ be involved" "im just tryna fukk, i will tell whatever lie i have to "
sex is great and wonderful, raw sex is great and wonderful. theres potential consequences for both.
and as much gnashing of teeth and wrending of garments that would happen if women stopped having premarital sex , men would get over it or get married.
or there would still always be prostitution and they could pay for having no responsibility at all.
Sistren. I think we agree. The situation in "traditional" America was just that. Young people dabbled around in sex. If you got away with it, fine. Go on to whatever path. If you got caught up.. got preggo: immediate wedding. Shotgun wedding. You are gonna HAVE to step up.
So. With us. I would like to see a scenario where men were choosy cause they had to work HARD to bed their crush. Or of they went with the easy lay, they would be CAREFUL.. cause they would be stuck with the floozy if things went wrong.
I don't know how to make that work.
Women keeping their knees crossed is the key. Some hate when we assign attributes/duties based on demographics, but here I will say men being expected to have self control around puzzy is like dogs being expected to have self control around bacon.
One last gender role thing: we expect men to fight spiders and Bats (like if a bat was in your basement. You def gonna call yo brother/lover/dad. He don't like bats anymore than you, but he'd sigh and grab a broom and a bedsheet and trot down there) and whatever manly stuff, females please do this womanly thing. Hold it in til it's right.
Scott Larock
Its hard leaving thecoli but I gotta find a way...
Well, I'll give my take as a man with no daddy with regrets.
1. Usually men are gonna seek some level of masculinity, it's going to happen it'd just a matter of when. When you see two dykes someone plays the man role, usually Imo thugs killing nikkas is more a result of lack of masculine which leads to a lack of insecurity than anything else. Even if ya daddy wasn't around you're gonna seek masculinity elsewhere whether ya boys at the strip club fukking up your liver doing ignorant nikka shyt or holding guns in instagram men are gonna gravitate towards manly shyt.
2. Alot of these single mom's csn barely take care of themselves yet alone take care of kids. Imagine having a mom living off nothing raising kids? The truth is I don't think anyone is lazy but a nikka gotta be guided into some shyt or extra motivated to get it when you got no daddy you gotta be more motivated to get shyt cuz your momma probably can't push you like thst.
3. Emotional attachment, Lotta mom's are too soft on they boys, you gotta lay down the law and throw a bum nikka on his ass. Lots of mom's can't do thst and especially since so many don't have a man who you think they see they're boys as? Alot. Of these mom's keep their sons treat them like kids and make them run errands that's the closest thing they'll get to a man.
It gets real deep you won't understand.
Also family usually looks at single mothers did detent than married women.
Didn't you catch Zika virus from a half chimp cac woman?
Sauanaffe Tustunnagee
Banned
I pity black single mothers but hold no ill will against themthe fakkits whom got problems with single moms are most likely cacs upset/threatened by them breading more black people or lame nikkas bitter cause single moms wouldn't give them play when they were childless in highschool
It is a mystery
Tory Lanez Stan
They are on to meLet me guess ... you found a single mom that you want to take seriously ...and you can't remember all the warnings that were posted about them ...or naw ...
The Coli is the one place with all the black men over 6 feet with 6 packs with 6 dimes, making over 100K, and had parents that were married despite that percentage only being 27%
if we being honest it's a 2 way street
Marc Spector
the 4'11 Cuban
Let me preface this by saying that when it comes to picking a female partner, im extremely picky almost to the point of elitism and you probably could accuse me of being classist.
ITs my cross to bear, and im working on it.
But whatever, anyway.....
Personally I think single motherhood is a huge fukkin mistake thats telling of how a woman thinks (and not in a good way).
My own frustration stems from the fact that im picky as it is, have my own baggage, but feel that the dating pool gets even MORE unnecessarily thinned out due to all of the women who are single moms (which once again, is a massively stupid decision due to the all of the financial repercussions).
Im 28 right? But i dont believe in being old and settled down at a certain age. I feel that whats single moms are looking for in a partner. Even if they say they're not, thats what they ARE looking for unless they give 0 fukks about their kid(s) (which is even more deplorable).
So basically, im petty.
ITs my cross to bear, and im working on it.
But whatever, anyway.....
Personally I think single motherhood is a huge fukkin mistake thats telling of how a woman thinks (and not in a good way).
My own frustration stems from the fact that im picky as it is, have my own baggage, but feel that the dating pool gets even MORE unnecessarily thinned out due to all of the women who are single moms (which once again, is a massively stupid decision due to the all of the financial repercussions).
Im 28 right? But i dont believe in being old and settled down at a certain age. I feel that whats single moms are looking for in a partner. Even if they say they're not, thats what they ARE looking for unless they give 0 fukks about their kid(s) (which is even more deplorable).
So basically, im petty.
Kenyan West
lazy fba philly nikka,
Someone above said single motherhood will rapidly decrease when we men get it together. I disagree. The onus is on the woman to stop spreading their legs for aint shyt nikkas. Women, obviously, have the pussc, but more importantly, the black community is matriarchal. If tomorrow, all black women said that they wanted a stephen curry, nikkas would be at H&M and quoting bible scriptures overnight. Women literally have that power.
It takes two to make a child, yes, but ultimately having a child is on the woman in this age of zillions of contraceptives and options like abortion. Blaming aint shyt nikkas primarily aint always the move.
However, I'll never say fukk single moms as a whole, I evaluate them on an individual case basis, because granted their situation is not always their fault -- failed relationship, infidelity, nigs go to jail, nigs die etc. Single mothers only become "the devil" in my eyes when they have multiple children with ain't shyt nikkas and absolutely refuse to be accountable for their actions, or consciously keep brothas out of their children's lives on some revenge shyt. They then top that off with using shaming tactics on other well to do brothas who call them out on their bullshyt. Nah, no sympathy.
A lot of brothas give em a pass (russell will), but understandably nigs with standards absolutely refuse to deal with them(regardless of why you're a single mom) because it's straight up baggage.
Calling single moms "devils" is a little harsh, but they should know early that they wont be putting forth a desirable proposition to a good brother who doesn't wants to continue another nikkas saved game. Making that man feel demonized is my issue, but that's mostly because i'm 30 with no kids and get that all the time.
And of course, we can't leave out white supremacy.
It takes two to make a child, yes, but ultimately having a child is on the woman in this age of zillions of contraceptives and options like abortion. Blaming aint shyt nikkas primarily aint always the move.
However, I'll never say fukk single moms as a whole, I evaluate them on an individual case basis, because granted their situation is not always their fault -- failed relationship, infidelity, nigs go to jail, nigs die etc. Single mothers only become "the devil" in my eyes when they have multiple children with ain't shyt nikkas and absolutely refuse to be accountable for their actions, or consciously keep brothas out of their children's lives on some revenge shyt. They then top that off with using shaming tactics on other well to do brothas who call them out on their bullshyt. Nah, no sympathy.
A lot of brothas give em a pass (russell will), but understandably nigs with standards absolutely refuse to deal with them(regardless of why you're a single mom) because it's straight up baggage.
Calling single moms "devils" is a little harsh, but they should know early that they wont be putting forth a desirable proposition to a good brother who doesn't wants to continue another nikkas saved game. Making that man feel demonized is my issue, but that's mostly because i'm 30 with no kids and get that all the time.
And of course, we can't leave out white supremacy.
Kenyan West
lazy fba philly nikka,
Dawg, if you have no kids and you got your shyt together you should be picky. Alot of people will tell you that you're being unreasonable because of your age, but fukk that.
This is the road that most difficult for men without kids, but ultimately it's the most rewarding when you stick to it and you find that amazing chick who's without kids and yall can be on some power couple shyt without all of the drama of your peers. Don't be a single mother's consolation prize or captain save a hoe. You're still young. Filter em quick, stay level headed.
TheDarkskinnedDrake
All Star
Cause women are the devil
